I do not like southern women...

[AWD OWNZ U]

As some of you might know I'm from Nevada and let me tell you when I moved down here all I heard about from people was how fantastic the women are. Well fuck that. Ya there are lots of hot women here but that's where the buck stops. For one thing I've never met so many women who are already married by my age (23) in my entire life. I swear if you didn't find a girl when she was 19 and marry her and knock her up you have lost like 50% of the good prospects here.

Then the women that are single all seem to have some sort of inferiority complex. Apparently if you are not married by the time you are in your mid 20s down here you are fastly approaching old maid territory. Which means you must have something wrong with you and you should latch onto any single man with a decent job who smiles at you. I understand you are looking for a relationship but if you are already rambling about wanting to get married and have kids on the second date, it makes you look desperate.

Which brings me to my last point. Whatever happend to women who were happy without a guy and had some sort of plan for their professional life. The amount of women I've gone out with who's goal in life is to be a stay at home mom is unbelievable to me. With a corresponding career path being "support my husband and get a job if he needs me to." Where did all the women go who are intelligent, attractive, professionals who bring more to the table than just affirmations of their man's life? I'm glad I'm moving in two months.

/rant

I feel better.

[PSINXS]

x10

i found a decent person and surpsiingly she is 3 years younger than me. but a good woman is extremely rareand i am tired of the trash i run across. i miss the REAL women of yesteryear. The women like our moms.

[chris13]

well thankfully i guess im one of the few who found a woman with goals and wanting a career and is a whole lot like my mom, but were engaged so yea

[Ran]

The amount of women I've gone out with who's goal in life is to be a stay at home mom is unbelievable to me. With a corresponding career path being "support my husband and get a job if he needs me to."

Does it make me sexist if I like that? Maybe it's some sort of power-complex I have in the back-reaches of my mind.

[4dmin]

As some of you might know I'm from Nevada and let me tell you when I moved down here all I heard about from people was how fantastic the women are. Well fuck that. Ya there are lots of hot women here but that's where the buck stops. For one thing I've never met so many women who are already married by my age (23) in my entire life. I swear if you didn't find a girl when she was 19 and marry her and knock her up you have lost like 50% of the good prospects here.

Then the women that are single all seem to have some sort of inferiority complex. Apparently if you are not married by the time you are in your mid 20s down here you are fastly approaching old maid territory. Which means you must have something wrong with you and you should latch onto any single man with a decent job who smiles at you. I understand you are looking for a relationship but if you are already rambling about wanting to get married and have kids on the second date, it makes you look desperate.

Which brings me to my last point. Whatever happend to women who were happy without a guy and had some sort of plan for their professional life. The amount of women I've gone out with who's goal in life is to be a stay at home mom is unbelievable to me. With a corresponding career path being "support my husband and get a job if he needs me to." Where did all the women go who are intelligent, attractive, professionals who bring more to the table than just affirmations of their man's life? I'm glad I'm moving in two months.

/rant

I feel better.

the reason why you find so many married is b/c they are smart enough to know they don't want to be stuck dealing w/ all of the idiots left after they have finished college... i know quite a few guys/gals in thier late 20's who aren't married and their idea of relationships are quite warped. its much easier to meet them early and train them right. seriously once you start to enter the 30+ state you are going to have to deal w/ alot of people w/ baggage (ie. divorce, kids, etc)

trust me there isn't a day that goes by that i'm not happy i'm married... there is a ton of pussy in the world but only 1 i would like to be w/ 24/7

[JennB]

I'm 29, not married, educated, great job, happy with myself, have no problem with not being married and having kids yet.... it will happen when the time is right.

We're out there, just not that easy to find.

[4dmin]

I'm 29, not married, educated, great job, happy with myself, have no problem with not being married and having kids yet.... it will happen when the time is right.

We're out there, just not that easy to find.

i did highlight the reason that makes your situation ok ; are you from the south?

