Quote Originally Posted by velomack View Post
- Shouldn't marry someone who you cant trust or can be upfront with
- 2 years is too short to get married, especially living apart. Granted in some cases it does work, but the statistics are against you.
- why are you still with her? IMO you are being lame by allowing her to trick off and are giving her minimal punishment, let alone not leaving her.
- Move on dude, life is too short for you to be waiting around for her to act right. Marriage doesn't correct anything. Hope this helps
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Quote Originally Posted by -EnVus- View Post
You haven't seen your fiance in a year is a issue all to its self. Sounds like first thing is you don't have time and location for each other for a relationship. Also im almost positive she is seeking someone else and trying to see if the grass is greener on the other side. If you can't both be together in the same area or house and work and come home to be with each other then its not gonna work out. The biggest thing of all is when she says she wants to wait for school to be over translates into "I will meet a lot of guys and do things at frat parties" if she isn't tied down then she has nothing to feel guilty about when she does it. I have noticed along with many other studies that this is the age and decade of cheating and lust.
Men and women alike will cheat more and more these days and divorces are on the rise more than ever. People are marring younger and having kids just to end up being divorced before they are 25. Swinger parties and bi relationships are also on the rise due to lovers not wanting to just be with one person at a time but a few as long as its mutual. College is like it always is "Party Central" Kids only wanna go to school for fun and end up dropping out due to low grades or felling semesters from lack of studies from parting.
To sum it all up i say she is not trust worthy and is hoping you make a move first to end it. Id find a girl who has the time and is willing to relocate with out for not only work but for loves sake.
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Quote Originally Posted by Browning151 View Post
Move on, plain and simple. Like others have said, she's trying to have her cake and eat it too. I was with my ex for almost 7 years and she started acting like that after about 5 years, only difference was she wasn't in school and we weren't long distance. It's going to suck for awhile after calling it quits if your feelings are that strong for her, but I have learned that you will be WAY happier in the long run without having to deal with that BS. If/when you decide to do it, make it a clean break, don't keep calling/texting each other. You may want to talk to her, she may try to talk to you, but if you're serious about it being over that's only going to make it a more drawn out process. There's too many other women out there to get yourself stuck with someone who doesn't respect you, you'll just end up miserable and divorced.
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Quote Originally Posted by David88vert View Post
This is 100% correct.

I strongly suggest that you find someone closer to you, that you trust more. I also suggest that it is just as easy to fall in love with a rich girl who can support you in the lifestyle that you would like to become accustomed to, as a poor one that you will have to support.
Set your standards high, and never compromise them. She needs to be everything you ever dreamed of, and then some.
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Quote Originally Posted by Bajjani View Post
You're 23 and you've been in a four year relationship with a girl you haevn't lived near for half of. Dude, life may be short but not THAT short, I'm only 24 and I dated a girl for four years but she practically lived w/me and me moving to GA ended it cause long distance while she was in school wouldn't work to much fighting. Don't sweat it, we're way to young to get caught up in that bs drama. And if there is drama now and no trust now, the whole relationship is drama.
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Leave her, Its not worth it man...

It might be hard, with all the feelings you have and such.. but SERIOUSLY dont do it man... LEAVE her.. and move on with YOUR life.. FOR YOU.. If someone comes along.. Then sure.. take it, and be more INTO the relationship, and make sure SHE is also...

This shit goes on EVERY day.. WOMEN LIE, MEN LIE... It takes along time to find one that actually is Loyal...