Never thought this would happen.
So Im getting divorced
Never thought this would happen.
Sorry to hear Brett.
Originally Posted by Echonova
sorry man maybe you two can try to make it work
damn man sorry to hear that
I'm confused. You re-married? Not trying to get personal, just not comprehending.
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No, I did get remarried, Tried to start life over but this afternoon I was told she hasnt been happy in a long time and she needs to move on and live on her own, so now trying to deal with this is so hard.
damn man maybe she will relize she dosnt want to leave in a day or so
As someone that has been divorced, I can give the following advise...
Fuck that bitch.
The grass is always greener except where you stand. If this chick hasn't learned that yet, then she probably never will. I would only have two questions for that stupid cunt.
A.) Who are you fucking? ---- Because dumb whores always have a back-up plan. "I haven't been happy in a while" is code for the other guy I'm fucking hasn't grown tired of my bullshit yet and still makes me feel special because he doesn't have to deal with my haggered-ass every fucking day.
B.) What the fuck are you still doing in my house?
Here's the thing. I'm not trying to diminish what you are feeling Brett, I can't imagine the thoughts running through your head. But you are too good for this chick. When you get married it's supposed to be "'till death do you part", which tragically you have already experienced. Not "'till I'm not happy." You are a good man, and you deserve nothing less than the best. Do yourself a favor and take some time off from women (not saying go homo). When I caught my ex cheating on me and we divorced I took a year off from dating. Because I knew the next chick I dated I would take all my frustrations out on, and that wouldn't be fair to her. I needed time to heal, and to learn how to be alone without being lonely.
Sorry to hear that man. Stay optimistic though. If everything doesn't work out you can always get an arm piece to make you feel better (jk).
Thanks man, Yeah she already is going to a party next weekend and has plans on moving on and this just happened yesterday. What makes it worse, is FOR HER I had to distance myself from all the friends I had in Atlanta because SHE didnt like them or feel they were good for me, so now I have no one, and lost 2 years with great friends and a life because of her. So next weekend I will be wondering what she is doing and with who, while I am at home.
I cant see how much god feels I can take in a matter of a few years.
brett, i'm very sorry to hear this. time for some mano e mano truth. you're my brother, but i gotta say some shit.
that was your first mistake. i'm all for finding a good woman and doing everything to make her happy, but at the same time if she doesnt like you for who YOU are, and who YOU associate with, what made her stick around in the first place?
2nd mistake. if she's already said that shit to you, its time to start the process. the "piss off, i'm realizing how much better off i am without you" mentality needs to overwhelm you.So next weekend I will be wondering what she is doing and with who, while I am at home.
like i said, man, i love you like a brother and hate that you're going through this. BUT if she's already make up her mind, then you need to do the same and start moving on. the longer you dwell on her, the harder its going to be on you. you have my number, call me if you need to.
Collins and echo summed it all up! And welcome back to the world! I was just asking someone what happen to brett the other day!
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I don't know you, bro, but I feel ya.
Echonova is right, though.
Just call me DAD!
Sounds like it's time for Brett and some of the OG's to get back together and and pull a SEAL Team 6 operation on some unsuspecting panties next weekend.
In and out in under 40 minutes with a shot to her head.
(I said don't date, not don't fuck)
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But like i said on facebook man, just keep your head up and dont let yourself dwell on the past. You dont deserve all this bullshit.
We need to take Marcus to the Pink Pony next weekend.
(I'm sorry, I've been there, and yeah it does hurt)
sorry to hear that man, even tho i dnt kno you, im kinda going thru tha same shyt, except that she says she "LOVE" me but yet still she wanna go out and have fun with other GUYS dnt kno why but yea.....the only thing thats keepn us together well keepn me with her is because she's a very very pretty girl.....dnt kno wat to do anymore
If her being "very very pretty" is what is keeping you with her and that is the only thing, you have some serious fucking issues.
Brett, first beer is on me.
thats not it dude she has this mentality that says if she not married she refuses to held down by one guy no matter how good the fuck is....
i've never married before so i don't know how it feels to get divorced. It must be break up x 100. You can read all the advices, but in the end you have to sit down and think about all this crap in your head which is probably just gonna make you sad. We all been through the stage where your girl hates your friends and you kind of keep distance from them, but if they are you're real friends they will accept you back if you apologize to them. Don't have any real good advice, but i hope you feel better and try and go out more like she is. Go out to parties, bar, vacation, so you can try and stop thinking about her which is the best thing to do i think. Goodluck.
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i agree with echo an collins.. Dont dwell on it homie.. Go chill with all you old friends. They will always be here for you no matter what your lady friends decide to do
this bro.As someone that has been divorced, I can give the following advise...
