How do you know when to call it quits in a relationship?

[silver]

There are lots of things.. Sometimes you just know... Try to work out your problems, talk about them, maybe the other person doesnt know, I mean one has to know that the other isnt happy but some of us don't take suttle hints. You have to put it right out there for the other to understand. If you are beating around the bush about not being happy or that there is a problem then it really doesnt resolve much if you are not just coming straight out and being like Hey, this is the problem.

People grow and change. Its not anyones fault. Someone that you think is the greatest thing since sliced bread might not be the same person 2, 3 years down the road. And like I said that is no ones fault. People grow and whether you grow and change together is all part of being compatible and being for each other. Sometimes you grow and change and go different directions, thats ok.. its called life and taking what you learned from that person, that relationship and moving on and taking what you learned to the next.

Relationships are always gonna have their moments.. good and bad.. when it gets to a point when there is more bad and you cant remember the good and you think that you have done what you can to salvage the relationship and nothing is working, then it might be time to move on. When you have become a totally different person and don't even know yourself anymore and are just not happy, might be time to move on. I think too many times when relationships last a lot longer than they should, people blind themselves to the actual reality of what is going on. They tend to think that unfixable problems can be fixed and they hang on to that hope that things will get better cause this person is the one, or they don't want to be alone or whatever reason.

I'm no relationship expert but, its hard when going through a break up.. and things will get alot harder before they get better, but they DO get better..

[Tracy]

There are lots of things.. Sometimes you just know... Try to work out your problems, talk about them, maybe the other person doesnt know, I mean one has to know that the other isnt happy but some of us don't take suttle hints. You have to put it right out there for the other to understand. If you are beating around the bush about not being happy or that there is a problem then it really doesnt resolve much if you are not just coming straight out and being like Hey, this is the problem.

People grow and change. Its not anyones fault. Someone that you think is the greatest thing since sliced bread might not be the same person 2, 3 years down the road. And like I said that is no ones fault. People grow and whether you grow and change together is all part of being compatible and being for each other. Sometimes you grow and change and go different directions, thats ok.. its called life and taking what you learned from that person, that relationship and moving on and taking what you learned to the next.

Relationships are always gonna have their moments.. good and bad.. when it gets to a point when there is more bad and you cant remember the good and you think that you have done what you can to salvage the relationship and nothing is working, then it might be time to move on. When you have become a totally different person and don't even know yourself anymore and are just not happy, might be time to move on. I think too many times when relationships last a lot longer than they should, people blind themselves to the actual reality of what is going on. They tend to think that unfixable problems can be fixed and they hang on to that hope that things will get better cause this person is the one, or they don't want to be alone or whatever reason.

I'm no relationship expert but, its hard when going through a break up.. and things will get alot harder before they get better, but they DO get better..

PROPS to you smarty pants!!!!!! Good post.

[Jaimecbr900]

Kelly is right, Tracy is right, and women are just plain nuts sometimes so you have to deal with it....


Seriously, how long have you been with this girl?

You have to access the situation from the angle of positives vs negatives. Like Kelly said, if the negatives out weight the positives.....like Bill Engvall says....."Therrrreeessss your sign!!!". If you are an honest person, there's no clean no hurt way to undo this situation. It's gonna be painful, but if it's necessary in the long run it will work out for the best.

[silver]

Kelly is right, Tracy is right, and women are just plain nuts sometimes so you have to deal with it....


Seriously, how long have you been with this girl?

You have to access the situation from the angle of positives vs negatives. Like Kelly said, if the negatives out weight the positives.....like Bill Engvall says....."Therrrreeessss your sign!!!". If you are an honest person, there's no clean no hurt way to undo this situation. It's gonna be painful, but if it's necessary in the long run it will work out for the best.

You mean Heather??? lol or was there a Kelly in this thread?? lol

[Jaimecbr900]

You mean Heather??? lol or was there a Kelly in this thread?? lol

My bad Heather.....and I called you Kelly not once, but twice.... . Sorry.

[silver]

My bad Heather.....and I called you Kelly not once, but twice.... . Sorry.

Lol its ok.. well maybe.. I will forgive you if you ever send me those pictures, lol

[gtikid]

There are lots of things.. Sometimes you just know... Try to work out your problems, talk about them, maybe the other person doesnt know, I mean one has to know that the other isnt happy but some of us don't take suttle hints. You have to put it right out there for the other to understand. If you are beating around the bush about not being happy or that there is a problem then it really doesnt resolve much if you are not just coming straight out and being like Hey, this is the problem.

People grow and change. Its not anyones fault. Someone that you think is the greatest thing since sliced bread might not be the same person 2, 3 years down the road. And like I said that is no ones fault. People grow and whether you grow and change together is all part of being compatible and being for each other. Sometimes you grow and change and go different directions, thats ok.. its called life and taking what you learned from that person, that relationship and moving on and taking what you learned to the next.

Relationships are always gonna have their moments.. good and bad.. when it gets to a point when there is more bad and you cant remember the good and you think that you have done what you can to salvage the relationship and nothing is working, then it might be time to move on. When you have become a totally different person and don't even know yourself anymore and are just not happy, might be time to move on. I think too many times when relationships last a lot longer than they should, people blind themselves to the actual reality of what is going on. They tend to think that unfixable problems can be fixed and they hang on to that hope that things will get better cause this person is the one, or they don't want to be alone or whatever reason.

I'm no relationship expert but, its hard when going through a break up.. and things will get alot harder before they get better, but they DO get better..

Wow that is probably the best advice in this thread... That was very very very well expressed...