Man ive been through it all and yea it sucks to make someone your whole life and everything you do or plan to do in the next ten years is based on them . Not to mention on top of that a getting a divorce always hurts on the pocket book and many times cause bankrupt .
Im going to tell you my story just because it make help you in the discessions you make and one thing you need to know going threw this is the only person looking after you is you. please dont decide that you love her and spend every freaking dollar you got trying to keep her and make her happy because you cant fix it, you arnt the problem , you never was no matter what she says. I was with my ex wife form 4 years before we married (high school sweat hearts ) . You know how everybody has that friend that treats his old lady better then anybody else does and you can tell no need in even trying to flirt with her in a cutting up manner because she was head over heels for me .We never argued i mean everything was great couldnt be better . I bought her a new car ,new house ,and furnished the house . We went to disney world,vegas,panama city 3 times , meartle beach ,hell our life was a vacation . This was in a two years time after we got married . She started hanging around one of my buddys wifes (her daddy was rich so she was spoiled) and seeing what the rich life was like (not that im poor but im far from rich ). She went to lunch with a girl from work (older lady) and meet her son which was working at a college and had 50,000 saved up . To start off with who tells someone that they have 50,000 saved up when you first meet them and second since i paid for everything and took care of her since she was 16 i guess she had no idea 50,000 is not rich that was a joke lol. im riding down the road at work one day and i get a phone call that says the normal . Im not happy ,havnt been for along time but nevers says she wants a divorce. Well this girl has been my life for 7 years ive done everything for her and realy im just upset that she isnt happy. I sell both my four wheelers .my jet boat,both jet skies ,race car hell everything i had. I had 10,000 sitting in a account to build me a shop and spent it on taking her on vacation and buying her shit to fix this problem then the big divorce word come up and she moves out . Ok at that point as bad as it hurts im done . Ive sold everything i own (thank god i did it took every dime i had to get threw this shit) and did everything i could to make her happpy and fix anything that possibly could be wrong . So now i know im not the problem so i start checking phone records and there is a call from her friend then two inutes later a private number that talks for hours hundreds of times on the phone . I never said word just divorced her . Since then she has begged me back for ten years and swore they were just frineds but they ended up getting marrried (and divorced ) so no they wernt friends.
My point man is that i can honestly say i married one of the best people i have ever none and we had the best relationship possible. So if that women can do that to me then they all can be pursaded to stray and i dont care how great she is and how wonderful it would have been to have my life back i would have never trusted her again .
I also gave her everything i owned that i didnt sell and paid all her shit off before i ever realized what was going on . Dont be the sucker i was man and i promise your old lady isnt better then this girl it doesnt get any better so if she can do it they all can man . I understand that in real life the three month butterflys dont last forever but its alot harder for women to understand that especialy when somebody is spitting that shit in there ear . Ill bet money if you sit back and think and look around it want take much for you to see whats realy going on . As hard as it is man odds are its one of your closet friends or that guy thats she has been friends with since high school thats like her brother so you shouldnt worry about him . I promise she has mentioned this dude before she relized it was going to take this turn weither he is new at her job but either way ther is always somebody else . I have always swore by this statement untill it happened to me a swore she wouldnt do that bull shit she did.
people that are married and in love do what ever to stay together weither its marrige counseling or what ever they do it . They dont just up and decide they want a divource in one day with out trying if there in love . It also looks like your old lady is the kind that likes to get the guy everybody wants and make him be or do who she wants him to be . Well after the games are over and you leave all your friends alone and do everything she wants she is bored norhing to do anymore . Alot of women are like this just like saying all they want is a good guy to treat them right which is complete bullshit and everybody knows it .
I know that no matter who she is or what she does you love her man and i hope for your sake im completely wrong hell i hate for anybody to go through what i went through . After seven years i didnt even know how to talk to another woman and i hate being alone lol. Make sure you look after you man i cant stress that enough . Woman are evil even if she is f**king someobody she will make everything your fault and take you for eveything she can and not lose a wink of sleep about it. If all she is worried about is a party she never wanted to be married to start off with she just wanted to win and getting you and making you leave all your friends alone was winning .
I am remarried but i will never let myself get as close to someone as i was to my first wife and ill never put my self in a situtaion to lose everything i own if my wife decides to step tomorrow sorry i cant do it . No matter what i say man i cant make it hurt no less trust me ive been through it . Try finding out you have a life threatning disease 8 months before she decides to leave and she has the insurance . Then get mad because im like can we put it off long enough for me to get myself taking care of and find insurance . You never see hyow cold and heartless someone is till you divource them good luck man if i can help just ask .
Biggest thing dont sit at the house alone it will drive you insane you got to get out and do shit . Call your old friends up they will help will all this alot plus piss her off that you hanging with them again . WIN win situtaion lol. good luck man.
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Originally Posted by Marcus Burnett
