swinging

[quickdodge®]

There's no way. If you want to get with multiple people, don't settle down. Marriage is about commitment to one person. If you want multiple partners, join/start a polygamist cult. Life is complicated enough without the added BS that comes with sex with other people. There's no viable reason for swinging if you're with someone that you're committed to. Later, QD.

[Princess12]

There's no way. If you want to get with multiple people, don't settle down. Marriage is about commitment to one person. If you want multiple partners, join/start a polygamist cult. Life is complicated enough without the added BS that comes with sex with other people. There's no viable reason for swinging if you're with someone that you're committed to. Later, QD.

Completely agree! I married my husband with the sole intent of being with him and only him.

[chuck]

There's no way. If you want to get with multiple people, don't settle down. Marriage is about commitment to one person. If you want multiple partners, join/start a polygamist cult. Life is complicated enough without the added BS that comes with sex with other people. There's no viable reason for swinging if you're with someone that you're committed to. Later, QD.

i totally respect your view mike but marriage is about a lot of different things to a lot of different people. if i were to swing, i'd do it with couples who are at least a couple hours away, many of them 'probably' have kids and full lives of their own. what added BS can all of this pleasure cause? what is so complicated about life anyway??

i guess you could argue a lot of similar things on your points...but that's where individual thought comes into play; and then this moves from the lifestyle forum to the religion forum (i want this in the lifestyle, lol)

...what about a couple (not just an individual) that wants to 'have fun' but be secure with a family and some structure at the same time? what if SHE wants to?? (not saying this is the case here...i think it always needs be mutual)

we aren't talking about joining cults and polygamist groups, no weekly meetings or illegal marriages...we are talking about f'n :idb:


always like your insight QD!

[Princess12]

I think it definitely has to do with moral/religious beliefs as well.

[Princess12]

if i were to swing, i'd do it with couples who are at least a couple hours away, many of them 'probably' have kids and full lives of their own. what added BS can all of this pleasure cause? what is so complicated about life anyway??

Is the reason you would choose a couple several hours away to avoid any emotional relationship with them?

[chuck]

Is the reason you would choose a couple several hours away to avoid any emotional relationship with them?

yeah, that's part of it...if it was someone 10 minutes down the road then it'd make temptation easier to give into.
there are the horror stories about a couple calling a guy or a girl from another realationship and telling them "oh she doesn't have to know" . even if i was stupid enough to drive 2 hours to get with a girl, if MY gf called me and said she was coming home early i'd be screwed...

so yeah, the 2 hour thing is kind of a buffer/safezone/do WE really want to do this? kind of thing...the drives home could be good to discuss things, figure out what each person did and didn't like...my GF might just be too honest with each other, lol....nah.

[Princess12]

yeah, that's part of it...if it was someone 10 minutes down the road then it'd make temptation easier to give into.
there are the horror stories about a couple calling a guy or a girl from another realationship and telling them "oh she doesn't have to know" . even if i was stupid enough to drive 2 hours to get with a girl, if MY gf called me and said she was coming home early i'd be screwed...

so yeah, the 2 hour thing is kind of a buffer/safezone/do WE really want to do this? kind of thing...the drives home could be good to discuss things, figure out what each person did and didn't like...my GF might just be too honest with each other, lol....nah.

That makes sense.

I just think that if you feel the need to place a "buffer" between yourselves and the other party, then it would be wise to just avoid the situation all together.

[chuck]

That makes sense.

I just think that if you feel the need to place a "buffer" between yourselves and the other party, then it would be wise to just avoid the situation all together.

we haven't had a problem...it's really to deter particular (typically yonuger) couples from even trying to think about it. sometimes they can get this idea that "we've already had sex, whats the problem"...certainly not how it works, its always a group decision. with other mature couples, the distance isn't a big issue...although i still wouldn't like the idea of it being someone in the neighborhood, lol...it's just one of many bits from a lot of advice that we took when getting into this. we actually found a youtube channel that has a couple that is full of some great advice - just search DanAndJen . there are plenty of horror stories along the lines of 'well, she is _______ and he is _____ so we can ______ and not get caught'....but of course this could always happen, swinging or not.

i guess it's all a case by case basis...heck, we've brought home 'friends' from a bar right around the corner a couple times...we never play with 'good' friends btw, most have no clue...all just theoretical of course...lol..oh well, nothing to be ashamed about.

[RL...]

ill be damned if i watch my gf or wife get banged by another guy, even i may be banging a girl at the same time or not. I just could not do it....i wouldnt be able to let someone please my gf or wife in the personal and intimate way that i do/can...

[ISAtlanta300]

ill be damned if i watch my gf or wife get banged by another guy, even i may be banging a girl at the same time or not. I just could not do it....i wouldnt be able to let someone please my gf or wife in the personal and intimate way that i do/can...

^^^^ this.....