Never thought this would happen.
Never thought this would happen.
damn man sorry to hear that
I'm confused. You re-married? Not trying to get personal, just not comprehending.
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No, I did get remarried, Tried to start life over but this afternoon I was told she hasnt been happy in a long time and she needs to move on and live on her own, so now trying to deal with this is so hard.
damn man maybe she will relize she dosnt want to leave in a day or so
As someone that has been divorced, I can give the following advise...
Fuck that bitch.
The grass is always greener except where you stand. If this chick hasn't learned that yet, then she probably never will. I would only have two questions for that stupid cunt.
A.) Who are you fucking? ---- Because dumb whores always have a back-up plan. "I haven't been happy in a while" is code for the other guy I'm fucking hasn't grown tired of my bullshit yet and still makes me feel special because he doesn't have to deal with my haggered-ass every fucking day.
B.) What the fuck are you still doing in my house?
Here's the thing. I'm not trying to diminish what you are feeling Brett, I can't imagine the thoughts running through your head. But you are too good for this chick. When you get married it's supposed to be "'till death do you part", which tragically you have already experienced. Not "'till I'm not happy." You are a good man, and you deserve nothing less than the best. Do yourself a favor and take some time off from women (not saying go homo). When I caught my ex cheating on me and we divorced I took a year off from dating. Because I knew the next chick I dated I would take all my frustrations out on, and that wouldn't be fair to her. I needed time to heal, and to learn how to be alone without being lonely.
Sorry to hear that man. Stay optimistic though. If everything doesn't work out you can always get an arm piece to make you feel better (jk).
Thanks man, Yeah she already is going to a party next weekend and has plans on moving on and this just happened yesterday. What makes it worse, is FOR HER I had to distance myself from all the friends I had in Atlanta because SHE didnt like them or feel they were good for me, so now I have no one, and lost 2 years with great friends and a life because of her. So next weekend I will be wondering what she is doing and with who, while I am at home.
I cant see how much god feels I can take in a matter of a few years.
brett, i'm very sorry to hear this. time for some mano e mano truth. you're my brother, but i gotta say some shit.
that was your first mistake. i'm all for finding a good woman and doing everything to make her happy, but at the same time if she doesnt like you for who YOU are, and who YOU associate with, what made her stick around in the first place?
2nd mistake. if she's already said that shit to you, its time to start the process. the "piss off, i'm realizing how much better off i am without you" mentality needs to overwhelm you.So next weekend I will be wondering what she is doing and with who, while I am at home.
like i said, man, i love you like a brother and hate that you're going through this. BUT if she's already make up her mind, then you need to do the same and start moving on. the longer you dwell on her, the harder its going to be on you. you have my number, call me if you need to.
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I don't know you, bro, but I feel ya.
Echonova is right, though.
Just call me DAD!
Sounds like it's time for Brett and some of the OG's to get back together and and pull a SEAL Team 6 operation on some unsuspecting panties next weekend.
In and out in under 40 minutes with a shot to her head.
(I said don't date, not don't fuck)
We need to take Marcus to the Pink Pony next weekend.
(I'm sorry, I've been there, and yeah it does hurt)
sorry to hear that man, even tho i dnt kno you, im kinda going thru tha same shyt, except that she says she "LOVE" me but yet still she wanna go out and have fun with other GUYS dnt kno why but yea.....the only thing thats keepn us together well keepn me with her is because she's a very very pretty girl.....dnt kno wat to do anymore
thats not it dude she has this mentality that says if she not married she refuses to held down by one guy no matter how good the fuck is....
i've never married before so i don't know how it feels to get divorced. It must be break up x 100. You can read all the advices, but in the end you have to sit down and think about all this crap in your head which is probably just gonna make you sad. We all been through the stage where your girl hates your friends and you kind of keep distance from them, but if they are you're real friends they will accept you back if you apologize to them. Don't have any real good advice, but i hope you feel better and try and go out more like she is. Go out to parties, bar, vacation, so you can try and stop thinking about her which is the best thing to do i think. Goodluck.
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i agree with echo an collins.. Dont dwell on it homie.. Go chill with all you old friends. They will always be here for you no matter what your lady friends decide to do
this bro.As someone that has been divorced, I can give the following advise...
