Baby's Momma Drama

[Turbo04]

First he should have full LEGAL custody. If she were ever to want to be a bitch about it she could say she let the kid come visit and he took him. 2nd there is no way in hell I would ever consider having an Ex come vist our child and stay in the same place as me, family or no family. I honestly wouldn't give a second thought to telling him to move on if he doesn't understand that this situation is just fucked up and should NOT be happening. You are setting yourself up for some bad shit if he is not going to correct this now. Honestly from what I have read I would be moving on. Hate to be like this but you said it best yourself when you said you were both each others rebounds. I don't think you need this kinda shit...this never shouldve been an issue if you and him were on the same page.

[SLOWLYbtngU]

First he should have full LEGAL custody. If she were ever to want to be a bitch about it she could say she let the kid come visit and he took him. 2nd there is no way in hell I would ever consider having an Ex come vist our child and stay in the same place as me, family or no family. I honestly wouldn't give a second thought to telling him to move on if he doesn't understand that this situation is just fucked up and should NOT be happening. You are setting yourself up for some bad shit if he is not going to correct this now. Honestly from what I have read I would be moving on. Hate to be like this but you said it best yourself when you said you were both each others rebounds. I don't think you need this kinda shit...this never shouldve been an issue if you and him were on the same page.

I have asked him multiple times to file for full custody. He doesnt want to put the child through that. I understand but my argument is that it is better to do it now that he is 2 than wait until he is 4-5yrs old and can understand somewhat what is going on. Once again, I dont feel I am entitled to say anything b/c it is their child and I am just "dating" his daddy.

As far as the staying in the same place...I am with you. Not cool. But I can kinda understand the dad not wanting to leave her alone with their son that doesnt even really remember her. He wants to make sure that the baby can transition well with her...or whatever he says...

As far as it not being an issue if we were on the same page...I totally agree. The problem is that when he is ready for a relationship, I am not ready...and when I am ready, he isnt. But honestly after this....I just want to steal him away all week. I feel threatened. big time

[tony]

I have asked him multiple times to file for full custody. He doesnt want to put the child through that. I understand but my argument is that it is better to do it now that he is 2 than wait until he is 4-5yrs old and can understand somewhat what is going on. Once again, I dont feel I am entitled to say anything b/c it is their child and I am just "dating" his daddy.

As far as the staying in the same place...I am with you. Not cool. But I can kinda understand the dad not wanting to leave her alone with their son that doesnt even really remember her. He wants to make sure that the baby can transition well with her...or whatever he says...

As far as it not being an issue if we were on the same page...I totally agree. The problem is that when he is ready for a relationship, I am not ready...and when I am ready, he isnt. But honestly after this....I just want to steal him away all week. I feel threatened. big time

Okay I hate to harp on this but he is making dumb ass excuses. Regardless of her being a good mother or not if she is an adult then she can handle the child.

Him picking her up from Amtrak: Bullshit

Him saying he wants to be there so the baby can transition: Bullshit

Him not calling you: Bullshit

Him not filing for custody: Bullshit

See a pattern here? Sounds like he's full of shit. It would be better to file for custody now when the child doesn't understand than to cause the confusion when she is 5 or 6. I've been in both situations, the child and the parent. He needs to cut communication/interraction with the mother on any level other than the child.

[SLow_POke]

Okay I hate to harp on this but he is making dumb ass excuses. Regardless of her being a good mother or not if she is an adult then she can handle the child.

Him picking her up from Amtrak: Bullshit

Him saying he wants to be there so the baby can transition: Bullshit

Him not calling you: Bullshit

Him not filing for custody: Bullshit

See a pattern here? Sounds like he's full of shit. It would be better to file for custody now when the child doesn't understand than to cause the confusion when she is 5 or 6. I've been in both situations, the child and the parent. He needs to cut communication/interraction with the mother on any level other than the child.

hmm hate to admit it also . but . . . liek i mentioned before i been thru it

and got back togetther with my son's mom.

i knwo its know its not the kind post you might have been looking for but ..

the woman i was living with also made it easy for me to get back with my baby's momma she " let the evetn take its course" just sat back so . . . . . . . .
i took it as she was like what ever

[SLOWLYbtngU]

hmm hate to admit it also . but . . . liek i mentioned before i been thru it

and got back togetther with my son's mom.

i knwo its know its not the kind post you might have been looking for but ..

the woman i was living with also made it easy for me to get back with my baby's momma she " let the evetn take its course" just sat back so . . . . . . . .
i took it as she was like what ever

what is too much and what is too little????

[SLOWLYbtngU]

Okay I hate to harp on this but he is making dumb ass excuses. Regardless of her being a good mother or not if she is an adult then she can handle the child.

Him picking her up from Amtrak: Bullshit

Him saying he wants to be there so the baby can transition: Bullshit

Him not calling you: Bullshit

Him not filing for custody: Bullshit

See a pattern here? Sounds like he's full of shit. It would be better to file for custody now when the child doesn't understand than to cause the confusion when she is 5 or 6. I've been in both situations, the child and the parent. He needs to cut communication/interraction with the mother on any level other than the child.

Once again... I know. Just like deep down inside I know he still loves her. She cheated on him not him on her so he was the one that got shunned... HE stayed in NY for an additional 2 months trying to make things work between them, but she never came home. Being that he didnt have any family there and only moved there for her, he brought himself and his son back to GA. He came back June of 2006 and this is her first time even trying to visit. I hope and pray that he makes the right decisions these next couple of days. I can only hope. I refuse to be one of those overly dramatic chicks that starts shit with the baby's mom just b/c she was there before me...I see it as she had her shot and messed up. Now is my shot and I hope he doesnt mess up b/c I am not willing to let him go and he is too great for me to even think of messing it up.