I do not like southern women...

[JennB]

I actually know two girls who both say they really just want to be a wife and mother, it was odd first hearing it from them becuase you don't get that much these days. Sorry, neither of them live here... both are educated, single and cute though. Both work full time and support themselves now but hope to give their "jobs" up to make their career their family.

I don't at all see the problem with staying home to care for a family if that is truly what you want. I believe that going after what you want to do with your life is the most important thing, even if it's not what some others may want.

For me personally, I know I've cut down the work in the last year... it's one of the reasons I took the job that moved me to Atlanta. No more overtime, ever, no more weekends, ever... and I plan to always work that way from now on. It's time for life and time for me to enjoy all the benefits of working my ass off since college.

[4dmin]

I actually know two girls who both say they really just want to be a wife and mother, it was odd first hearing it from them becuase you don't get that much these days. Sorry, neither of them live here... both are educated, single and cute though. Both work full time and support themselves now but hope to give their "jobs" up to make their career their family.

I don't at all see the problem with staying home to care for a family if that is truly what you want. I believe that going after what you want to do with your life is the most important thing, even if it's not what some others may want.

For me personally, I know I've cut down the work in the last year... it's one of the reasons I took the job that moved me to Atlanta. No more overtime, ever, no more weekends, ever... and I plan to always work that way from now on. It's time for life and time for me to enjoy all the benefits of working my ass off since college.

i can't imagine just wanting to give up the education you worked on just to have babies and sit on your ass... its crazy b/c we know a few girls who have finished their Phd and who are currently finishing it who will never use it b/c they just want to be stay at home MOMMY... that shit just baffles me.

but your totally right enjoy the rewards your hardwork in college + work has now provided you. i know my wife and i are holding off kids for that reason... neither of use want to deal w/ rug rats w/o enjoying time together first.

[AWD OWNZ U]

This thread makes me raise a question, because when I look around, all I see are woman who work all the time and are putting their careers up before anything. Every woman I see is working hard and long, to stabilize themselves so that they can be more...independant I suppose. I haven't seen many woman who are actually content with being a housewife or something similar.

Where are you lookng? I see plenty of girls working but usually menial jobs or slacking through a nothing degree in a crappy college waiting for the right man to come along and make their life complete. I've met a lot of girls who seem like they are motivated independent women, but once they decide I'm "acceptable" the "well I really just want to be married and have a family" comes. Maybe they are lying and they think it's what I want to hear? I have no idea. I'm shocked you haven't met more like that though, you wanna switch dating pools?

and another thing i gathered is MOST of the girls who act like they're supposed to, treat you right and have a decent amount of intelligence do not enjoy alot of the same things that most of us do. i like going out and having a great time...alot, yet at the same time i am rather smart, am doing well in college, work hard, have a bit of money and know how to treat a girl right. it's hard to find a girl with alot of those characteristics. either they have them all and are boring or like to have fun and wind up being pieces of shit.

basically i want to have my cake and eat it too, instead of i have been eating the wrong types of cake instead of waiting for the right one to come along.

I'm right there with you man. Same shit happens to me. Maybe I just want to much? But I've busted my ass to put myself where I am today and I don't really feel the need to settle.

I actually know two girls who both say they really just want to be a wife and mother, it was odd first hearing it from them becuase you don't get that much these days. Sorry, neither of them live here... both are educated, single and cute though. Both work full time and support themselves now but hope to give their "jobs" up to make their career their family.

Where do they live? Ya there are plenty of boring fat people else where. I dunno where else you've lived, but I find that women out west tend to be a lot less "old fashion" and more independent.

I don't at all see the problem with staying home to care for a family if that is truly what you want. I believe that going after what you want to do with your life is the most important thing, even if it's not what some others may want.

I guess it's not really the ends that bothers me but the means. If you want to end up with a well educated successful man who will treat you well, guess what we usually look for a woman who is the same. If you work at McDonald's and just hope that eventually you will meet a good man who will complete your life you are just setting yourself up for failure.

[kittychick]

For me personally, I know I've cut down the work in the last year... it's one of the reasons I took the job that moved me to Atlanta. No more overtime, ever, no more weekends, ever... and I plan to always work that way from now on. It's time for life and time for me to enjoy all the benefits of working my ass off since college.

This totally bothers me, why is overtime expected- without anything in return!
My ex-boss expected me to put in 'the extra effort.'
I was already working 45+hrs/week plus once a week going to a really early morning meeting and then going to something after hours 2-3x a month. And if anything was missing or needed to be redone I was expected to take calls or do work on weekends.


On a personal note, I have no plans on getting married until after grad school. Its already expensive to go to grad school, but getting financial aid with two person income- LOL yeah right!!

And on not liking southern girls- I grew up in VA and have lived in Ga for about 8 years now.