Quote Originally Posted by Tracy
Love shouldn't be hard in my opinion. I know I will be with Dan forever because we have been together 7 years and it feels like we just got together yesterday. He is my bestest friend in the whole wide world. Sure we fight...A LOT! We are 2 different people with 2 totally different personalities (and he has a penis and I have a vagina) so fighting is expected. We have never broken up, not even for 1 day. I tried to move out once and I made it to the pay phone 5 blocks away, called him and came back home. On the other hand I have had long relationships that were hard work. I felt like I was so in love at the time. I went back to this one guy a million times. Moved stated 5 or 6 times to be with him, just to break up the next month. It went on for years. In the end, I realized we broke up the first time for a reason....getting back together never changed that reason. No matter how many times I tried to make it change the reason we broke up, it was always the same. You can't expect people to change. Sometimes they do, but for the most part you just have to figure out if their flaws are something you are willing to deal with.
the bulk..broke up for different reasons, most of them have been different. i'd say we break up then she'd say it, prolly 3-4 times that we've done that. she has made some changes, but her temper and the way she reacts is the same.

There are lots of things.. Sometimes you just know... Try to work out your problems, talk about them, maybe the other person doesnt know, I mean one has to know that the other isnt happy but some of us don't take suttle hints. You have to put it right out there for the other to understand. If you are beating around the bush about not being happy or that there is a problem then it really doesnt resolve much if you are not just coming straight out and being like Hey, this is the problem.
this is what the argument is about right now. i JUST told her what was on my mind, with no beating around the bush and BAM explosion to hell.


I cant stand when I hear that the woman is the one that is making it so hard. I can almost guarantee that she has been hurt before and doesnt know how to let go of the past. Even though you could be everything that she ever wanted and needed, she was hurt so much before by last guy she thought that about that she just doesnt know how to let down her guard.

I am the SAME way. I meet Mr. Right, Mr. Right^2, and all of his cousins and family members...But Cant allow myself to let my guard down. What happens? The guy quits. Can I blame him? Hell no. I do it to myself.

You need to talk to her and if she avoids this conversation, you can expect to avoid any future convos also. I say back off for a while. Take a break. BOTH of you. See if this is who you want to be with.
but you missed a valid point, i admit when i'm wrong while she doesn't, that's the major kicker. i approached her about my present feelings, when all she had to do to remedy the situation was figure out, what she can do to make it better, she didn't instead she took the chicago bears defense and blew up like hiroshima, no ish. but i think a break is in order