hoo all is pregnant on IA??

**~The_Duke~** · 07-13-2006, 07:31 PM

babies are a bundles of joy, and enjoy every second of them not knowing how to walking and crawl...

**DnBmama05** · 07-13-2006, 07:35 PM

you're right scrappy... i mean sometimes i wonder 'what would i be doing now' or 'what was life like before when i could sleep all day and do whatever i wanted'... but it's really weird because i can't imagine what life would be like without having my son... for a looong time i wasn't ENJOYING motherhood the way i felt like i should, but i think i expected to feel differently than i did - i'm sure post partum had a pretty big effect as far as that goes. my friends that had kids were always talking about how much they LOVE being mothers and i just didn't know if i felt that way - but a few of them weren't being mothers... their moms were taking care of their kids and they came around when they felt like being a parent... so then i understood. i just wanted to stick that in there because i know a lot of women that have babies go through the same thing i went through.

**DnBmama05** · 07-13-2006, 07:37 PM

Originally Posted by ~The_Duke~

babies are a bundles of joy, and enjoy every second of them not knowing how to walking and crawl...

you speak the truth!! i would love to be able to lay my kid down and get ready for work in the morning and not worry about what he's trying to get into

**~The_Duke~** · 07-13-2006, 07:38 PM

Originally Posted by DnBmama05

you speak the truth!! i would love to be able to lay my kid down and get ready for work in the morning and not worry about what he's trying to get into

mine is usually pretty good about getting into cabnets and what not...but you have worry about what she is climbing or beating the dog with...

**DnBmama05** · 07-13-2006, 07:39 PM

Originally Posted by Julio

400 to 500 bucks wouldve save you some headaches that you are about to endure.

Sorry. I dont believe in having something when you are not ready.

the emotional scars this leaves on a lot of women is sometimes worse than actually taking care of a human being for 18 years... ready or not - giving it up for adoption is a MUCH better way to go if you're not ready...

**~The_Duke~** · 07-13-2006, 07:41 PM

Originally Posted by DnBmama05

the emotional scars this leaves on a lot of women is sometimes worse than actually taking care of a human being for 18 years... ready or not - giving it up for adoption is a MUCH better way to go if you're not ready...

this is true specailly if you have that after birth depression stuff...I dont remember the correct verbage...

**DnBmama05** · 07-13-2006, 07:41 PM

how old is she duke?

**Julio** · 07-13-2006, 07:42 PM

Originally Posted by DnBmama05

the emotional scars this leaves on a lot of women is sometimes worse than actually taking care of a human being for 18 years... ready or not - giving it up for adoption is a MUCH better way to go if you're not ready...

I just think if you are out there fucking dudes and get pregnant, you cant tell me " I WAS READY " fuck that shit.
Your fucking your life up and then a new one.

**Scrappy** · 07-13-2006, 07:43 PM

Originally Posted by DnBmama05

you're right scrappy... i mean sometimes i wonder 'what would i be doing now' or 'what was life like before when i could sleep all day and do whatever i wanted'... but it's really weird because i can't imagine what life would be like without having my son... for a looong time i wasn't ENJOYING motherhood the way i felt like i should, but i think i expected to feel differently than i did - i'm sure post partum had a pretty big effect as far as that goes. my friends that had kids were always talking about how much they LOVE being mothers and i just didn't know if i felt that way - but a few of them weren't being mothers... their moms were taking care of their kids and they came around when they felt like being a parent... so then i understood. i just wanted to stick that in there because i know a lot of women that have babies go through the same thing i went through.

there could be alot i would say along with this but keeping it off the "internet" and hiding it inside of my mind. but yes this baby will be with me and not my mom considering i have been on my own for so long anyways. I have already started changing what i do so that its not a huge instant challenge and change when the baby is born. but the ones that rely on others to take the "mother" initiative...

want to smack them sometimes.

**~The_Duke~** · 07-13-2006, 07:43 PM

Originally Posted by DnBmama05

how old is she duke?

My daughter is 2 1/2 and her mother is 19

**B18c-rex** · 07-13-2006, 07:44 PM

I must say that not having the father or father figure around in the childrens life would make it even harder. I would think just my

**~The_Duke~** · 07-13-2006, 07:46 PM

Originally Posted by B18c-rex

I must say that not having the father or father figure around in the childrens life would make it even harder. I would think just my

it is very diffcult with just one parent no matter which one is missing...cas I have a hard to getting anything done when I am watching my daughter and that is the same way with her mother...

