Nice Guys

[PSINXS]

Brandon don't let one bad experience dictate the rest of your dating life. Sometimes as humans, we get so wrapped up in feelings and "the moment" that we fail to see what's really going on until it's too late (i.e. after marriage). More than likely the red flags were present before you got married, but you two were so in lust that it was not clear to either of you at the time. I mean it's part of life. We all make mistakes and we learn from those mistakes. What you should have gained from this is another knotch of knowledge in your belt. You should know now that it takes time to really get to know someone for who they are. Just when you think you know them, take so more time just to be sure. Don't rush things. Being girlfriend/boyfriend for awhile is ok. As long as you two are together it shouldn't be a big deal whether you have papers or not. At this point in my life, I really don't even see the point of getting married besides the tax reasons behind it. Oh and the big fancy wedding and ring us girls dream of as children. But as long as you two have each other, isn't that what matters the most? People think that marriage is the answer, when sometimes it's the very thing that will ruin what you have.

ill date seriously one day. but i will never marry whoever it is. but it will be years before i even date seriously. yea i got a lot of knowledge out of it. and one is not to marry. anybody can fake being a good person, but once that ring is on they flip. I will not take taht gamble.

as for our generation, marriage is never the answer. Nobody knows what love is, and the values of a marriage, people are too selfish, schemers, ulterior motives,etc. Our parents had good values, and it died with their generation. The quality of women has gone waay down the drain,so I just adapt tot he circumstances and there isnt much out here i would even consider wifing up yet alone taking serious.

[BluesClues]

ill date seriously one day. but i will never marry whoever it is. but it will be years before i even date seriously. yea i got a lot of knowledge out of it. and one is not to marry. anybody can fake being a good person, but once that ring is on they flip. I will not take taht gamble.

as for our generation, marriage is never the answer. Nobody knows what love is, and the values of a marriage, people are too selfish, schemers, ulterior motives,etc. Our parents had good values, and it died with their generation. The quality of women has gone waay down the drain,so I just adapt tot he circumstances and there isnt much out here i would even consider wifing up yet alone taking serious.

Sounds like you have become bitter (the one thing I hope to not happen to me). I think with time and healing you will maybe feel different one day. But I do have to agree with you on our generation does not know what it takes to make a relationship work. The main key is SACRIFICES! Not everyone can get what they want. Sometimes you have to give in order to get. People don't understand that people that have been married for 20+ years or whatever are still together because they had to put up with a lot of shit. Someone may have cheated some where down the road, but the other one was serious about their vows and made the relationship work anyway. People these days are so quick to give up when shit gets hard. Marriage is not always going to be pretty and bright. You are going to have days where everything looks grey and you feel like you can't stand the other person. It all comes down to how willing are you to do whatever it takes to make your relationship work? Are you really committed? That's why I say people should hold off on marriage. Wait until you are in your thirties (by then you should have enough life experience). Make sure you really know the person enough, know their good and bad qualities before you tie the knot. That way you know what you are getting into and how to better handle them and whatever life may throw at you two.

I personally also think as humans as each generation goes by, we get lazier expecting things to be so easy for us (technology is an example of this). When shit doesn't go the way we expect it to, we give up. No one wants to work hard anymore (like our ancestors or parents). Everyone wants the easy way out of everything!

[PSINXS]

Sounds like you have become bitter (the one thing I hope to not happen to me). I think with time and healing you will maybe feel different one day. But I do have to agree with you on our generation does not know what it takes to make a relationship work. The main key is SACRIFICES! Not everyone can get what they want. Sometimes you have to give in order to get. People don't understand that people that have been married for 20+ years or whatever are still together because they had to put up with a lot of shit. Someone may have cheated some where down the road, but the other one was serious about their vows and made the relationship work anyway. People these days are so quick to give up when shit gets hard. Marriage is not always going to be pretty and bright. You are going to have days where everything looks grey and you feel like you can't stand the other person. It all comes down to how willing are you to do whatever it takes to make your relationship work? Are you really committed? That's why I say people should hold off on marriage. Wait until you are in your thirties (by then you should have enough life experience). Make sure you really know the person enough, know their good and bad qualities before you tie the knot. That way you know what you are getting into and how to better handle them and whatever life may throw at you two.

I personally also think as humans as each generation goes by, we get lazier expecting things to be so easy for us (technology is an example of this). When shit doesn't go the way we expect it to, we give up. No one wants to work hard anymore (like our ancestors or parents). Everyone wants the easy way out of everything!

bitter? nah, smarter yea. i still give women a break, but cant take em seriously at all. not unless im talkin to the 35+ age range. most girls r full of games and i dont wait around for games.

whre i am at right now will not allow for a serious relationship. period. its not worth it. then at the same time u dont know whats going on my end. i'm not out here just doggin females(except for the ones that want that), I will date. but it will not be serious to the point of this my one and only woman forever etc etc. its gonna take a miracle of a girl to bring that about. I jsut wanna kick it with somebody with no hassle. all that who u talkin too, where u been, y u aint call me shit, i am not with it. after 30 will be the only time i will consider marrying, and it wont be something i will be searching for. its jsut gonna have to be by chance.