swinging

[Princess12]

if i were to swing, i'd do it with couples who are at least a couple hours away, many of them 'probably' have kids and full lives of their own. what added BS can all of this pleasure cause? what is so complicated about life anyway??

Is the reason you would choose a couple several hours away to avoid any emotional relationship with them?

[chuck]

Is the reason you would choose a couple several hours away to avoid any emotional relationship with them?

yeah, that's part of it...if it was someone 10 minutes down the road then it'd make temptation easier to give into.
there are the horror stories about a couple calling a guy or a girl from another realationship and telling them "oh she doesn't have to know" . even if i was stupid enough to drive 2 hours to get with a girl, if MY gf called me and said she was coming home early i'd be screwed...

so yeah, the 2 hour thing is kind of a buffer/safezone/do WE really want to do this? kind of thing...the drives home could be good to discuss things, figure out what each person did and didn't like...my GF might just be too honest with each other, lol....nah.

[Princess12]

yeah, that's part of it...if it was someone 10 minutes down the road then it'd make temptation easier to give into.
there are the horror stories about a couple calling a guy or a girl from another realationship and telling them "oh she doesn't have to know" . even if i was stupid enough to drive 2 hours to get with a girl, if MY gf called me and said she was coming home early i'd be screwed...

so yeah, the 2 hour thing is kind of a buffer/safezone/do WE really want to do this? kind of thing...the drives home could be good to discuss things, figure out what each person did and didn't like...my GF might just be too honest with each other, lol....nah.

That makes sense.

I just think that if you feel the need to place a "buffer" between yourselves and the other party, then it would be wise to just avoid the situation all together.

[chuck]

That makes sense.

I just think that if you feel the need to place a "buffer" between yourselves and the other party, then it would be wise to just avoid the situation all together.

we haven't had a problem...it's really to deter particular (typically yonuger) couples from even trying to think about it. sometimes they can get this idea that "we've already had sex, whats the problem"...certainly not how it works, its always a group decision. with other mature couples, the distance isn't a big issue...although i still wouldn't like the idea of it being someone in the neighborhood, lol...it's just one of many bits from a lot of advice that we took when getting into this. we actually found a youtube channel that has a couple that is full of some great advice - just search DanAndJen . there are plenty of horror stories along the lines of 'well, she is _______ and he is _____ so we can ______ and not get caught'....but of course this could always happen, swinging or not.

i guess it's all a case by case basis...heck, we've brought home 'friends' from a bar right around the corner a couple times...we never play with 'good' friends btw, most have no clue...all just theoretical of course...lol..oh well, nothing to be ashamed about.

[Princess12]

we haven't had a problem...it's really to deter particular (typically yonuger) couples from even trying to think about it. sometimes they can get this idea that "we've already had sex, whats the problem"...certainly not how it works, its always a group decision. with other mature couples, the distance isn't a big issue...although i still wouldn't like the idea of it being someone in the neighborhood, lol...it's just one of many bits from a lot of advice that we took when getting into this. we actually found a youtube channel that has a couple that is full of some great advice - just search DanAndJen . there are plenty of horror stories along the lines of 'well, she is _______ and he is _____ so we can ______ and not get caught'....but of course this could always happen, swinging or not.

i guess it's all a case by case basis...heck, we've brought home 'friends' from a bar right around the corner a couple times...we never play with 'good' friends btw, most have no clue...all just theoretical of course...lol..oh well, nothing to be ashamed about.

Lol! Yeah, I guess involving the neighbors would be a little awkward... but really convenient.

I just can't see my husband or myself ever being comfortable with the idea. I don't think our lifestyle is conducive to being swingers, and I know our personal beliefs definitely prevent us from even considering it. We do have a couple of friends who are very involved in swinging, and they couldn't be happier.

We choose to keep things interesting between the two of us.

[chuck]

Lol! Yeah, I guess involving the neighbors would be a little awkward... but really convenient.

I just can't see my husband or myself ever being comfortable with the idea. I don't think our lifestyle is conducive to being swingers, and I know our personal beliefs definitely prevent us from even considering it. We do have a couple of friends who are very involved in swinging, and they couldn't be happier.

We choose to keep things interesting between the two of us.

oh we keep it interesting on our own...but figure the more the merrier, but yeah...nothing like 1 on 1 time, swinging could be a twice every three months kinda thing..the debate i have now is if/when to stop or cut it back...we aren't married but this is the girl i want to marry; anyone want to guess why?? lol, j/k...


yeah, we've met some weird people...we still laugh about the couple in their young 20's, super cool to hang out with, people that could be our friends in 'real life'....they asked us to church....twice...my gf and i could not stop laughing.

like pretty much everything, it's not meant for everyone....