**Scrappy** · 07-13-2006, 07:46 PM

Originally Posted by Julio

I just think if you are out there fucking dudes and get pregnant, you cant tell me " I WAS READY " fuck that shit.
Your fucking your life up and then a new one.

i wasnt just "fucking dudes" nor did i say i was ready when i was doing it. but i have learned to take responsibility and learn from it that minute and for life. never was it a mistake nor will my baby ever be a mistake julio. dont see why ou are being so negative about it ... i am not fucking My life nor my babies life up! if its not directed to me then please let me know cuase last i checked, mine has almost everything he already needs and is not even here yet

and will have my life as support and a leason to learn

**Scrappy** · 07-13-2006, 07:48 PM

Originally Posted by B18c-rex

I must say that not having the father or father figure around in the childrens life would make it even harder. I would think just my

I know mine will so that wasnt directed towards me...

**Scrappy** · 07-13-2006, 07:50 PM

btw, i am 21 and settled my life down A LOT compared to my past and you julio can vouch for that! so this talk like i am a 16 year old who made a "mistake being a slut" isnt too nice but whatever. going to get my stuff done for the day and go check on my roomie.

**Julio** · 07-13-2006, 07:51 PM

Originally Posted by Scrappy

i wasnt just "fucking dudes" nor did i say i was ready when i was doing it. but i have learned to take responsibility and learn from it that minute and for life. never was it a mistake nor will my baby ever be a mistake julio. dont see why ou are being so negative about it ... i am not fucking My life nor my babies life up! if its not directed to me then please let me know cuase last i checked, mine has almost everything he already needs and is not even here yet

and will have my life as support and a leason to learn

Generally speaking.

But something you said just stuck out.

So were you trying to get pregnant ? If not, then it was a mistake

**Scrappy** · 07-13-2006, 07:53 PM

Originally Posted by Julio

Generally speaking.

But something you said just stuck out.

So were you trying to get pregnant ? If not, then it was a mistake

well we were obviously "trying" considering he is on his way already

and no it is never going to be a mistake, you can say it was in your own opinion but this is the first time i ever had a "scare" and risked it so i knew mentally i was READY... unlike you might think

**Julio** · 07-13-2006, 07:53 PM

Me, i fix shit real quick.

**Julio** · 07-13-2006, 07:54 PM

Originally Posted by Scrappy

well we were obviously "trying" considering he is on his way already

and no it is never going to be a mistake, you can say it was in your own opinion but this is the first time i ever had a "scare" and risked it so i knew mentally i was READY... unlike you might think

Thats cool shawty. I was just asking.

**Scrappy** · 07-13-2006, 07:54 PM

Originally Posted by Julio

Me, i fix shit real quick.

and thats why you are the man with a penis... so you wont ever have to try that on me

**DnBmama05** · 07-13-2006, 08:01 PM

Originally Posted by Scrappy

btw, i am 21 and settled my life down A LOT compared to my past and you julio can vouch for that! so this talk like i am a 16 year old who made a "mistake being a slut" isnt too nice but whatever. going to get my stuff done for the day and go check on my roomie.

i can relate to how you feel about that... i was 17 at the time so not too far from 16

but i had a few people that i used to work with say all kinds of negative things. one girl said that i need to think about the baby and whether or not i wanted to walk down the halls of my high school pregnant - thanks for the prep talk

but i knew what i wanted to do from the day i found out... and i could care less about what people at my school thought

most of them were out doin the same thing it just hasn't caught up with them yet. the thing about abortion is - you may not be ready now... but you may be one day and not be able to have any children because it can mess your body up

**Scrappy** · 07-13-2006, 08:07 PM

Originally Posted by DnBmama05

i can relate to how you feel about that... i was 17 at the time so not too far from 16

but i had a few people that i used to work with say all kinds of negative things. one girl said that i need to think about the baby and whether or not i wanted to walk down the halls of my high school pregnant - thanks for the prep talk

but i knew what i wanted to do from the day i found out... and i could care less about what people at my school thought

most of them were out doin the same thing it just hasn't caught up with them yet. the thing about abortion is - you may not be ready now... but you may be one day and not be able to have any children because it can mess your body up

