I am not deterred by a woman that already has a child, its just the reaction that the child has to me that is scary. I mean, depending on its age how are you going to act towards it, try to be a father figure to it or not?... I think this also has to do with the age of a child. I know it would be hard for me to be disciplined by someone that wasnt my father if I was 6-8yrs of age or older.
I think that is what might scare someone off when they hear the other has a child.