So Im getting divorced

[RL...]

Move on, and don't jump into another serious relationship for a long time. Shit happens, and as hard as it is you have to find a way to cope with this while piecing back your life and while not getting screwed in the divorce. I wouldn't even focus on her or the though of getting back with her. Just try to accept it's over and next time, if there is a next time, marry for money. I'm not even trying to be a smartass. I work with a lot of older guys in their 30's and 40's who've already went through divorces and they all say the same thing, if the 2nd marriage doesn't work out, fuck it and marry a rich bitch. Then again, taking their own advice has gotten them where they are in the first place so maybe it's not a good idea? hmmmm

[collins]

Fuck that.

Don't be Mr. Fall Back Plan.

damn, i should have waited to rep you for this post!

I know it was so sudden, Friday it was sprung on me, and the last few days she has talked to me like I am worthless peice of shit to her,I mean I gave her a year and a half of my life and did everything for her, she decides to walk out on me and makes it seem she is mad at me for it.

brett, forgive me for saying this... but i feel her true colors are coming out now. she put on a front for a while because she knew she could get anything she wanted from you. what changed, we may never know. but man, you cant let yourself be consumed by bullshit such as that. call me when you're coming into town. bacon claimed first beer, so round two is on me.

[Brett]

Thanks man, You know I will get with you while I am in town for sure

[Echonova]

[bodhi]

Bad thing is like I said she is already going to a party at her girlfriends house Saturday night and I cant keep from dwelling on how much drinking she will do and when she does if she will end up hooking up with some guy just because she is free now (We havent even filed for divorce yet since she just blind sided me with this Friday night) but I cant help but think non stop how at some point, another man will be with her, and that is what is killing me, I get into panic attacks when I am out because everything I am doing I realize I will never do with her again.

Starting over YET again at 39 now is going to be hard. I dont know how I will get through this or emotionally get to the point where I do not wonder what she is doing, But if I can get there I would be so much better, next Saturday night thats ALL I will be thinking about.

Wish I still lived in GA to see alot of you guys, I miss you all. I had to cut off many of my friends (Okay all of them) because she didnt like the people I hung out with, since they were all single and car guys, she assumed they would be bad influences on me, and now she is leaving, has a few friends and starting over this week while I am left with no one to spend time with to keep my mind off things.

I have cried for 2 days straight and she hasnt shed a single tear, but she wanted this so for her I guess its easier.

ouch, bitch is already going out and getting wasted to the point where some random guy (not hassan) can just come in and whisper some nice words into her ear like "it's gonna be ok, here have another drink" then boom - she's hooked and you two are really done.
not only does it suck that she convinced you to leave georgia because you hangout with fast & the furious people, but she clearly doesn't givva fuck.

you've been crying not like a man, but like a little teenage bitch... no seriously brett - i don't know you in a personal level but you are. TWO FUCKIN' DAYS???! i hope you're exaggerating


sure you know how it feels to lose the love of your life (rip leisa) so that alone should've made you stronger to NEVER shed a tear for another bitch who isn't feeling you anymore
i feel sorry for you because like you said, you're 39 years old, it's not like you can hop in your car and start club hopping with yer boys - in hopes that some ditchpig will open her legs for you. gah it sucks that one day i will be old too!
at the end of the day, there's really nothing ANYONE here can say to you that will make you feel better. we'd all need to be telling you this in person for you to really get what we're saying; which is to STOP crying and to show her that you're okay with what's happened. you will move on, and you will continue to be the jolly goofy dude that you've always been.

[Brett]

Well when I say crying for 2 days Im not saying 24/7, But I have over the past few days hit spots in the day where I break down especially if I am talking to someone about it. Its easier said than done to not cry over this, I love her and it kills me even more to imagine what will take place this weekend and how she doesnt even seem to care what this has done to me. Like I said, makes me feel I am disposable ya know

[Vteckidd]

I am sure she will be in bed with someone next weekend, just to spite me, even though Id never know, in her mind its doing it to hurt me.

you cant think like that man. If she DOES go out and be a whore, then shes a whore. Do you REALLY want to be with a girl that does that to herself, and to you?