I agree 100%!!!! I am to the point i do not care about the negativity and do not let it get inside me like i did at first, and take only the positive to heart and move on

but i am glad you and i both think ALOT alike, kinda scary though in a way lol

**DnBmama05** · 07-13-2006, 08:11 PM

the people being negative were the ones that had had abortions or would consider it... hate to say it, but it's true... they HATE to see someone happy

**Scrappy** · 07-13-2006, 08:15 PM

Originally Posted by DnBmama05

the people being negative were the ones that had had abortions or would consider it... hate to say it, but it's true... they HATE to see someone happy

yup this girl at my work is like... """dude babies are the worst thing anyone can think of being happy about...

... i wanted one and then once it was here i didnt and got a abortion, well i had 3 in my life but no man will ever be there except for that baby so it isnt worth a minute of your mind """

people just dont know how to say congrats and move on if they do not approve... not my mom so the opinion does not matter

**babygurl** · 07-13-2006, 08:19 PM

Originally Posted by DnBmama05

the people being negative were the ones that had had abortions or would consider it... hate to say it, but it's true... they HATE to see someone happy

not everyone is like that dear...I knwo a few people who have had abortions, and suggested it to someone....its not that they dont want to see them happy...I for one believe in choices, I have suggested it to friends, and that was only as supprt, rather you see that as good or bad, that is my choice. But please dont mistake everyone with not wanting to see others happy!

I do think having a baby is a wonderful thing, but sometimes people are just not ready, and yes adoption is another choice...again its all about choices!

I will say this there are ways to protect yourself, but sometimes not even condoms or birth control work...

Edit: not trying to attack you either

**babygurl** · 07-13-2006, 08:21 PM

Originally Posted by Scrappy

yup this girl at my work is like... """dude babies are the worst thing anyone can think of being happy about...

... i wanted one and then once it was here i didnt and got a abortion, well i had 3 in my life but no man will ever be there except for that baby so it isnt worth a minute of your mind """

people just dont know how to say congrats and move on if they do not approve... not my mom so the opinion does not matter

and you are correct there...

**DnBmama05** · 07-13-2006, 08:30 PM

Originally Posted by babygurl

not everyone is like that dear...I knwo a few people who have had abortions, and suggested it to someone....its not that they dont want to see them happy...I for one believe in choices, I have suggested it to friends, and that was only as supprt, rather you see that as good or bad, that is my choice. But please dont mistake everyone with not wanting to see others happy!

I do think having a baby is a wonderful thing, but sometimes people are just not ready, and yes adoption is another choice...again its all about choices!

I will say this there are ways to protect yourself, but sometimes not even condoms or birth control work...

Edit: not trying to attack you either

no, i don't take it as an attack at all

i definitely didn't mean for it to sound like ALL people who do that or think that... which i'm sure it probably did... but just from experiences i had... they were the only people who would have any feeling toward that... if you haven't been in the situation then i think you would probably be indifferent to someone else's situation. on a side note, i have never liked other people's kids around me before i had a child... they were just snotty nosed and annoying... i never babysat kids or anything, let alone having a snotty nosed one of my own... but after i had my son i have sooo much more patience for other people's children

kind of irrelevant, but actually having a child can change someone's outlook on them so much.

**RandomGuy** · 07-13-2006, 08:48 PM

very true, but back then they didnt know me,

but see now that i'm hot, theyre all on me.

**MongolPup** · 07-13-2006, 10:59 PM

Damn.... this is surreal.

It seems like normally IA is full of stupid bullshit, like "I could steal your girl" "Why you talking behind my back?". But this is an entirely different caliber of "drama"; one that has peoples lives and livelihoods riding on it. In the last month how many lives have changed forever for the good or the bad?

As far as being exciting or serene about what is about to happen in your life.... are you sure? It's easy to put a game face on, or even feel good some of the time, but that’s dangerous. Happy for the future one-second, cold and alone the next. It would rip me to SHREDS if I (was a girl first off) and I was pregnant by an un-loving father, as a result of a one night stand, affair, drunken love or the like. Maybe I'm not far enough in my life to have the inner peace you ladies can, but it defies everything I have ever known to have something good come out of such a horrible situation.

