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haha, take it as a complement. i used to feel the same way, kinda caveman mentality...now i just laugh, she does too sometimes.

would/could you share your wife/gf with another chick??

Hmmm now girl on girl action, I might let slide lol

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and thats your opinion

other ppl might not see it your way, and thats perfectly normal too.

You're right in that it is my opinion and people can live their marriages how they see fit. BUT, in a true marriage, this isn't right. A marriage is a commitment from one person to another. In all aspects of the word (commitment). There is no sharing yourself with another. It's simply you and your spouse. I know it's not a legal thing or whatever, but it is a moral and ethical thing when you look at the true meaning of marriage.

lol where am i getting confusing at? lol i guess i just have a different view at this then you which of course is fine but maybe i can explain how i see it a little better if you can tell me where it isnt making any sense lol

You're entire post was hard to read. Don't be condescending to me. I'm aa smart motherfucker and I can understand things even f I don't agree with them. But I have to be able to understand what I'm reading to understand the meaning.

what added BS can all of this pleasure cause? what is so complicated about life anyway??

Is the reason you would choose a couple several hours away to avoid any emotional relationship with them?

The second quote is one of two main answers to your question chuck.

Feelings. They happen. You NEVER know if that one time you have sex, it's so good that you develop some sort of wanting or longing for that person. That something happened that just changed your whole world. And this is especially true for women because of their more vulnerable feelings. Also, trust issues. Once you open up the doors to sex with other partners, you're asking for Joey Greco to get involved in your life in the future. Pretty soon you're goin got see things he's/she's doing that make you wonder what he/she is really doing. It'll come through. And all this is more prone to happen if you've been married for quite a number of years before you start doing this. You go to the same ball field every day for 10 years and then you're given the ok to play on visiting turf, then you're more than likely going to like playing away from home and may venture off solo.
we aren't talking about joining cults and polygamist groups, no weekly meetings or illegal marriages...we are talking about f'n :idb:

always like your insight QD!

I try to bring (what I feel) is good common sense to a discussion where I THINK there is none.

it really is a personal choice..

I'm not arguing that it's illegal or just something horrible and I'm not clowning on folks who do it or think it's ok, because of this right here, chuck.

if you are married, what harm is there if you BOTH want to do it? You still love each other, you just want to enjoy life a little bit more.

Travel with your spouse. Go on road trips, day trips or even weekend trips with her/him. Break up the monotony of long work weeks by coming home on a Friday after work and packing up and saying let's go. I do this a lot. I'll just up and pack bags and take everyone to the nearest beach for the weekend. Or the nearest tourist trap. Or just to another big city and spend the night. That alone is enough, at times, to spice things up.

Later, QD.