A.) Who are you fucking? ---- Because dumb whores always have a back-up plan. "I haven't been happy in a while" is code for the other guy I'm fucking hasn't grown tired of my bullshit yet and still makes me feel special because he doesn't have to deal with my haggered-ass every fucking day.
the best advice, and it was from my first ex
dont give up just yet, shes just confusedthat sounds very complicated.its sounds to me like she is just having tha feeling everyone gets after awhile when you are with someone. you know you start to feel like you want something new because you been with the same person for so long. its natural. married people get that feeling. you are right she will get over it and ever beginning of something always feels great because its new and exciting and the person does act different from when they are after a few months. she just has some doubts in her head that she needs to think about right now. i think people call it cold feet. you two just need some time to re-evaluate your thoughts and feeling and when its over she will come back . its not like what you did for her was not obvious she will realize it after a while. but it is completely natural and normal all you can do is keep reminding her that you are there waiting in the wings. you cant completely back off or she will forget all the good times with you and create new good times with someone else but you cant stiffle her either. why dont you try having a nice romatice night out. just like send her a message or tell who she lives with that you just want one night to makeher feel really special and than come up with something so romantice it will blow her away. (mygirlfriend'sname) seems like she wants to feel special and that is hard after away. that is way most girls fall for guys cause they act like the girl is the only girl in the world and i know you are sitting there thinking you do make she feeel special and are very nice to her but bottom line is a girl needs to be treated like a princess once in awhile. far beyond the routine niceness. your her boyfriend so you are supposed to be nice to her that is why it doesnt feel different. but that is just my oppinion
mine came back
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Don't be Mr. Fall Back Plan.
I'm sorry to hear that bro, I know it feels like I have been through the same situation before.
Its really up to the person with the situation and how his relationship was and how he want it to turn out.Fuck that.
Don't be Mr. Fall Back Plan.
if she was a total bitch the whole time than yes, fuck her.
Hope everything turn out ok with OP
Wrong.
It's up to me.
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Bad thing is like I said she is already going to a party at her girlfriends house Saturday night and I cant keep from dwelling on how much drinking she will do and when she does if she will end up hooking up with some guy just because she is free now (We havent even filed for divorce yet since she just blind sided me with this Friday night) but I cant help but think non stop how at some point, another man will be with her, and that is what is killing me, I get into panic attacks when I am out because everything I am doing I realize I will never do with her again.
Starting over YET again at 39 now is going to be hard. I dont know how I will get through this or emotionally get to the point where I do not wonder what she is doing, But if I can get there I would be so much better, next Saturday night thats ALL I will be thinking about.
Wish I still lived in GA to see alot of you guys, I miss you all. I had to cut off many of my friends (Okay all of them) because she didnt like the people I hung out with, since they were all single and car guys, she assumed they would be bad influences on me, and now she is leaving, has a few friends and starting over this week while I am left with no one to spend time with to keep my mind off things.
I have cried for 2 days straight and she hasnt shed a single tear, but she wanted this so for her I guess its easier.
ouch, bitch is already going out and getting wasted to the point where some random guy (not hassan) can just come in and whisper some nice words into her ear like "it's gonna be ok, here have another drink" then boom - she's hooked and you two are really done.
not only does it suck that she convinced you to leave georgia because you hangout with fast & the furious people, but she clearly doesn't givva fuck.
you've been crying not like a man, but like a little teenage bitch... no seriously brett - i don't know you in a personal level but you are. TWO FUCKIN' DAYS???! i hope you're exaggerating
sure you know how it feels to lose the love of your life (rip leisa) so that alone should've made you stronger to NEVER shed a tear for another bitch who isn't feeling you anymore
i feel sorry for you because like you said, you're 39 years old, it's not like you can hop in your car and start club hopping with yer boys - in hopes that some ditchpig will open her legs for you. gah it sucks that one day i will be old too!
at the end of the day, there's really nothing ANYONE here can say to you that will make you feel better. we'd all need to be telling you this in person for you to really get what we're saying; which is to STOP crying and to show her that you're okay with what's happened. you will move on, and you will continue to be the jolly goofy dude that you've always been.
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Well when I say crying for 2 days Im not saying 24/7, But I have over the past few days hit spots in the day where I break down especially if I am talking to someone about it. Its easier said than done to not cry over this, I love her and it kills me even more to imagine what will take place this weekend and how she doesnt even seem to care what this has done to me. Like I said, makes me feel I am disposable ya know
I smell a road trip to GA.
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Yeah I think Im gonna come down to see my dad Memorial Day weekend since Im off that Monday so I am not sitting around here thinking about her. So I will come down that Friday morning if anyone wants to meet for lunch, Lemme know that day
Me.
Sounds like y'all rushed into it honestly. Now she's realizing It's not what she wants and wants to end it.
You can't think about what she's going go do. Let's be honest, she WILL be with someone else, and so will you. At this point to you really want to be with someone so shallow, so inconsiderate to your feelings? I mean if she really cared, she wouldn't be going off to party next weekend. She sounds incredibly immature.
I'd end it and move on. Being alone is perfectly fine. Enjoy it. I'd stay away from dating for awhile. Focus on making yourself tue best you can be.
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and you are right, I think when Leisa passed away I was so hurt, so lost and the first person I latched on to because I was just so afraid of being alone. We should have dated for a while first. When I lost Leisa, it destroyed me and my whole world, I was searching for that quick fix to the pain I was in. I will not be looking to date anyone for a while. I need to discover who I am and what I want. Sad thing is like I said, I let all my friends in GA go for her, because she didnt like them, and that was so stupid of me and I owe everyone an apology for that.
When she came today to get all her clothes she talked and treated me like I was nothing to her, that hurt me even worse. I gave her the world and loved her and treated her DAMN GOOD and she is acting like I chose this and has so much anger torwards me now. Its insane.
Tilted Kilt, son...let's do et.
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Im coming to GA next weekend for a few days, ive never been there so im down!!!
You dont deserve that bullshit man.
I know it was so sudden, Friday it was sprung on me, and the last few days she has talked to me like I am worthless peice of shit to her,I mean I gave her a year and a half of my life and did everything for her, she decides to walk out on me and makes it seem she is mad at me for it.
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