I'll admit, when I first read about what exactly had happened I was disgusted. "What a fucking waste of 2 lives" I said. However, I failed to think about that what my idea of a good life is different from anyone else’s; and I have yet to feel the biological urges programmed into every human to promote reproduction. I also realized that this could just have easily been me; what really makes us different?

I remember at some point a couple of months ago I saw Cav pulling out of a McDonalds. What gets me is did she have any idea what was going to happen not that far in the future? It's the same kind of deal as when "Negrodamus" was killed in a traffic accident. I didn't really think anything of it until I was reading a thread and saw a post he made and I thought about it.....that little green light next to his name would NEVER light up again. It's almost a ghostly trail.

Last week scrappy went ahead and told me that I hadn't done something that I had. I replied and I was expecting something of an acknowledgement of my answer; the nature of what she said was something that I almost expected an apology or something. However, apparently that wasn't the case, and I was asked if I was retarded. I was confused, and then angry. I almost replied to the effect of "me retarded? Listen here bitch at least I'm not.......". Looking back though, now I feel a kind of respect for her. To be blunt, if I was in her shoes, I quite possibly could have committed suicide by now. That shouldn't be taken lightly in any way shape or form, as I have never typed, said, or thought anything to that effect until this very moment.

To be able to make order out of chaos is something that will stick with me for a long time. What the fuck is wrong with me to be angry about how this or that isn't going my way.....most of those things are trivial and naive. I don't think I have ever learned something from IA or it's members, but this could change all that. Suddenly, I am very human indeed.

It's about 12 in the morning, and I'm sure no one will read this until tomorrow, when the thread will be 13 pages long, my monologue replaced by "bake me some cookies puto" and "coat hanger time yo!". However, if there is anything I ask, take this for what it is and leave it alone. I doubt I have ever written anything so serious for a message board, but it is what it is and I hope everyone can take a grain of salt when they think about replying to it in any way that is less mature then I would feel like it should be.

In conclusion, I have nothing but respect for the parties involved. It was too easy for me to point and laugh and be glad it wasn't me, but we all bleed the same red blood. Thanks for reading, and good luck with everything.

**lexi2003** · 07-13-2006, 11:00 PM

i am pregnant with a baby boy but i am on my last few days

**Scrappy** · 07-13-2006, 11:06 PM

Originally Posted by MongolPup

Last week scrappy went ahead and told me that I hadn't done something that I had. I replied and I was expecting something of an acknowledgement of my answer; the nature of what she said was something that I almost expected an apology or something. However, apparently that wasn't the case, and I was asked if I was retarded. I was confused, and then angry. I almost replied to the effect of "me retarded? Listen here bitch at least I'm not.......". Looking back though, now I feel a kind of respect for her. To be blunt, if I was in her shoes, I quite possibly could have committed suicide by now. That shouldn't be taken lightly in any way shape or form, as I have never typed, said, or thought anything to that effect until this very moment.

aww buddy i was far from serious... i just had NO clue what you were talking about or asking... theres nothign wrong with being in my shoes

keeps me alive and alert of reality daily even before this news that i have known about for a while now, just for some reason IA was behind on finding out about :my life: lol

**MongolPup** · 07-13-2006, 11:08 PM

lol....there were much more importent things in that post then that but I'm glad you read the whole thing.

**Tiff-O-Bitties** · 07-14-2006, 11:52 AM

I've been excited too, and sorry Julio, I understand your point, but I don't give up that easily.

**Deaf Pimp** · 07-16-2006, 03:58 AM

Originally Posted by carrascopa

eew... i dont get people..

Probably the most ironic statement you could've made on IA....

**£G2♣** · 07-16-2006, 04:01 AM

i feel sorry for all u ladys thats pregnant

**collins** · 07-16-2006, 10:31 AM

Originally Posted by Deaf Pimp

Probably the most ironic statement you could've made on IA....

Originally Posted by Mongolpup

............... (short version)

dude, that was a VERY well written post.

also i'd like to ad, that i'm proud of these ladies for accepting responsibility for the situation and keeping the babies. i, for one, do NOT believe in abortion when it was 2 willing human beings engaging in sexual activities. in some cases (ie: rape) i can understand it. but for these young ladies to "man up" and do what it takes, i respect that. krissy, i'm glad we were able to sit down and chat last night (it'd been too long girl!). i'm proud of ya!

**The Golden Child** · 07-16-2006, 02:20 PM

yousef is pregnant ..

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