If she DOESNT do it, then what are you supposed to do high five her? It doesnt change the situation.

You cannot think youll NEVER be with someone else, and you cannot think shell never be with someone else. It is going to happen, its just not gonna be on your terms.

Im sure after Leisa you thought you would never find the light at the end of the tunnel, and then you found someone else. So give it TIME, and worry about YOU, not what shes doing.

[Vteckidd]

brett, forgive me for saying this... but i feel her true colors are coming out now. she put on a front for a while because she knew she could get anything she wanted from you. what changed, we may never know. but man, you cant let yourself be consumed by bullshit such as that. call me when you're coming into town. bacon claimed first beer, so round two is on me.

she got what she needed out of him, and now she thinks she can find something better, so shes moving on. Thats prob it in a nutshell

[Brett]

^^ Thats how I feel.

[Firefightin_tC]

BTW...when everyone gets together, I want Round Three.

Just saying.

[Brett]

well I will be in town Memorial weekend if anyone wants to meet up and hang, Im totally game!! I Miss everyone alot

[Julio]

Sucks dude.
alt tab del sir.

[GhostSTI]

sorry to hear man, i went through a divorce about 6mos ago.

[Echonova]

If there are two things Echonova knows it's:

A.) How to talk in the third person. 'Cuz erebody knows Echonova don't play

B.) Skanky bitches and how they act

[Brett]

Thanks Julio..... ATL DEL Sir?? WTF is that? lol

[Julio]

keyboard strokes..

Alt Tab delete.. lol

[Brett]

LOL, Doh!! HAHA

[Brett]

Seems more and more like she is now living with this guy from her office and then if thats the case I know they must be sleeping together.... I just cant believe she would walk out on me and that same weekend go to another guy

[Crazydelsol]

Look man don't get stuck in the memories you had with her, just pretend she was never there and when you see old friends and start hanging out you will realize she was never worth it! It sucks bro but ppls second faces always comes out! Just be single for a while!

[Vteckidd]

Seems more and more like she is now living with this guy from her office and then if thats the case I know they must be sleeping together.... I just cant believe she would walk out on me and that same weekend go to another guy

you are going to drive yourself insane thinking about stuff like that. You just gotta let it go. Dont check up on her, dont find out any info on her, just cut her out. Its over, shes not coming back, its the end of "us" but not the end of "you". If you sit around obsessing over what shes doing you are going to drive yourself insane and make yourself depressed.

You were fine BEFORE you met her, youll be fine AFTER shes gone. You survived for XX years before her, youll survive after her.

Like i said if shes moving on that fast, she used you, she didnt CARE about YOU, and you shouldnt show her the same respect. Im not saying be mean and nasty, but id tell her to get her stuff out in 30 days or youre throwing it out, and never contact her again.

[Brett]

yeah and at first I was going to pay for the legal seperation which sucks because here you have to be legally separated for 1 year before they will grant a divorce but from what I can find it seems its between $1,000-$1,500 for the legal separation, so I am going to tell her she wanted this, so she will be paying half of it.

Thank for the tough love mike, sometimes its needed, I know that

[Vteckidd]

Well look at positive side too. No kids involved, so you'll get s clean break. You found out who she really was relatively early on in your marriage, think if she did this stuff behind your back and you found out 10-15 years later.

It's not going to be easy, it's not going to be sunshine and rainbows, but you gotta believe you're better off. And you will be.

I think splitting the cost 50/50 is more than fair. If she resists and gets pissed then guess what, too bad. In the end it'll cost you $1000-1500 to get rid of her forever, pretty cheap :p

You'll be fine. Just concentrate on making money, and making yourself better. You want to be desirable, and the best person you can be. Ultimate revenge is 5 years from now when you're well off and happy with someone else, and she's still slumming around being the party girl and has no future, you can say "yeah I'm def better off"

Living well is the best revenge

[B18c1Turboed]

If i read this right, YOU BROKE UP! No marriage involved, pick up and move on. No offense but dont feel bad when alot of your friends arent there for you. I mean you left them for some girl.

