So Im getting divorced

[h22 jones]

Man ive been through it all and yea it sucks to make someone your whole life and everything you do or plan to do in the next ten years is based on them . Not to mention on top of that a getting a divorce always hurts on the pocket book and many times cause bankrupt .

Im going to tell you my story just because it make help you in the discessions you make and one thing you need to know going threw this is the only person looking after you is you. please dont decide that you love her and spend every freaking dollar you got trying to keep her and make her happy because you cant fix it, you arnt the problem , you never was no matter what she says. I was with my ex wife form 4 years before we married (high school sweat hearts ) . You know how everybody has that friend that treats his old lady better then anybody else does and you can tell no need in even trying to flirt with her in a cutting up manner because she was head over heels for me .We never argued i mean everything was great couldnt be better . I bought her a new car ,new house ,and furnished the house . We went to disney world,vegas,panama city 3 times , meartle beach ,hell our life was a vacation . This was in a two years time after we got married . She started hanging around one of my buddys wifes (her daddy was rich so she was spoiled) and seeing what the rich life was like (not that im poor but im far from rich ). She went to lunch with a girl from work (older lady) and meet her son which was working at a college and had 50,000 saved up . To start off with who tells someone that they have 50,000 saved up when you first meet them and second since i paid for everything and took care of her since she was 16 i guess she had no idea 50,000 is not rich that was a joke lol. im riding down the road at work one day and i get a phone call that says the normal . Im not happy ,havnt been for along time but nevers says she wants a divorce. Well this girl has been my life for 7 years ive done everything for her and realy im just upset that she isnt happy. I sell both my four wheelers .my jet boat,both jet skies ,race car hell everything i had. I had 10,000 sitting in a account to build me a shop and spent it on taking her on vacation and buying her shit to fix this problem then the big divorce word come up and she moves out . Ok at that point as bad as it hurts im done . Ive sold everything i own (thank god i did it took every dime i had to get threw this shit) and did everything i could to make her happpy and fix anything that possibly could be wrong . So now i know im not the problem so i start checking phone records and there is a call from her friend then two inutes later a private number that talks for hours hundreds of times on the phone . I never said word just divorced her . Since then she has begged me back for ten years and swore they were just frineds but they ended up getting marrried (and divorced ) so no they wernt friends.

My point man is that i can honestly say i married one of the best people i have ever none and we had the best relationship possible. So if that women can do that to me then they all can be pursaded to stray and i dont care how great she is and how wonderful it would have been to have my life back i would have never trusted her again .

I also gave her everything i owned that i didnt sell and paid all her shit off before i ever realized what was going on . Dont be the sucker i was man and i promise your old lady isnt better then this girl it doesnt get any better so if she can do it they all can man . I understand that in real life the three month butterflys dont last forever but its alot harder for women to understand that especialy when somebody is spitting that shit in there ear . Ill bet money if you sit back and think and look around it want take much for you to see whats realy going on . As hard as it is man odds are its one of your closet friends or that guy thats she has been friends with since high school thats like her brother so you shouldnt worry about him . I promise she has mentioned this dude before she relized it was going to take this turn weither he is new at her job but either way ther is always somebody else . I have always swore by this statement untill it happened to me a swore she wouldnt do that bull shit she did.

people that are married and in love do what ever to stay together weither its marrige counseling or what ever they do it . They dont just up and decide they want a divource in one day with out trying if there in love . It also looks like your old lady is the kind that likes to get the guy everybody wants and make him be or do who she wants him to be . Well after the games are over and you leave all your friends alone and do everything she wants she is bored norhing to do anymore . Alot of women are like this just like saying all they want is a good guy to treat them right which is complete bullshit and everybody knows it .

I know that no matter who she is or what she does you love her man and i hope for your sake im completely wrong hell i hate for anybody to go through what i went through . After seven years i didnt even know how to talk to another woman and i hate being alone lol. Make sure you look after you man i cant stress that enough . Woman are evil even if she is f**king someobody she will make everything your fault and take you for eveything she can and not lose a wink of sleep about it. If all she is worried about is a party she never wanted to be married to start off with she just wanted to win and getting you and making you leave all your friends alone was winning .