[JennB]

Yep. Grew up in SC (mostly) and a little in NC. Attended the University of South Carolina and then moved around a little and landed in Atlanta about a year ago.

[con]

you guys are just fishing the wrong fish bowl....gotta venture out into the open seas....

[4dmin]

Yep. Grew up in SC (mostly) and a little in NC. Attended the University of South Carolina and then moved around a little and landed in Atlanta about a year ago.

oh no another GRITS ...



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i know if i was single i would be dating women MILFS in their 40's... girls close to my age are either too immature or got some sort of baggage...

[AWD OWNZ U]

The women like our moms.

As terrible as it sounds word man.

Does it make me sexist if I like that? Maybe it's some sort of power-complex I have in the back-reaches of my mind.

Not at all. Different people want different things cleary. That's why I said *I* don't like southern women not southern women all suck or something.

the reason why you find so many married is b/c they are smart enough to know they don't want to be stuck dealing w/ all of the idiots left after they have finished college... i know quite a few guys/gals in thier late 20's who aren't married and their idea of relationships are quite warped. its much easier to meet them early and train them right. seriously once you start to enter the 30+ state you are going to have to deal w/ alot of people w/ baggage (ie. divorce, kids, etc)

trust me there isn't a day that goes by that i'm not happy i'm married... there is a ton of pussy in the world but only 1 i would like to be w/ 24/7

Ya actually I realized last weekend that almost all my guy friends who are single are probably that way for a reason. Except for me of course. lol It's gotta be tough for the single women too. No reason to jump into getting married though.

I'm 29, not married, educated, great job, happy with myself, have no problem with not being married and having kids yet.... it will happen when the time is right.

We're out there, just not that easy to find.

Are you single? Ya I didn't think so.

[JennB]

Are you single? Ya I didn't think so.

No, I'm not.... but I was.

I'm very happily taken by someone who I don't think has any intention to let me go any time soon.

But before that, I was single and before my last relationship I was single for over a year. One guy who I had interest in during that time told me that I was intimidating. Yeah, thanks buddy. Plus, working 70 hours a week in public accounting meant I was out and able to meet new people oooooh... never? A lot of us girls who have chosen to get our own lives to where we want before starting a family are working our asses off and hiding in our offices

[4dmin]

No, I'm not.... but I was.

I'm very happily taken by someone who I don't think has any intention to let me go any time soon.

But before that, I was single and before my last relationship I was single for over a year. One guy who I had interest in during that time told me that I was intimidating. Yeah, thanks buddy. Plus, working 70 hours a week in public accounting meant I was out and able to meet new people oooooh... never? A lot of us girls who have chosen to get our own lives to where we want before starting a family are working our asses off and hiding in our offices

nothing wrong w/ a working woman that is the perfect woman unless you are looking for a throphy wife

[AWD OWNZ U]

No, I'm not.... but I was.

I'm very happily taken by someone who I don't think has any intention to let me go any time soon.

But before that, I was single and before my last relationship I was single for over a year. One guy who I had interest in during that time told me that I was intimidating. Yeah, thanks buddy. Plus, working 70 hours a week in public accounting meant I was out and able to meet new people oooooh... never? A lot of us girls who have chosen to get our own lives to where we want before starting a family are working our asses off and hiding in our offices

FINE the ONE woman who posts is the counter example. I stand by my original rant for 90% of the women here though. I can only imagine how much worse it is when you leave Atlanta. Perhaps I should just wander through downtown around lunch time and ask all the girls if they are single.

[devinwebb907]

i wouldnt necessarily say southern women because...well i am stuck here for school for the next while in my life, but i agree with alot of what you're saying. i made this conclusion in deep thought while on a trip yesterday. this weekend i realized just how.....fake? i guess is a good word that most of the girls i know actually are.

[JennB]

Though I have lived outside of the south for a short time and I would say the girls there sucked as well. Boring and fat

Sometimes you just have to look in odd places to find women that are more to your liking. Girls with great jobs and brains are not usually going to be at a club on a Wednesday night for example. We hide.

