give kid up for adoption - ton's of families would love to have a baby
give kid up for adoption - ton's of families would love to have a baby
Paul "your bullshit makes the flowers grow"
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Last edited by CHRISNITTOLO; 12-16-2009 at 02:02 PM.
Originally Posted by tdurr
In a sense, Paul is correct. If there is any doubt in your mind whether or not you can do this, you should consider it. If you don't seriously and honestly think you can give this child a good, decent life (morally and healthy), there are many qualified, financially sound couples that can provide exactly what the child needs. Couples that can't have babies on their own for whatever medical reasons they have live for the day that someone calls and gives them info on a chance at being parents.
This isn't to say to do it, but to give the child a chance. If you KNOW you can do it and KNOW that you have ample help immediately if you can't at that moment, then you should think about it.
Good luck in your decision. I also hope you can do it as every child needs their biological parents and I would hate to see a child not being with his parents. But I would rather a child be with parents that can give him/her stability than not. Later, QD.
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well man it isn't the worst thing ever; my mother had the same situation and gave up a my older sister b/c she wanted to give her a better life than she could provide. my mother later married my father and had 3 boys. my sister found us about 15 years ago. she lives in marietta and we have a cool relationship.
you have to put your kid first. sorry i didn't read the whole thread but i disagree w/ kids having kids.
Paul "your bullshit makes the flowers grow"
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Last edited by CHRISNITTOLO; 12-16-2009 at 02:02 PM.
adoption is being responsible if you can't provide for a baby. i'm almost 30 and i don't even feel like an adult... i can't see how an 18 yr old can provide for a baby. not to say you can't but the odds are against you and for your child. this is why my "children have children" stance is the way it is; judging by your last few comments and the post on here you aren't old enough to care for yourself let alone a baby on your own. i wish your kid the best man.
Paul "your bullshit makes the flowers grow"
#1. Children having children needs to stop. It is simple enough to avoid. It's not like you trip and fall into someone's vagina and "oooops, she's pregnant".....it's totally avoidable in several ways. I agree with Paul that far too often people glamorize having children w/o taking into account the child(ren) at all. It's a very selfish act all the way. If you are in a commited relationship and you plan on marrying anyway, well that's one thing.....yet, it's still avoidable. You gotta pay to play, bottomline.
#2. I don't see the same "maturity" some of you see in the OP. See above for the first reason. Second, if you are the Father of a 1 yr old and don't know what to do about your 24 yr old GF......you really need to re-think your position as a father IMO. If you already knew she had other children she didn't take care of.....um, what are you doing having unprotected sex with her? That's a loser to begin with, right? I'm not saying not to get your dipstick wet, hell go for it. Just wrap it up. Harsh, yes. True, yes too.
#3. There are many avenues to pursue. If she already lost custody of one child, more than likely she's not going to be a tough contender if you take her to court. The child support part is only as good as what you can collect, yet it belongs to the CHILD so therefore should be pursued.
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Can you please call and talk too my baby mama for me then. Im tired of paying her 720 a month.
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Last edited by CHRISNITTOLO; 12-16-2009 at 02:03 PM.
when you have a child, certain things go out the window and you man up if you have half a brain.
but he has his parents supporting him as well and he's not out on his own. and there is tons of gov't assistance for single parents. Women are no longer the only ppl they care about. they are giving fathers more recognition these days.
I dont have much stuff for 1 yr olds since my son is the same age. sorry. ( i really think you slept with my ex's equally evil twin.)
and yes you need to seek SOLE custody and Child support from her. i have a good attorney if you need one. Custody battles are no fun. the lawyer and judge would have a field day with your case.
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You mean robots don't unload the truck for you?
But you get money just for having kids?? I want in!!
Oh looky, chance to get more money!! This kid thing is awesome!!
Awwww... Then you hand her back to your mom and go smoke a cigarette. Good job
No offense (learn to spell correctly, I heard it's important when looking for a job), but you have no fucking clue what you are in for. Your whore of a baby momma took off and all you've done is post on IA. Try spending some fucking time with your kid that you love so much. Personally I have grown weary of your life story with just the little nuggets you've posted already.
When my first wife bailed on me... I was 24yrs old, making 65k a year and had all the support I could ask for and it was still hard as hell. Wait 'till you actually have to do some of the hard stuff.
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Last edited by CHRISNITTOLO; 12-16-2009 at 02:03 PM.
Because you live at your Mom's house. That's the ONLY reason.
I doubt that. I don't doubt that they check on the child, but if you're at your Mom's and they see the house is in good shape, they won't come out every week.
This comment is total bullshit, man. You have ZERO room to make this comment. Long enough to know what you can handle? Your child is but a year old. You haven't seen shit yet, man. You think you're going through the rough times now and you're handling it and that you "got this?" This is the easy part, homey. Take it from a couple of us (Echonova, Jaime and I) who have had multiple children. You haven't done a thing long enough to know anything.
You have a long ways to go, dude. And it's going to get tougher and tougher each day of the way. Take my word for it. I have a 25 year old, a 17 year old, a 7 year old and a 3 year old. I'VE been doing this long enough to know what's up.
Later, QD.
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