A.) Who are you fucking? ---- Because dumb whores always have a back-up plan. "I haven't been happy in a while" is code for the other guy I'm fucking hasn't grown tired of my bullshit yet and still makes me feel special because he doesn't have to deal with my haggered-ass every fucking day.
the best advice, and it was from my first ex
dont give up just yet, shes just confusedthat sounds very complicated.its sounds to me like she is just having tha feeling everyone gets after awhile when you are with someone. you know you start to feel like you want something new because you been with the same person for so long. its natural. married people get that feeling. you are right she will get over it and ever beginning of something always feels great because its new and exciting and the person does act different from when they are after a few months. she just has some doubts in her head that she needs to think about right now. i think people call it cold feet. you two just need some time to re-evaluate your thoughts and feeling and when its over she will come back . its not like what you did for her was not obvious she will realize it after a while. but it is completely natural and normal all you can do is keep reminding her that you are there waiting in the wings. you cant completely back off or she will forget all the good times with you and create new good times with someone else but you cant stiffle her either. why dont you try having a nice romatice night out. just like send her a message or tell who she lives with that you just want one night to makeher feel really special and than come up with something so romantice it will blow her away. (mygirlfriend'sname) seems like she wants to feel special and that is hard after away. that is way most girls fall for guys cause they act like the girl is the only girl in the world and i know you are sitting there thinking you do make she feeel special and are very nice to her but bottom line is a girl needs to be treated like a princess once in awhile. far beyond the routine niceness. your her boyfriend so you are supposed to be nice to her that is why it doesnt feel different. but that is just my oppinion
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I'm sorry to hear that bro, I know it feels like I have been through the same situation before.
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Don't be Mr. Fall Back Plan.
Its really up to the person with the situation and how his relationship was and how he want it to turn out.Fuck that.
Don't be Mr. Fall Back Plan.
if she was a total bitch the whole time than yes, fuck her.
Hope everything turn out ok with OP
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Bad thing is like I said she is already going to a party at her girlfriends house Saturday night and I cant keep from dwelling on how much drinking she will do and when she does if she will end up hooking up with some guy just because she is free now (We havent even filed for divorce yet since she just blind sided me with this Friday night) but I cant help but think non stop how at some point, another man will be with her, and that is what is killing me, I get into panic attacks when I am out because everything I am doing I realize I will never do with her again.
Starting over YET again at 39 now is going to be hard. I dont know how I will get through this or emotionally get to the point where I do not wonder what she is doing, But if I can get there I would be so much better, next Saturday night thats ALL I will be thinking about.
Wish I still lived in GA to see alot of you guys, I miss you all. I had to cut off many of my friends (Okay all of them) because she didnt like the people I hung out with, since they were all single and car guys, she assumed they would be bad influences on me, and now she is leaving, has a few friends and starting over this week while I am left with no one to spend time with to keep my mind off things.
I have cried for 2 days straight and she hasnt shed a single tear, but she wanted this so for her I guess its easier.
I smell a road trip to GA.
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Yeah I think Im gonna come down to see my dad Memorial Day weekend since Im off that Monday so I am not sitting around here thinking about her. So I will come down that Friday morning if anyone wants to meet for lunch, Lemme know that day
Sounds like y'all rushed into it honestly. Now she's realizing It's not what she wants and wants to end it.
You can't think about what she's going go do. Let's be honest, she WILL be with someone else, and so will you. At this point to you really want to be with someone so shallow, so inconsiderate to your feelings? I mean if she really cared, she wouldn't be going off to party next weekend. She sounds incredibly immature.
I'd end it and move on. Being alone is perfectly fine. Enjoy it. I'd stay away from dating for awhile. Focus on making yourself tue best you can be.
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and you are right, I think when Leisa passed away I was so hurt, so lost and the first person I latched on to because I was just so afraid of being alone. We should have dated for a while first. When I lost Leisa, it destroyed me and my whole world, I was searching for that quick fix to the pain I was in. I will not be looking to date anyone for a while. I need to discover who I am and what I want. Sad thing is like I said, I let all my friends in GA go for her, because she didnt like them, and that was so stupid of me and I owe everyone an apology for that.
When she came today to get all her clothes she talked and treated me like I was nothing to her, that hurt me even worse. I gave her the world and loved her and treated her DAMN GOOD and she is acting like I chose this and has so much anger torwards me now. Its insane.
Tilted Kilt, son...let's do et.
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Im coming to GA next weekend for a few days, ive never been there so im down!!!
I know it was so sudden, Friday it was sprung on me, and the last few days she has talked to me like I am worthless peice of shit to her,I mean I gave her a year and a half of my life and did everything for her, she decides to walk out on me and makes it seem she is mad at me for it.
Man ive been through it all and yea it sucks to make someone your whole life and everything you do or plan to do in the next ten years is based on them . Not to mention on top of that a getting a divorce always hurts on the pocket book and many times cause bankrupt .