[Ran]

This thread makes me raise a question, because when I look around, all I see are woman who work all the time and are putting their careers up before anything. Every woman I see is working hard and long, to stabilize themselves so that they can be more...independant I suppose. I haven't seen many woman who are actually content with being a housewife or something similar. Not that I have anything wrong with that. If you're a hard working female that's making her place in the world with hard work and determination, then best of luck.

It's just not what I personally am looking for.

I, in contrast to AWD OWNZ U, would love to have a wife who is personally satisfied with staying home and supporting me. I have no problems with the thoughts that a husband goes to work to support his family while the wife takes care of the children and maintains the home.

I mean this in the nicest, non-sexist way possible. I'm not saying that woman are unequal or any bullsh*t like that, because I've been accused of that in the past. So if that's what you're getting out of it, then get off your high-horse.

I can't really say it's the way I've been raised because both of my parents work and support me. Maybe, it's that which warps my view because I've seen my mother hurt, tired, stressed, and sick due to work so she could help support me and my father. I do not wish this upon my future wife. I want to carry the burden of working and providing so that she doesn't have to. Raising children and maintaining a home is more than enough work for anybody IMO.

Like I said, maybe it's just the way my mind works. I guess I still see things in a gender-role point of view. I don't mean it to be degrading or sexist, it's just how I see things.

Sh*t...I think I'll put this in my blog.

[devinwebb907]

and another thing i gathered is MOST of the girls who act like they're supposed to, treat you right and have a decent amount of intelligence do not enjoy alot of the same things that most of us do. i like going out and having a great time...alot, yet at the same time i am rather smart, am doing well in college, work hard, have a bit of money and know how to treat a girl right. it's hard to find a girl with alot of those characteristics. either they have them all and are boring or like to have fun and wind up being pieces of shit.

basically i want to have my cake and eat it too, instead of i have been eating the wrong types of cake instead of waiting for the right one to come along.

[4dmin]

I, in contrast to AWD OWNZ U, would love to have a wife who is personally satisfied with staying home and supporting me. I have no problems with the thoughts that a husband goes to work to support his family while the wife takes care of the children and maintains the home.

what is the point of having a wife at home if you don't have kids? i don't know i think its pointless for either to stay at home; shit my wife will make enough so i don't have to work but why sit on your ass when 2 people can work and provide even more to the relationship.

i think ones outake on relationships has alot to do w/ their upbringing: parents, education, etc... i know studies have shown people whose parents are together are more likely to have a stronger relationship w/ thier spouse.

[JennB]

I actually know two girls who both say they really just want to be a wife and mother, it was odd first hearing it from them becuase you don't get that much these days. Sorry, neither of them live here... both are educated, single and cute though. Both work full time and support themselves now but hope to give their "jobs" up to make their career their family.

I don't at all see the problem with staying home to care for a family if that is truly what you want. I believe that going after what you want to do with your life is the most important thing, even if it's not what some others may want.

For me personally, I know I've cut down the work in the last year... it's one of the reasons I took the job that moved me to Atlanta. No more overtime, ever, no more weekends, ever... and I plan to always work that way from now on. It's time for life and time for me to enjoy all the benefits of working my ass off since college.

[4dmin]

I actually know two girls who both say they really just want to be a wife and mother, it was odd first hearing it from them becuase you don't get that much these days. Sorry, neither of them live here... both are educated, single and cute though. Both work full time and support themselves now but hope to give their "jobs" up to make their career their family.

I don't at all see the problem with staying home to care for a family if that is truly what you want. I believe that going after what you want to do with your life is the most important thing, even if it's not what some others may want.

