You too have to decide one way or another. Either you believe there is a God, or you don't. Your post makes it seem ambigious.
Why does anyone die at all? Look at what just happened to the IA community with Val. Why did she have to die? Why did your Grandfather have to go? Why did my Grandmother, who was in the same situation as your Grandfather being healthy and happy then suddenly passing away, have to go? Why do children have to die? Why do parents have to bury their own children?
All of us here are left with more questions than answers. Answers is what everyone wants for closure. The question is: Where do you go to find those answers? Some people look inward and become bitter. Some people look outward and realize that there is a purpose to everything under the sun. While someone's death is very tragic and hurts for a long time, it does serve some kind of purpose. You may not find that purpose until you look in different places, but if you look eventually the purpose will fall into place. I'm still looking and searching for my Grandmother's purpose. She was an angel on earth as far as I was concerned. She was seemingly healthy. She certainly was happy. She had the support of her entire family. Why did she have to go while no-good murderers get to live?
Trust me, I've asked the same questions you have. I'm still trying to figure out that last piece of my Grandmother's puzzle. One day I'm certain that piece will fall into place and I will see the picture God wants ME to see. Until then, I will keep looking for that. I suggest you do the same. I understand the questions and the initial bitterness of losing a loved one unexpectedly. But if you don't channel that negative energy into something more constructive, you will find yourself being bitter for a long long time.
I hope you find the answers you're looking for, but I know one thing....there is a purpose to everything. Remember that.