[Firefightin_tC]

you are going to drive yourself insane thinking about stuff like that. You just gotta let it go. Dont check up on her, dont find out any info on her, just cut her out. Its over, shes not coming back, its the end of "us" but not the end of "you". If you sit around obsessing over what shes doing you are going to drive yourself insane and make yourself depressed.

You were fine BEFORE you met her, youll be fine AFTER shes gone. You survived for XX years before her, youll survive after her.

Like i said if shes moving on that fast, she used you, she didnt CARE about YOU, and you shouldnt show her the same respect. Im not saying be mean and nasty, but id tell her to get her stuff out in 30 days or youre throwing it out, and never contact her again.

THIS!!!!

[whoaitzbrain]

I TREAT A BITCH LIKE 7-UP..NEVER HAVE, NEVER WILL. SOMONE PASS ME A LIGHTER

[Brett]

If i read this right, YOU BROKE UP! No marriage involved, pick up and move on. No offense but dont feel bad when alot of your friends arent there for you. I mean you left them for some girl.

And that I agree but she wasnt some girl, she was my wife... I tried to do what she wanted to make her happy, was it smart... no... but we all do stupid things for the woman we love

[Firefightin_tC]

The real question is...

...when and where are meeting up. I got money to spend and booze to drink!

[Echonova]

If you can both agree on how to split up the assets, a No-Contest divorce should only run you 800-ish. Granted, it's been a while since I last checked on prices. But $1,500 seems excessive for filing some papers that neither side will dispute.


But if it is $1,500... VtecKidd is still right. It's a cheap lesson learned.

[Brett]

Im trying to find one of these lawyers who specialize in just divorce uncontested who will do it cheap. In Atlanta you see billboards for like $799 ones...LOL but not here

[Brett]

The real question is...

...when and where are meeting up. I got money to spend and booze to drink!

We will all plan something, for sure!!

[Brett]

So I threw out our rings earlier this week and now after she has walked out on and has been gone a week, and getting her stuff Sunday, she asked for her ring back, I told her I disposed of it and she says she is going to file a police report stating I have stolen property... I mean really? She said when we married it was a contract and that ring was hers. I cant believe her.

[teh bri]

Yeah I think Im gonna come down to see my dad Memorial Day weekend since Im off that Monday so I am not sitting around here thinking about her. So I will come down that Friday morning if anyone wants to meet for lunch, Lemme know that day

Me.

[EJdm]

wow i dont know you....but y doesnt she want the ring when she is the unhappy on?? what a bitch! tell her to call the cop faster and leave bc she on trespassing...i would've had all her stuff outside waiting for her...take a break and dont think to much and time will heal...

[CSquared]

So I threw out our rings earlier this week and now after she has walked out on and has been gone a week, and getting her stuff Sunday, she asked for her ring back, I told her I disposed of it and she says she is going to file a police report stating I have stolen property... I mean really? She said when we married it was a contract and that ring was hers. I cant believe her.

God she sounds like an immature money hungry bitch.

[Brett]

I'm sure she wants it so she can sell it

[Firefightin_tC]

If she wanted it...she shouldn't have taken it off.

Tell her to kick rocks and move back to Atlanta, dear sir!

POSTHASTE!

[quickdodge®]

it seems its between $1,000-$1,500 for the legal separation, so I am going to tell her she wanted this, so she will be paying half of it.

If she wants this, make her pay for all of it. Later, QD.

[ludeguy420]

i agree with qd.. she wants this make her pay for it..

[teh bri]

If she wants this, make her pay for all of it. Later, QD.

Agreed, 100%.

[Brett]

If she wants this, make her pay for all of it. Later, QD.

I agree, 365 days from today I'm gonna text her and tell her to file and pay. Have to be separated 1 year to file. Mike, do you not have a Facebook page?

Brittanee, send me a friend request on FB