I.N.D.E.P.E.N.D.E.N.T!!!!!!

[SLOWLYbtngU]

Damn, SLOWLY......What I can say to add on to what the other wise men have said is that in some instances a guy wants to feel needed and by him paying for things he gets that. You may not need to depend on him and can handle everything on your own, but when you just handle and pay for everything on your own thats where the whole why am i with you if you are so independent comes into play. Because some guys feel like you don't need them, and they don't know how to handle your emotional needs without handling your financial needs too in some way.

I was with a older woman and I had to learn how to deal with a woman that made a hell of a lot more money than me. And it was hard to really understand that she wanted me to be there for her emotionally. A lot of boys are taught including me that you have to grow up and take care of a wife/family etc. and to do that you have to be there financially. So when you become a man its hard to grasp why a women wouldn't let you do just that, and let him take over as provider.

I hope what i said makes sense, adds a different perspective, and help in some way.....

~fin~

I totally understand that it isnt easy for a man to grasp that a woman may not need him to provide for them financially I just dont understand why they feel they dont bring anything to the table. Like it just seems like they feel like I am using them and they are expendable to me. That isnt the case. If I dedicate any amount of time to ONE guy, it should be a given that I want more than their money. I have dated the guys that ask off the bat if I am only with them b/c of their money and I feel like that creates a form of competition within me. Like I have to prove that I dont want anything to do with their money, I just want them... I dunno. It just seems like I am destined to be a sugar mama....

[ironchef]

I totally understand that it isnt easy for a man to grasp that a woman may not need him to provide for them financially I just dont understand why they feel they dont bring anything to the table. Like it just seems like they feel like I am using them and they are expendable to me. That isnt the case. If I dedicate any amount of time to ONE guy, it should be a given that I want more than their money. I have dated the guys that ask off the bat if I am only with them b/c of their money and I feel like that creates a form of competition within me. Like I have to prove that I dont want anything to do with their money, I just want them... I dunno. It just seems like I am destined to be a sugar mama....

Will you marry me? LOL j/k.

Seriously though, these days people should stop being so traditional and conservative you know. If a woman offered to pay, I wouldn't turn that down. Why? If theyre genuinely offering to pay, instead of that "make you feel bad for not paying" kind of way, why turn that down? Sigh dumbasses these days.

Thats not to say that if she offered to pay everytime I would let her.

[Slow Motion]

I totally understand that it isnt easy for a man to grasp that a woman may not need him to provide for them financially I just dont understand why they feel they dont bring anything to the table. Like it just seems like they feel like I am using them and they are expendable to me. That isnt the case. If I dedicate any amount of time to ONE guy, it should be a given that I want more than their money. I have dated the guys that ask off the bat if I am only with them b/c of their money and I feel like that creates a form of competition within me. Like I have to prove that I dont want anything to do with their money, I just want them... I dunno. It just seems like I am destined to be a sugar mama....

I doubt you are destined to be a sugar mama but I bet you do find someone that'll fit you and be what you need. It will happen, you seem too coo for it not to...