I do not like southern women...

[DnBmama05]

yes traditional daycare sucks for kids... seriously you have people making 8-12$ a hour watching your kid all day... best is in home care; my mom did that for many years and if you can find a good home to take them too they get alot of 1/1 time and they can only keep a few children. (we have a neighbor who does this)

but ya definately got to enjoy the time while you have it... its a pet peeve of mine to enjoy life before being completely tied down. i hate when i hear people try to tell me how they are going to do all of the shit once they are old and the kids are grown... i'm like WHAT IF.. you don't get to that point?

I COMPLETELY agree with you on the daycare... the lady that watches my child is like a grandmother... and she does all of the potty training, weening em off a bottle and onto a sippy cup etc. for 18 bucks a day and doesn't charge for the days they're not there. I guess I just got really lucky that I found her. As far as enjoying life before getting 'tied down' I think that's a horrible way to put it. Who is tying who down? I don't go out every weekend because that's just not what I care to do and neither does my husband, but we let eachother go and do the things that we enjoyed pre-baby and marriage. I have never felt 'tied-down'... if i wanna go out with my girls I go out with my girls... if he wants to go out sometime he can go out. Gotta give eachother time or it just won't work. BUT IF you do make it to the point after the kids are grown I guess you can just do the stuff old people like to do I'll be in my late 30's after my child is grown if I don't have anymore so I think that's plenty of time to enjoy life after he is grown. I guess it's all in the way you look at it.

[4dmin]

I COMPLETELY agree with you on the daycare... the lady that watches my child is like a grandmother... and she does all of the potty training, weening em off a bottle and onto a sippy cup etc. for 18 bucks a day and doesn't charge for the days they're not there. I guess I just got really lucky that I found her. As far as enjoying life before getting 'tied down' I think that's a horrible way to put it. Who is tying who down? I don't go out every weekend because that's just not what I care to do and neither does my husband, but we let eachother go and do the things that we enjoyed pre-baby and marriage. I have never felt 'tied-down'... if i wanna go out with my girls I go out with my girls... if he wants to go out sometime he can go out. Gotta give eachother time or it just won't work. BUT IF you do make it to the point after the kids are grown I guess you can just do the stuff old people like to do I'll be in my late 30's after my child is grown if I don't have anymore so I think that's plenty of time to enjoy life after he is grown. I guess it's all in the way you look at it.

the point of what i said is b/c most people say "i will have tons of time when they are grown"... when you make a comment like that you yourself are saying you are tied down. kids do tie you down thats why i don't have any.

alot of people say you can't plan everything; but you can certainly try to. before we have kids i want us to enjoy our time together; there is actually a new trend w/ people having kids later b/c careers are more important now then ever. we don't live in a society where most mom's stay at home w/ the kids. most familys require 2 incomes. furthermore i want to provide my children with every opportunity possible and give them the things my parents couldn't give me when i was younger. beyond all of that when i have kids i want to have kids to revolve my life around them; right now is not the time for that i'm too selfish.

[babygurl]

i'm too selfish.

we already knew that...





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But I do agree with your statement!!!

[4dmin]

we already knew that...





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But I do agree with your statement!!!

well atleast i know it; i hate seeing kids have kids... we have dogs thats works for us right now.

[JennB]

alot of people say you can't plan everything; but you can certainly try to. before we have kids i want us to enjoy our time together; there is actually a new trend w/ people having kids later b/c careers are more important now then ever. we don't live in a society where most mom's stay at home w/ the kids. most familys require 2 incomes. furthermore i want to provide my children with every opportunity possible and give them the things my parents couldn't give me when i was younger. beyond all of that when i have kids i want to have kids to revolve my life around them; right now is not the time for that i'm too selfish.

Good point on the 2 incomes needed. Up north and out west, two incomes are pretty much required to buy a home but not here in the south. I could easily own my own house in GA, and did when I lived in SC, but I'd have to live in the effin HOOD to own property in NYC, LA, San Diego, Boston, etc.