For me personally, I know I've cut down the work in the last year... it's one of the reasons I took the job that moved me to Atlanta. No more overtime, ever, no more weekends, ever... and I plan to always work that way from now on. It's time for life and time for me to enjoy all the benefits of working my ass off since college.

i can't imagine just wanting to give up the education you worked on just to have babies and sit on your ass... its crazy b/c we know a few girls who have finished their Phd and who are currently finishing it who will never use it b/c they just want to be stay at home MOMMY... that shit just baffles me.

but your totally right enjoy the rewards your hardwork in college + work has now provided you. i know my wife and i are holding off kids for that reason... neither of use want to deal w/ rug rats w/o enjoying time together first.

[R.Kelly]

its all good

[JennB]

Yeah, it doesn't make sense to me but that doesn't matter... it's not my life. If they really want to be stay at home moms, then that is completely fine with me.

However, I do hope that when I decide to have kids, I won't have to work a full 40 hours a week at least while they are very small. I was in daycare for a while as a child and I don't think it's the best way to raise a child IF you have a choice. But I'll see, life is all about doing what works and makes you happy in your situation... it's something that can rarely be planned.

I do totally agree on spending time with your spouse before kids though. You can't put them back once you've had them... so enjoy each other for a while first.

[Ran]

what is the point of having a wife at home if you don't have kids? i don't know i think its pointless for either to stay at home; shit my wife will make enough so i don't have to work but why sit on your ass when 2 people can work and provide even more to the relationship.

Yea, but I seriously want kids. Also, I've no doubts that my future wife would be able to go out and have a good paying job. I simply wouldn't want her to. Let me work and provide for the family. Let her stay home and take care of the family, keep everything nice, and be there to warmly welcome the kids and me home.

i think ones outake on relationships has alot to do w/ their upbringing: parents, education, etc... i know studies have shown people whose parents are together are more likely to have a stronger relationship w/ thier spouse.

I think it plays the most significant role in it actually.

My parents have both always worked to provide for our family. It was rare to see the entirely family together except for maybe an hour before bed at night and on the weekends. I can't stand that. The family is too seperated in my opinion. Even now, I could go home and see my father bring himself in from work to an empty house. Nobody there to welcome him home. No "Hi dear, how was your day?" or "Welcome home". Dinner was prepared in the early morning before mom went to work so now it has to be microwaved. It doesn't have that...warmth or love I guess, that a fresh hot meal would give you. After he eats, he watches TV or reads a book for hours until I come home late at night and mom shortly after. Mom is tired from work so she eats and goes to sleep while dad seems to be waiting for her, just to be waiting for her. He then goes to sleep, often without saying more than a few words to each other. I've seen it time and time again and I can't f*cking stand it. Maybe t's just my family tho...

Sorry about the personal rant. I think I'm just trying to justify myself now.

[AWD OWNZ U]

This thread makes me raise a question, because when I look around, all I see are woman who work all the time and are putting their careers up before anything. Every woman I see is working hard and long, to stabilize themselves so that they can be more...independant I suppose. I haven't seen many woman who are actually content with being a housewife or something similar.

Where are you lookng? I see plenty of girls working but usually menial jobs or slacking through a nothing degree in a crappy college waiting for the right man to come along and make their life complete. I've met a lot of girls who seem like they are motivated independent women, but once they decide I'm "acceptable" the "well I really just want to be married and have a family" comes. Maybe they are lying and they think it's what I want to hear? I have no idea. I'm shocked you haven't met more like that though, you wanna switch dating pools?

and another thing i gathered is MOST of the girls who act like they're supposed to, treat you right and have a decent amount of intelligence do not enjoy alot of the same things that most of us do. i like going out and having a great time...alot, yet at the same time i am rather smart, am doing well in college, work hard, have a bit of money and know how to treat a girl right. it's hard to find a girl with alot of those characteristics. either they have them all and are boring or like to have fun and wind up being pieces of shit.

basically i want to have my cake and eat it too, instead of i have been eating the wrong types of cake instead of waiting for the right one to come along.

I'm right there with you man. Same shit happens to me. Maybe I just want to much? But I've busted my ass to put myself where I am today and I don't really feel the need to settle.