I am remarried but i will never let myself get as close to someone as i was to my first wife and ill never put my self in a situtaion to lose everything i own if my wife decides to step tomorrow sorry i cant do it . No matter what i say man i cant make it hurt no less trust me ive been through it . Try finding out you have a life threatning disease 8 months before she decides to leave and she has the insurance . Then get mad because im like can we put it off long enough for me to get myself taking care of and find insurance . You never see hyow cold and heartless someone is till you divource them good luck man if i can help just ask .

Biggest thing dont sit at the house alone it will drive you insane you got to get out and do shit . Call your old friends up they will help will all this alot plus piss her off that you hanging with them again . WIN win situtaion lol. good luck man.

[Brett]

Thanks man, yeah same thing here, Did everything for her, made her my whole life. I love her so much and miss her but nothing I can do at this point, she wants to get out there and do her thing and get back to going out to parties next weekend, etc. I am sure she will be in bed with someone next weekend, just to spite me, even though Id never know, in her mind its doing it to hurt me.

[Firefightin_tC]

Thanks man, yeah same thing here, Did everything for her, made her my whole life. I love her so much and miss her but nothing I can do at this point, she wants to get out there and do her thing and get back to going out to parties next weekend, etc. I am sure she will be in bed with someone next weekend, just to spite me, even though Id never know, in her mind its doing it to hurt me.

To sum it nicely.

[collins]

Fuck that.

Don't be Mr. Fall Back Plan.

damn, i should have waited to rep you for this post!

I know it was so sudden, Friday it was sprung on me, and the last few days she has talked to me like I am worthless peice of shit to her,I mean I gave her a year and a half of my life and did everything for her, she decides to walk out on me and makes it seem she is mad at me for it.

brett, forgive me for saying this... but i feel her true colors are coming out now. she put on a front for a while because she knew she could get anything she wanted from you. what changed, we may never know. but man, you cant let yourself be consumed by bullshit such as that. call me when you're coming into town. bacon claimed first beer, so round two is on me.

[Brett]

Thanks man, You know I will get with you while I am in town for sure

[Vteckidd]

brett, forgive me for saying this... but i feel her true colors are coming out now. she put on a front for a while because she knew she could get anything she wanted from you. what changed, we may never know. but man, you cant let yourself be consumed by bullshit such as that. call me when you're coming into town. bacon claimed first beer, so round two is on me.

she got what she needed out of him, and now she thinks she can find something better, so shes moving on. Thats prob it in a nutshell

[Vteckidd]

I am sure she will be in bed with someone next weekend, just to spite me, even though Id never know, in her mind its doing it to hurt me.

you cant think like that man. If she DOES go out and be a whore, then shes a whore. Do you REALLY want to be with a girl that does that to herself, and to you?

If she DOESNT do it, then what are you supposed to do high five her? It doesnt change the situation.

You cannot think youll NEVER be with someone else, and you cannot think shell never be with someone else. It is going to happen, its just not gonna be on your terms.

Im sure after Leisa you thought you would never find the light at the end of the tunnel, and then you found someone else. So give it TIME, and worry about YOU, not what shes doing.

[RL...]

Move on, and don't jump into another serious relationship for a long time. Shit happens, and as hard as it is you have to find a way to cope with this while piecing back your life and while not getting screwed in the divorce. I wouldn't even focus on her or the though of getting back with her. Just try to accept it's over and next time, if there is a next time, marry for money. I'm not even trying to be a smartass. I work with a lot of older guys in their 30's and 40's who've already went through divorces and they all say the same thing, if the 2nd marriage doesn't work out, fuck it and marry a rich bitch. Then again, taking their own advice has gotten them where they are in the first place so maybe it's not a good idea? hmmmm

[Echonova]

[Firefightin_tC]

BTW...when everyone gets together, I want Round Three.

Just saying.

