Quote Originally Posted by tony
I think its moreso about understanding the situation and understanding women. Don't know the OP at all but my sister went through the same thing, ended up having two daughters with the guy and I think all she wanted was the children. Was she selfish? Its my sister and its hard to say, on the outside looking in I'd say yes but seeing how happy she is.. its what she truly wanted in her heart, then again my sister is in her mid 30's, established and knew her time was running out.

My advice, think LONG and hard on this one.. a child changes your life drastically, some for the good and others for the worse. There isn't much room to make dumb decisions when you have a child that looks to you and only you. And like everyone else said, having both parents together does so much for a child.. having a stable loving home sets the standard for when they grow up and build their own relationship, it also helps with their confidence.

I could go on and on about it, I have a son out of wedlock and growing up I went through seeing my parents happy together.. then watch them go through divorce. Just be sure with whatever you choose that there is a strong male figure in your childs life.

Thank you! That is all I can say...You were kind of a sigh of relief after all of the insults. Thank you.