I actually know two girls who both say they really just want to be a wife and mother, it was odd first hearing it from them becuase you don't get that much these days. Sorry, neither of them live here... both are educated, single and cute though. Both work full time and support themselves now but hope to give their "jobs" up to make their career their family.

Where do they live? Ya there are plenty of boring fat people else where. I dunno where else you've lived, but I find that women out west tend to be a lot less "old fashion" and more independent.

I don't at all see the problem with staying home to care for a family if that is truly what you want. I believe that going after what you want to do with your life is the most important thing, even if it's not what some others may want.

I guess it's not really the ends that bothers me but the means. If you want to end up with a well educated successful man who will treat you well, guess what we usually look for a woman who is the same. If you work at McDonald's and just hope that eventually you will meet a good man who will complete your life you are just setting yourself up for failure.

[4dmin]

Yeah, it doesn't make sense to me but that doesn't matter... it's not my life. If they really want to be stay at home moms, then that is completely fine with me.

However, I do hope that when I decide to have kids, I won't have to work a full 40 hours a week at least while they are very small. I was in daycare for a while as a child and I don't think it's the best way to raise a child IF you have a choice. But I'll see, life is all about doing what works and makes you happy in your situation... it's something that can rarely be planned.

I do totally agree on spending time with your spouse before kids though. You can't put them back once you've had them... so enjoy each other for a while first.

yes traditional daycare sucks for kids... seriously you have people making 8-12$ a hour watching your kid all day... best is in home care; my mom did that for many years and if you can find a good home to take them too they get alot of 1/1 time and they can only keep a few children. (we have a neighbor who does this)

but ya definately got to enjoy the time while you have it... its a pet peeve of mine to enjoy life before being completely tied down. i hate when i hear people try to tell me how they are going to do all of the shit once they are old and the kids are grown... i'm like WHAT IF.. you don't get to that point?

[JennB]

The two girls I know that want to be just moms live in Minnesota and Maryland. I used to live in the midwest... eeek!

All I'm saying is that some people's choices and wants may not make any sense to me... but that's fine cause it's not my life.

I agree that people usually look for those that are like them, for the most part. Most smart men aren't going to end up with some witless girl with no ambition.


And I'm the product of being raised by just my mom. My parents were seperated my entire childhood. But I think my mother did a fabulous job of giving me just as much or more than most two parent homes. I do want to have a happy family life of my own though and not end up divorced like my parents.

[ShooterMcGavin]

great thread and great points by just about everyone, reps to all i can

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

That's okay... we don't like you either.

[AWD OWNZ U]

but ya definately got to enjoy the time while you have it... its a pet peeve of mine to enjoy life before being completely tied down. i hate when i hear people try to tell me how they are going to do all of the shit once they are old and the kids are grown... i'm like WHAT IF.. you don't get to that point?

Hell yes. I couldn't imagine having kids at my age. Let alone the people who do it in their teens. It's gotta be tough. I intend to enjoy myself while I'm young and leave the settling down until later. I certainly wouldn't mind be married as long as my wife has the same passion for life as I do. There is no reason a marriage has to mean becoming a stereotypical picket fence family to me. You and your wife sound like you have the right attitude man.

The two girls I know that want to be just moms live in Minnesota and Maryland. I used to live in the midwest... eeek!

Well that explains it, haha. I did my bachelors at Michigan. You see a lot of the same stuff, except the women are less hot. lol At least at a prominent school like Michigan you will get a reasonable pool of motivated women. It's hard just to find a girl at all at GA Tech.

All I'm saying is that some people's choices and wants may not make any sense to me... but that's fine cause it's not my life.

I agree that people usually look for those that are like them, for the most part. Most smart men aren't going to end up with some witless girl with no ambition.

It wasn't really meant to be a condemnation of the attitude. If that is what is going to make you happy in life, then by all means. I just wonder sometimes if they are truely going to be happy when it happens, or how they will cope if it doesn't. It's rough to have your life goal be something that is largely dependent on other people. I dunno if I could give up that much control over my happiness. I think it's a cultural difference. It just sucks for me. lol

That's okay... we don't like you either.

