Alright, if my boy Baby J can go long wind, yall KNOW I can.....
As I said earlier, you should not chastise anyone on either side since this is a very personal choice and more importantly a very very difficult one.
Many of you are right: This is not a choice for the indecisive ones. It is a choice that once it's made it WILL impact you regardless of which way you go for the rest of your life.
Before anyone jumps on me, I want to say that although I am very steadfast in my religious beliefs......I haven't always been like that and more importantly I have been through both sides of this debate right along side of some very important people in my life. I have held someone's hand when they had an abortion. I have seen the frustration of parents that can't conceive. I have seen the red tape it takes to adopt a child even when they're available parents dying to have them. I have been in 7 deliveries, although I only have 2 children of my own. So, I have been there and done that. No more details needed.
I can tell yall from my personal first hand experience that people who abort children, no matter what the reason, will in fact be affected forever (unless they have no conscience). It is a VERY difficult decision when the chips are down. It is easy for some people to say what they WOULD do today when he or she is not pregnant. When the time comes, it's very difficult to make that decision for most. Life begins at conception. Taking a life is not an easy choice to make for just about anyone, especially someone who is young and scared.
I can also tell yall from first hand experience that there is no greater reward than being a GOOD parent. Children have a way of changing any and all situations you find yourself in. It is very much hard work. It is very much a lot of sacrifices. It is also very very much worth it. When your own flesh and blood comes out of nowhere for no reason at all and hugs you and kisses you and tells you "I love you Dad..." Tell me just reading that didn't pull at your heart strings, let alone living it. I am blessed with 2 beautiful children. They're not perfect to everyone else, but they are to me. I am very glad we made the decision (one was planned, one was a surprise) to be parents together. It's been a long hard road to hoe, but that's the price of admission.
I can also tell yall that the pain of NOT being able to have your own child is ruthless. I had a family member that tried and tried. Fertility doctors and medicines didn't work. Finally they adopted. They're situation was unique because they adopted a child that was already their family member anyway. They adopted their nephew from the wife's sister who could not and had no business having him in the first place. He is my Godson. He is very well adjusted and will in no way have anything lacking as long as I have any say so. He may never know how close he came to being aborted. It may not even matter because he will be a success. I know it.
I can also tell you that we all need to be more compassionate with others. Children are the only innocent ones. Too often they are made to suffer because we want to save face or because it doesn't fit into our plans. It is your decision to make. Be aware that there are indeed consequences for either decision. Noone's life is ever the same after pregnancy. Sometimes its physical but it is always psychological too. To be a GOOD parent, you have to have the right mindset that now everything is no longer about you only. Noone is truly ever "ready", but some have no business trying yet either. This is one of many things that SHOULD go thru someone's head when engaging in sexual activity.
Are you ready to make the hard choices? Are you ready to accept your position as a parent? Are you able to provide for your child? Are you strong enough to do the right thing, not for you but for the unborn child?
If you can't answer the above questions, then maybe you should be ultra cautious and preventative when having sex.
Notice that I have not divulged my personal position on this. Why? Because I've already made that decision for ME, and I would be happy to sit with anyone and hold their hand at either the abortion clinic or the delivery room. I am not anyone to pass judgement, but I'd be glad to offer support to anyone during one of the most difficult decisions anyone will ever make in their life.
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