I'm going to speak on the prenup/marrying a athlete/pro-ho deal.
Let me start by saying, I will gladly sign a prenup. A prenup is an excellent idea when the divorce rate is 50% now a days. Smart, independent women should look into one just as well as men. It's not an insult to women, IMO. I won't sign anything I don't agree with though. It's a 2 way street.
Let me say next that just because the women isn't "the star" or "the bread winner" of a relationship doesn't mean she hasn't "worked". Lots of times, women stay home to take care of the house and the children while the man works. Sometimes it's a better idea financially. Sometimes it's a matter of morality and how they want to raise their children. That's obviously an agreement that they make together based on what they think is best for THEIR FAMILY. If a divorce happens and this is the case, I believe the women is absolutely entitled to 1/2.
I also have a scenario that is personal but still carries over to a lot of women. Contrary to what people think they know about me, I helped start and maintain our business. I have worked long and hard...for $0 pay for years because it was a better idea financially to have me do the office work rather than hire out someone to do it. That was a decision we made together. It's a little different in our case currently since we aren't married, either way, I have contributed to our business equally. When it comes time for us to get married and if we both decide we want a prenup, I will be sure that my interest are protected on that matter. There are many "stars" or "bread winners" whose wives have done back office or background work for free, where someone else would have had to have been put on the payroll to do what she did....for "free" or in lieu of going out and getting a "job".
I agree with the fact that the women should have to get a job after divorce. You need to think about the fact that they may have to have some time to be qualified for a job in the work force. I'm 30. I quit college to work at the shop. I have no "job references" for the past 4 years. I have no "skills" aside from the bar tending I used to do. I sacrificed a college education for our business' best interest at the time. Now, if Dan and I split, I need a reasonable amount of time to get myself back in order. A college education takes at least 4 years per say. It's not fair to assume I am going to work at McDonald's just because my man's career never had to be put on hold for my college.
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