Need some insight on something

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The wife has absolutely no clue about any of this but given the chance to have her in front of me, she would know in a heartbeat.

The entire conversation extends only between me, the lady friend of mine in question, and my coworkers.

While what I said stands, it seems the entire information wasn't given clearly. I thought you, Bacon, told the dude's wife (of which I would be 100% behind you on).

You CAN be devoted to someone and make a MISTAKE. There IS such thing as mistakes. Been there, done that. Immediately realizing what you did was wrong, and then never letting it happen again.

I'm not sure what you mean by making "mistakes," but if it is anything non-platonic, then you could call it what you want, but it still translates to idiocy. You don't mistakenly kiss someone or have sex with someone. That's just complete and udder disrespect to your wife, your children (if you have any) and to a marriage. Doing that and blaming it on your feelings or caught up in the moment or just a mistake is nothing more than a cop out and it was only a mistake because you were caught.

She does know he is married but is he at fault or is she?

Both of them are at fault. It takes two to tango and if she knew he was in a relationship and he wanted to become a cheater, then she had every opportunity to say no. Later, QD.