It's quite obvious that some ppl on here completely miss the whole idea behind marriage. When you get married, you're joining lives completely together-- in a sense "being one". Meaning all wealth, problems, joys etc belonging to both. By signing a prenup your saying exactly what someone else said, I don't trust you..here sign this so you won't screw me. That is a SUPURB way to begin a marriage. The problem isn't marriage, it's people rushing into that ****. I dated my wife for 7 years before I married her, I've known her close to 9. I've had 7 years (and yes I lived with her before hand) to get to know her, make sure this was what I wanted and all the other BS ppl try and cram into 1 year of dating (most of the time less). If people would take more time to really know the people they wed, then I bet the divorce rate would go down significantly. Also with a prenup, your entering into the marriage using the same mind set as a single person, yours and mine. Why bother getting married if thats your plan? Yes there are lots of ppl who take advantage of the divorce get half situation, but in all honesty it takes two ppl to get married. The one getting screwed is just as much to blame as the ass who did it. Had the other person taken the time to really know and understand the other, then the signs are there of the type of person you are going to marry etc...you wouldn't buy a business unless you did a considerable amount of research would you? So why would you rush into somehting as big a marriage? It's all easy and crap to say she's the bad one here, but honestly maybe the marriage isn't working out and she wanted out. It's her choice, and if she gets an ass load of money outta it, well sorry to say she is entitled to it just as much as he would be. They both agreed to the marriage and sharing, so hence no one is the victim here. I know my wife would NEVER take more money then she needed if we ever got divorced, (we have discussed this at length, and she said if I did more of the earning,which I do, then I should get more) and I would feel no matter what she is entitled to half of whatever we have. I entered into this marriage with her as equals, and I fully intened if it ever ends (god I hope not) to leave it as such. I think another problem today is men's attitudes twords women in this aspect. I feel as a man it is my duty to ensure that my wife and family is taken care of. Yes women wanted their equality, but in my eyes I see it as my wife should not have to worry about the house and bills and I take care of it. She helps yes, but if push came to shove I would do whatever I need to to take care of her. Call me old fasioned. Long story short yes there are bad apples who take adavantage of men, but on the whole the entire marriage thing is more the worth it.
Originally Posted by Turbo04
It's quite obvious that some ppl on here completely miss the whole idea behind marriage. When you get married, you're joining lives completely together-- in a sense "being one". Meaning all wealth, problems, joys etc belonging to both. By signing a prenup your saying exactly what someone else said, I don't trust you..here sign this so you won't screw me. That is a SUPURB way to begin a marriage. The problem isn't marriage, it's people rushing into that ****. I dated my wife for 7 years before I married her, I've known her close to 9. I've had 7 years (and yes I lived with her before hand) to get to know her, make sure this was what I wanted and all the other BS ppl try and cram into 1 year of dating (most of the time less). If people would take more time to really know the people they wed, then I bet the divorce rate would go down significantly. Also with a prenup, your entering into the marriage using the same mind set as a single person, yours and mine. Why bother getting married if thats your plan? Yes there are lots of ppl who take advantage of the divorce get half situation, but in all honesty it takes two ppl to get married. The one getting screwed is just as much to blame as the ass who did it. Had the other person taken the time to really know and understand the other, then the signs are there of the type of person you are going to marry etc...you wouldn't buy a business unless you did a considerable amount of research would you? So why would you rush into somehting as big a marriage? It's all easy and crap to say she's the bad one here, but honestly maybe the marriage isn't working out and she wanted out. It's her choice, and if she gets an ass load of money outta it, well sorry to say she is entitled to it just as much as he would be. They both agreed to the marriage and sharing, so hence no one is the victim here. I know my wife would NEVER take more money then she needed if we ever got divorced, (we have discussed this at length, and she said if I did more of the earning,which I do, then I should get more) and I would feel no matter what she is entitled to half of whatever we have. I entered into this marriage with her as equals, and I fully intened if it ever ends (god I hope not) to leave it as such. I think another problem today is men's attitudes twords women in this aspect. I feel as a man it is my duty to ensure that my wife and family is taken care of. Yes women wanted their equality, but in my eyes I see it as my wife should not have to worry about the house and bills and I take care of it. She helps yes, but if push came to shove I would do whatever I need to to take care of her. Call me old fasioned. Long story short yes there are bad apples who take adavantage of men, but on the whole the entire marriage thing is more the worth it.
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