At 19 I had no idea.... I got married(she was pregnant), was married for 2 years, she cheated on me with a man 15 years old than her( looking for a Father Figure), we went through a nasty divorced, A year later I met a girl, I knew after meeting her parents and talking to her and asking her a few key questions and her beliefs that she was the one. After the divorce I knew what I was looking for. We started talking about marriage around the 4 week mark. We dated for 9 months, were engaged for 9 months and have been married now for 10 years in Sept. 09'. We've been through good and bad times but the commitment is there. That is one if not the most important part, cause there are times when she or you won't be "in Love" with each other but still love each other. The commitment gets you through those seasons in your relationship.

Neither of us morally believe in Divorce, we don't speak that word to each other. Even when we're mad we don't mention it. Once you say it once it's in your head and it will enevidably happen. Just how it seems to work. I know too many people that have done it.

We have a solid relationship and commitment, there are times when we can't stand each other but even best friends can't stand each other at times due to spending every waking moment together.

Make sure you agree on certain things like faith, raising kids the same way, family, etc.... These things are important.

My wife and I didn't originally agree about spanking our child. It didn't take her long before she saw my side of the theory. Another thing I fail to do a lot, but try to, is to admit when I'm wrong. It takes a big man to admit when he is wrong. She is stubborn in that way too, but we meet in the middle on that one a lot. We both admit we are wrong in the way executed our arguement.