[Brett]

well I will be in town Memorial weekend if anyone wants to meet up and hang, Im totally game!! I Miss everyone alot

[Julio]

Sucks dude.
alt tab del sir.

[Brett]

Thanks Julio..... ATL DEL Sir?? WTF is that? lol

[GhostSTI]

sorry to hear man, i went through a divorce about 6mos ago.

[Echonova]

If there are two things Echonova knows it's:

A.) How to talk in the third person. 'Cuz erebody knows Echonova don't play

B.) Skanky bitches and how they act

[Julio]

keyboard strokes..

Alt Tab delete.. lol

[Brett]

LOL, Doh!! HAHA

[Brett]

Seems more and more like she is now living with this guy from her office and then if thats the case I know they must be sleeping together.... I just cant believe she would walk out on me and that same weekend go to another guy

[Vteckidd]

Seems more and more like she is now living with this guy from her office and then if thats the case I know they must be sleeping together.... I just cant believe she would walk out on me and that same weekend go to another guy

you are going to drive yourself insane thinking about stuff like that. You just gotta let it go. Dont check up on her, dont find out any info on her, just cut her out. Its over, shes not coming back, its the end of "us" but not the end of "you". If you sit around obsessing over what shes doing you are going to drive yourself insane and make yourself depressed.

You were fine BEFORE you met her, youll be fine AFTER shes gone. You survived for XX years before her, youll survive after her.

Like i said if shes moving on that fast, she used you, she didnt CARE about YOU, and you shouldnt show her the same respect. Im not saying be mean and nasty, but id tell her to get her stuff out in 30 days or youre throwing it out, and never contact her again.

[Brett]

yeah and at first I was going to pay for the legal seperation which sucks because here you have to be legally separated for 1 year before they will grant a divorce but from what I can find it seems its between $1,000-$1,500 for the legal separation, so I am going to tell her she wanted this, so she will be paying half of it.

Thank for the tough love mike, sometimes its needed, I know that

[quickdodge®]

it seems its between $1,000-$1,500 for the legal separation, so I am going to tell her she wanted this, so she will be paying half of it.

If she wants this, make her pay for all of it. Later, QD.

[Firefightin_tC]

you are going to drive yourself insane thinking about stuff like that. You just gotta let it go. Dont check up on her, dont find out any info on her, just cut her out. Its over, shes not coming back, its the end of "us" but not the end of "you". If you sit around obsessing over what shes doing you are going to drive yourself insane and make yourself depressed.

You were fine BEFORE you met her, youll be fine AFTER shes gone. You survived for XX years before her, youll survive after her.

Like i said if shes moving on that fast, she used you, she didnt CARE about YOU, and you shouldnt show her the same respect. Im not saying be mean and nasty, but id tell her to get her stuff out in 30 days or youre throwing it out, and never contact her again.

THIS!!!!

[Crazydelsol]

Look man don't get stuck in the memories you had with her, just pretend she was never there and when you see old friends and start hanging out you will realize she was never worth it! It sucks bro but ppls second faces always comes out! Just be single for a while!

[Vteckidd]

Well look at positive side too. No kids involved, so you'll get s clean break. You found out who she really was relatively early on in your marriage, think if she did this stuff behind your back and you found out 10-15 years later.

It's not going to be easy, it's not going to be sunshine and rainbows, but you gotta believe you're better off. And you will be.

I think splitting the cost 50/50 is more than fair. If she resists and gets pissed then guess what, too bad. In the end it'll cost you $1000-1500 to get rid of her forever, pretty cheap :p

You'll be fine. Just concentrate on making money, and making yourself better. You want to be desirable, and the best person you can be. Ultimate revenge is 5 years from now when you're well off and happy with someone else, and she's still slumming around being the party girl and has no future, you can say "yeah I'm def better off"

Living well is the best revenge

[B18c1Turboed]

If i read this right, YOU BROKE UP! No marriage involved, pick up and move on. No offense but dont feel bad when alot of your friends arent there for you. I mean you left them for some girl.

[Brett]

If i read this right, YOU BROKE UP! No marriage involved, pick up and move on. No offense but dont feel bad when alot of your friends arent there for you. I mean you left them for some girl.

