I think that you are intimidated by your partner and would like to hear from that person if they are content as well. You are just trying to satisfy in this case. Don't try to compare yourself to the ex it is always about the girl. This is a very touchy subject for guys so girls don't say to much. Good communication is a key for a lasting happy sexy relation. This dance is not something you learn overnight. Don't keep doing the same thing over and over either that gets boring and dull and......predictable. Talk with her and let her know this. She should be able to help. The lady is the mans confidence and it does show.

This is normal you just want her to be satified and want to hear it said from her for closure. Just knowing will help I think . Hopefully this helps??