I was wondering who would be the first to say it. I figured it would be one of the girls I've gone out with not one of the ones I've never met! haha

[JustinSane110™]

Perhaps I should just wander through downtown around lunch time and ask all the girls if they are single.

I'm down, let's do it.

[DnBmama05]

I like this thread but I definitely think there is a big difference between northern women and southern women... mainly by the way we are raised. We're just as different as our accents. Now, I'm your example 100% I'm 19, been married almost 2 years, and I have a 17 month old kid. I wouldn't change anything that happened... just the timing I never aspired to be a young mom nor to get married at a young age. I was going to go off to college and be an 'independent woman' so I didn't have to rely on a man to support me and I definitely didn't see kids anytime soon - but things happen and it was definitely no accident just not exactly planned. I don't feel like anything that has happened to me has made me any less of a person - just a stronger person... and I care more about everything in my life than I have before. I'm definitely not a stay-at-home mom because that's just not for me... I love my child more than anything, but I like to work and feel like I'm helping to support my family financially. A lot of women like to get married and start their families fairly young so they can be done with it and enjoy life later on my mom was almost 40 when she had me and had a very stable career so I can't say I wasn't raised right since I had my mom to look up to. I'm sorry you've ran across the girls you have down here, awd. maybe you'll have more luck back up north

[TeeJay]

I LOVE MY SOUTHUN WOMEN, WHERE YALL AT!!! STAND UP!!!

[DnBmama05]

yes traditional daycare sucks for kids... seriously you have people making 8-12$ a hour watching your kid all day... best is in home care; my mom did that for many years and if you can find a good home to take them too they get alot of 1/1 time and they can only keep a few children. (we have a neighbor who does this)

but ya definately got to enjoy the time while you have it... its a pet peeve of mine to enjoy life before being completely tied down. i hate when i hear people try to tell me how they are going to do all of the shit once they are old and the kids are grown... i'm like WHAT IF.. you don't get to that point?

I COMPLETELY agree with you on the daycare... the lady that watches my child is like a grandmother... and she does all of the potty training, weening em off a bottle and onto a sippy cup etc. for 18 bucks a day and doesn't charge for the days they're not there. I guess I just got really lucky that I found her. As far as enjoying life before getting 'tied down' I think that's a horrible way to put it. Who is tying who down? I don't go out every weekend because that's just not what I care to do and neither does my husband, but we let eachother go and do the things that we enjoyed pre-baby and marriage. I have never felt 'tied-down'... if i wanna go out with my girls I go out with my girls... if he wants to go out sometime he can go out. Gotta give eachother time or it just won't work. BUT IF you do make it to the point after the kids are grown I guess you can just do the stuff old people like to do I'll be in my late 30's after my child is grown if I don't have anymore so I think that's plenty of time to enjoy life after he is grown. I guess it's all in the way you look at it.

[Black R]

we all love southern pussy. it's just all the bs that comes with it that makes them difficult.....

the bottom line is education. without education, you have an 8th grade dropout single mom, cause she was too dumb to hold out for anything better or make something of her life b/c mom did the same damn fuckin thing...

but you have to admit that ATL has a lot of VARIETY. I don't know where the OP is looking, but if you venture inside the perimeter, you are more likely to find something along the lines of what you are looking for.....

[AWD OWNZ U]

I'm down, let's do it.

Ha, you are down for anything man. We should do it though, could be good for some laughs.