And that I agree but she wasnt some girl, she was my wife... I tried to do what she wanted to make her happy, was it smart... no... but we all do stupid things for the woman we love

[whoaitzbrain]

I TREAT A BITCH LIKE 7-UP..NEVER HAVE, NEVER WILL. SOMONE PASS ME A LIGHTER

[Firefightin_tC]

The real question is...

...when and where are meeting up. I got money to spend and booze to drink!

[Brett]

The real question is...

...when and where are meeting up. I got money to spend and booze to drink!

We will all plan something, for sure!!

[Brett]

So I threw out our rings earlier this week and now after she has walked out on and has been gone a week, and getting her stuff Sunday, she asked for her ring back, I told her I disposed of it and she says she is going to file a police report stating I have stolen property... I mean really? She said when we married it was a contract and that ring was hers. I cant believe her.

[EJdm]

wow i dont know you....but y doesnt she want the ring when she is the unhappy on?? what a bitch! tell her to call the cop faster and leave bc she on trespassing...i would've had all her stuff outside waiting for her...take a break and dont think to much and time will heal...

[CSquared]

So I threw out our rings earlier this week and now after she has walked out on and has been gone a week, and getting her stuff Sunday, she asked for her ring back, I told her I disposed of it and she says she is going to file a police report stating I have stolen property... I mean really? She said when we married it was a contract and that ring was hers. I cant believe her.

God she sounds like an immature money hungry bitch.

[Brett]

I'm sure she wants it so she can sell it

[babygurl]

So I threw out our rings earlier this week and now after she has walked out on and has been gone a week, and getting her stuff Sunday, she asked for her ring back, I told her I disposed of it and she says she is going to file a police report stating I have stolen property... I mean really? She said when we married it was a contract and that ring was hers. I cant believe her.

Well Brett Tell your wife, that the rings were common property since you ARE still married. So she can not file a police report!! Dumb hooker!!! I am not sure if you guys had a house or apartment, but if you were just leasing a place get her name off of the damn lease.

I understand you are going through a hard time right now, and are hurting. I am sorry she is being an evil bitch. You are an awesome person and deserve to be happy. I know you were hurting when Leisa passed away. Hell I am sure you are still hurting. But you getting married again, happened for a reason. Dont have regrets just lessons learned. Also next time she is a bitch to you just use that famous saying "IS THAT ALL YOU GOT?" Come on on Brett all those years on IA, and you lost the smart ass in you? I doubt that. Like I told you another time before, mourn for a little while, but then its time to live life and be happy.

And as far as you losing your friends because of your wife and feel like you have no one, that is a false statement. You made a mistake, your true friends will always be there for you. So let me know when you get here and let's party!!!!

[ash7]

And as far as you losing your friends because of your wife and feel like you have no one, that is a false statement. You made a mistake, your true friends will always be there for you. So let me know when you get here and let's party!!!!

Amen to this.

-jonathan

[Echonova]

If you can both agree on how to split up the assets, a No-Contest divorce should only run you 800-ish. Granted, it's been a while since I last checked on prices. But $1,500 seems excessive for filing some papers that neither side will dispute.


But if it is $1,500... VtecKidd is still right. It's a cheap lesson learned.

[Brett]

Im trying to find one of these lawyers who specialize in just divorce uncontested who will do it cheap. In Atlanta you see billboards for like $799 ones...LOL but not here

[Firefightin_tC]

If she wanted it...she shouldn't have taken it off.

Tell her to kick rocks and move back to Atlanta, dear sir!

POSTHASTE!

[ludeguy420]

i agree with qd.. she wants this make her pay for it..

[Vteckidd]

She can call the cops all she want, you're legally married you can't steal anything. All you use to say is "I lost it" or "I've never seen it" etc

I would remove her from any financial accounts ASAP like checking and saving, 401k anything like that. I'd prob close all accounts and open new ones just to be safe. In case she stole checks or anything. Knows your pin etc

Id also change any password to your email, faceboOk etc