Wow. No knock on you, but I TOTALLY disagree here. Things like this is why we have kids killing kids and kids killing adults/parents. A lot of these people are just NOT ready to become adults. Think about it... if it'd JUST affect the mom/dad if they got prego before they were ready then I'd say GO FOR IT, they need to have the kid to "teach them a lesson" or "lay in the bed they made" as you say. However it is a LIFE that will ultimately be affected. If you can't provide for YOURSELF then how/why could you provide for a kid? You can be "pro life" and that's fine, but parents who are parents before they are ready are not doing a kid ANY favors. Go to the jailhouses and ask the inmates about their upbringing and how early their mom had them. Yeah some1 CAN turn out to be something great no matter what, but why STACK THE ODDS AGAINST YOUR KID FROM THE JUMP? You build something on shaky ground it's bound to fall over. Statistics do not lie... the law of averages kix in eventually and I think we just need to be able to make the TOUGH decisions in life w/ your BRAIN and not just your heart. To me, the "make your bed and lay in" phrase means having to look yourself in the mirror and live with the fact that you had to terminate a pregancy b/c you were STUPID. Any other way you handle this problem (1: adoption, 2: trying to struggle to raise the kid when you do not have the means) and the KID pays for it, NOT you. You are "fine" living w/ the fact that "yeah, I did what I had to do and I raised him" but the KID has to live w/ the brunt of your stupidity in most cases. If I could bear that cross for my kid, I would --> I'd live w/ the fact that I had to terminate before I bring them into this world w/ anything less than the BEST chance at becoming something. Yeah, you could send your kid to a gun fight w/ only a knife and he might take out a few people... but he WILL lose. Why not send him in w/ 2 guns, a scope, some body armor and a some camo paint. The anti-abortion people are USUALLY very emo types who need to understand that there is a BALANCE --> you HAVE to use your BRAIN, there is a reason why it is bigger than your heart. To think that some chick who is STUPID/IRRESPONSIBLE enough to get knocked up before marriage ALL OF SUDDEN has the "stuff" to be a good mom, or the best mom just b/c she got prego is dumber than getting knocked up in the 1st place. She has already (and the MAN too, not just her... but the BOTTOM line is WOMEN can get pregant not men. So guess what I am gonna tell my daughter, YUP --> a man can walk away at ANY time, so it's YOUR responsibilty to not get pregnant) shown that at least in some regard she was irresponsible.Originally Posted by XterraChic
Also, as far as the women who get prego while they are ON the pill or the shot should think of some1 ELSE other than themsleves if they want the kid. If a man is gonna go raw w/ you b/c he KNOWS you are on the pill/shot then WHAT MAKES YOU THINK HE FEELS IT'S OKAY TO HAVE A BABY SHOULD YOU GET KNOCKED UP???? HELLO!!!! I will give you a hint ladies... I personally think that a woman on BC does NOT want kids... AT ALL COSTS. I have a daughter now b/c I was wrong. I love her to death but this is where I messed up. I relinquished my control to some1 who did not feel the way that I did. I will never do that again. Guys... go home RIGHT NOW and ask your gf what happens if she gets prego... if she says she will not be able to terminate then change the way you play. SERIOUSLY. Take it from me... there is no worse feeling than the love of your life (i.e my daughter) coming from a woman that you would not want to be a mother to your kid. Also ladies, just remember that if your arrangement is "booty", then keep it booty... don't switch it up to "babies" just caus you fuck up. NOT kool. I will prolly be the most vocal man on the board, but I assure you I am saying what most of the guys WANNA say. /rant
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