This is definitely something I've thought long and hard about. I know that if I'm wrong in not believing in "god", and if it really is a god of peace and love, that I will be judged based on my actions during life and he will understand that I used my head and reason instead of blindly following dogma. If I'm wrong, and god is the same as depicted in the bible, then assuredly most of the people you know are going to burn in hell for eternity anyway, so we'll be in good company. If I'm right, then I'll have lived a great life, and raised children to know that it's ok to think for themselves.
read my above post to see that our own "morality" will not count. You will be judged on what God has laid down as the path to righteousness...we can't exactly say its unfair. After all, I personally wasn't involved in writing our constitution and find some things unfair. Does that mean that if i choose to ignore certain laws that i don't have to pay the penalty? Sadly, no. I give you a thumbs up for this response. It shows me that you do actually have an opinion that is all your own, as far as your children go.

How often do you think of death? Of " what if there is an afterlife, is there anything after death, is life really meaningless?" I would seriously like to know.