Im going to tell you my story just because it make help you in the discessions you make and one thing you need to know going threw this is the only person looking after you is you. please dont decide that you love her and spend every freaking dollar you got trying to keep her and make her happy because you cant fix it, you arnt the problem , you never was no matter what she says. I was with my ex wife form 4 years before we married (high school sweat hearts ) . You know how everybody has that friend that treats his old lady better then anybody else does and you can tell no need in even trying to flirt with her in a cutting up manner because she was head over heels for me .We never argued i mean everything was great couldnt be better . I bought her a new car ,new house ,and furnished the house . We went to disney world,vegas,panama city 3 times , meartle beach ,hell our life was a vacation . This was in a two years time after we got married . She started hanging around one of my buddys wifes (her daddy was rich so she was spoiled) and seeing what the rich life was like (not that im poor but im far from rich ). She went to lunch with a girl from work (older lady) and meet her son which was working at a college and had 50,000 saved up . To start off with who tells someone that they have 50,000 saved up when you first meet them and second since i paid for everything and took care of her since she was 16 i guess she had no idea 50,000 is not rich that was a joke lol. im riding down the road at work one day and i get a phone call that says the normal . Im not happy ,havnt been for along time but nevers says she wants a divorce. Well this girl has been my life for 7 years ive done everything for her and realy im just upset that she isnt happy. I sell both my four wheelers .my jet boat,both jet skies ,race car hell everything i had. I had 10,000 sitting in a account to build me a shop and spent it on taking her on vacation and buying her shit to fix this problem then the big divorce word come up and she moves out . Ok at that point as bad as it hurts im done . Ive sold everything i own (thank god i did it took every dime i had to get threw this shit) and did everything i could to make her happpy and fix anything that possibly could be wrong . So now i know im not the problem so i start checking phone records and there is a call from her friend then two inutes later a private number that talks for hours hundreds of times on the phone . I never said word just divorced her . Since then she has begged me back for ten years and swore they were just frineds but they ended up getting marrried (and divorced ) so no they wernt friends.
My point man is that i can honestly say i married one of the best people i have ever none and we had the best relationship possible. So if that women can do that to me then they all can be pursaded to stray and i dont care how great she is and how wonderful it would have been to have my life back i would have never trusted her again .
I also gave her everything i owned that i didnt sell and paid all her shit off before i ever realized what was going on . Dont be the sucker i was man and i promise your old lady isnt better then this girl it doesnt get any better so if she can do it they all can man . I understand that in real life the three month butterflys dont last forever but its alot harder for women to understand that especialy when somebody is spitting that shit in there ear . Ill bet money if you sit back and think and look around it want take much for you to see whats realy going on . As hard as it is man odds are its one of your closet friends or that guy thats she has been friends with since high school thats like her brother so you shouldnt worry about him . I promise she has mentioned this dude before she relized it was going to take this turn weither he is new at her job but either way ther is always somebody else . I have always swore by this statement untill it happened to me a swore she wouldnt do that bull shit she did.
people that are married and in love do what ever to stay together weither its marrige counseling or what ever they do it . They dont just up and decide they want a divource in one day with out trying if there in love . It also looks like your old lady is the kind that likes to get the guy everybody wants and make him be or do who she wants him to be . Well after the games are over and you leave all your friends alone and do everything she wants she is bored norhing to do anymore . Alot of women are like this just like saying all they want is a good guy to treat them right which is complete bullshit and everybody knows it .
I know that no matter who she is or what she does you love her man and i hope for your sake im completely wrong hell i hate for anybody to go through what i went through . After seven years i didnt even know how to talk to another woman and i hate being alone lol. Make sure you look after you man i cant stress that enough . Woman are evil even if she is f**king someobody she will make everything your fault and take you for eveything she can and not lose a wink of sleep about it. If all she is worried about is a party she never wanted to be married to start off with she just wanted to win and getting you and making you leave all your friends alone was winning .
I am remarried but i will never let myself get as close to someone as i was to my first wife and ill never put my self in a situtaion to lose everything i own if my wife decides to step tomorrow sorry i cant do it . No matter what i say man i cant make it hurt no less trust me ive been through it . Try finding out you have a life threatning disease 8 months before she decides to leave and she has the insurance . Then get mad because im like can we put it off long enough for me to get myself taking care of and find insurance . You never see hyow cold and heartless someone is till you divource them good luck man if i can help just ask .
Biggest thing dont sit at the house alone it will drive you insane you got to get out and do shit . Call your old friends up they will help will all this alot plus piss her off that you hanging with them again . WIN win situtaion lol. good luck man.
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Thanks man, yeah same thing here, Did everything for her, made her my whole life. I love her so much and miss her but nothing I can do at this point, she wants to get out there and do her thing and get back to going out to parties next weekend, etc. I am sure she will be in bed with someone next weekend, just to spite me, even though Id never know, in her mind its doing it to hurt me.
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