I like this thread but I definitely think there is a big difference between northern women and southern women... mainly by the way we are raised. We're just as different as our accents. Now, I'm your example 100% I'm 19, been married almost 2 years, and I have a 17 month old kid. I wouldn't change anything that happened... just the timing I never aspired to be a young mom nor to get married at a young age. I was going to go off to college and be an 'independent woman' so I didn't have to rely on a man to support me and I definitely didn't see kids anytime soon - but things happen and it was definitely no accident just not exactly planned. I don't feel like anything that has happened to me has made me any less of a person - just a stronger person... and I care more about everything in my life than I have before. I'm definitely not a stay-at-home mom because that's just not for me... I love my child more than anything, but I like to work and feel like I'm helping to support my family financially. A lot of women like to get married and start their families fairly young so they can be done with it and enjoy life later on my mom was almost 40 when she had me and had a very stable career so I can't say I wasn't raised right since I had my mom to look up to. I'm sorry you've ran across the girls you have down here, awd. maybe you'll have more luck back up north

Wow, well I'm glad things are working out for you. Like I said there are good women down here, they just all get snatched up when they are young like you did. You can never plan your life out all the way, unexpected things will always happen. All we can really do is make the best of it. Sounds like you are doing just that. You certaintly seem to have a good head on your shoulders, I'm sure you're a great parent. Thanks for the sentiment. I'm probably moving out to Arizona to take a job designing missile systems, so it's not really north. haha If I end up there I'll be close to Arizona State University, so smart and fine women will be around.

but you have to admit that ATL has a lot of VARIETY. I don't know where the OP is looking, but if you venture inside the perimeter, you are more likely to find something along the lines of what you are looking for.....

I live inside the perimeter man.

[CSquared]

Although i don't agree 100% with the previous topic matter, I also find southern women completely unattractive. I moved here from New York about 2 years ago threw my hands up in the air. I don't know anybody back home who has been married before the age of 25, nevermind 18-24. Then i come here and it seems like every young, good looking, and somewhat mentally stable chick i meet is married, divorced, or has a kid. I refuse to get married or have kids until i am finished with school, which probably won't be until I'm 26-27.

Another thing i have found is that the ethnic people are pretty similar between the north and south. My ex relationships are more a melting pot than the united states. Seriously, I have yet to date a white chick or even a chick born and raised in Georgia.

Even so, all the chicks i've dated or explored the possibilities of a relationship with, are looking for me to pay their way... I'm sorry... but if you want social equality, we are also going to contribute equally to our relationship financially, emotionally, and so on. There's no double standard where you can ask for certain aspects while avoiding others.

At this point i have honestly stopped even looking for a chick down here. I figure that until i get finished with school, the added stress just isn't worth it.

[BluesClues]

I am 21 in school for psychology and have a full time boyfriend. The chances of me being married before I am 23, well I don't know. It could happen and then again it might not. I want to own my own company, but at the same if I had it where I could stay at home if I have kids, I would. I would want to be close with my kids and raise them properly

[kittychick]

For me personally, I know I've cut down the work in the last year... it's one of the reasons I took the job that moved me to Atlanta. No more overtime, ever, no more weekends, ever... and I plan to always work that way from now on. It's time for life and time for me to enjoy all the benefits of working my ass off since college.

This totally bothers me, why is overtime expected- without anything in return!
My ex-boss expected me to put in 'the extra effort.'
I was already working 45+hrs/week plus once a week going to a really early morning meeting and then going to something after hours 2-3x a month. And if anything was missing or needed to be redone I was expected to take calls or do work on weekends.


On a personal note, I have no plans on getting married until after grad school. Its already expensive to go to grad school, but getting financial aid with two person income- LOL yeah right!!

And on not liking southern girls- I grew up in VA and have lived in Ga for about 8 years now.

[JennB]

Luckily, I was always paid for my overtime. In public accounting, it depends on the firm and your job in the firm... you either get 1.5 times pay or banked time to be used to day days off in times other than tax season. I never worked overtime without pay... it was totally worth it to get me where I am today. Besides, I was living in the midwest for two years... it's so damn cold there during tax season, I'd rather work than sit at home and do nothing.




All I know is I'm happy where I am. Happy with my place in life, not being married or a mom at 29 cause it's just not what I wanted. I have a fabulous bf, a great job and home and life is very good. I hope that everyone else finds happiness whether it's at home, at work, with a family or without.