Children Crying in Restaurants?

[RL...]

I can guarantee you that the each one of you who posted a negative attitude about NOT taking your child out to eat has NO children of their own.

When you have a child (if you do), I guarantee that you change your ways of thinking. Just because you have children does NOT mean you are automatically home bound until the child grows up. That's ludicrous thinking. I agree 100% about movies, but as far as restaurants, that's a different story. Now with any four of mine, when he/she started acting up and would not calm down after a minute or so, I or my wife would take the child somewhere to calm him/her down. I wouldn't and can't stand for a child to just be left to cry until he/she is done crying.

But there is no reason at all that parents with younger children can not go to a nice restaurant with their children. I understand you voicing your opinion about liking it or not, but you have no voice when it comes to what a parent should or should not do unless you've lived on the other side of the fence.

For the record, neither of my four were really that bad in our dining out experiences. Later, QD.

Much like how my opinion is that of a single person without a child, yours is also biased because you do have children. I understand children are our future and they are important, most importantly to their parents, but they don't need to be interrupting everyones' conversations and making the atmosphere uncomfortable for everyone.

I'm not saying parents need to stay in with their children until the children mature, but if a child starts screaming and causing a ruckus in public then the parent should know/find a way to calm him/her down, and if he can't why should the child be everyone elses problem?

[twiztid cc]

Kids will be kids. If you think they're "absolutely intolerable" - you can go fuck yourself.

[Kourt]

I don't mind if its a little baby (like yours) who you can't relate what they need to you and may just feel bad or tired. But when the kid is 2-6 years old and screaming/acting up it pisses me off because they are old enough to know better and old enough for the parent to do something with. So I can tolerate a baby, but not children who need discipline.

[quickdodge®]

I was at the court house the other day trying to get a title for my car. The lady in line had three kids, two able to walk and one who looked about a few months old. The baby was in the stroller, but it was crying at the top of its lungs. And the mom didn't even look at the baby. That bothers me. The mom could have at least tried to calm the baby down or something. My mom ended up going over there and rocking the baby til it hushed.

To an extent, it bothers me. I know kids will be like that. I took my niece out the other day. She's 10 months old. Sometimes she is the best baby in the world, but sometimes she's just really fussy. If she starts crying, I try to calm her down. If I can't calm her down, we just leave. I don't like bothering people.

So you did the right thing. You at least tried to make it stop. And when it didn't, you took your baby away.

I will rue the day that God "blesses" you with a child. People like you should NEVER reproduce. Later, QD.

[Buttons]

I will rue the day that God "blesses" you with a child. People like you should NEVER reproduce. Later, QD.

At least I try to take care of the kids with me unlike other people.

[Paul]

i only have respect for people who know how to control their children; when we have kids if they start crying and won't stop you excuse yourself and leave the table w/ child

[quickdodge®]

i only have respect for people who know how to control their children; when we have kids if they start crying and won't stop you excuse yourself and leave the table w/ child

So you're admitting to respecting me? AWESOME! Later, QD.

[mike's02ls1]

I have a 22 month old, and understand where you are coming from. It doesn't bother me to hear a baby crying, but the baby is screaming non stop then it would be the right thing to do, and step outside until the baby is calmed down.
The other folks have no idea what you are going thru, and won't until they have children...

[Kevykev]

It can be annoying at times but I try to be as understanding as possible. Sometime parents want to go out as a family so i clearly understand why they would bring they're small child into a public family environment.

if you're child gets to the point where they hinder the enjoyment of others,then it's your responsibility as a parent to take proper action.

People who say that parents shouldn't bring there kinds into a public family environment are ignorant a-holes, totally unrealistic.

I'm not even a parent but I try my best to be fair in understanding a situation like this.

[keva52]

i dont have kids of my own but since my sister is a full time nurse i look after her 2 y/o most of the time. if he acts up in a public place i wont hesitate to take him off and calm him down of slap him on the hand if he is just throwing a temper tantrum..

my mother and myself are the only two that can control him. when he goes back to my sisters on her days off he is a hellyn but when hes with me or my mother he's a perfect angel.

but you did the right thing by taking her to the car to calm her down, thats what i think any good parent would do.

[man]

why did your husband stay?

[Princess12]

why did your husband stay?

The waiter was dropping off his margarita at the table as I was getting up to go outside, and I told him to just sit down and enjoy it. He doesn't get to do that very often.

[RL...]

I will rue the day that God "blesses" you with a child. People like you should NEVER reproduce. Later, QD.

Thank you.

Since you say that I'm just going to assume you think it's fine to bring your child to a restaurant, let him scream all he wants while disturbing everyone in the immediate area for the duration of the meal. That would be so inconsiderate to everyone around you it's not even funny. Perhaps you're the one who isn't suited for parenthood....

It's funny how you always make me the bad guy when my opinions/perspectives are pretty damn valid.

but qd, if you think that doing what i said above is wrong and maybe you have even the slightest bit of consideration in you, then you're just an ass for playing devils advocate.

[RL...]

i dont have kids of my own but since my sister is a full time nurse i look after her 2 y/o most of the time. if he acts up in a public place i wont hesitate to take him off and calm him down of slap him on the hand if he is just throwing a temper tantrum..

my mother and myself are the only two that can control him. when he goes back to my sisters on her days off he is a hellyn but when hes with me or my mother he's a perfect angel.

but you did the right thing by taking her to the car to calm her down, thats what i think any good parent would do.

Exactly, but apparently QD disagrees, and would leave his child to disturb everyone....

[RedEj8]

The only time it bothered me was when we were at a Hibachi restaurant where you have to sit at the table with 10 other people.. This kid started crying very loud and the bitch wouldn't take the kid out of the room to calm it down and just let it sit there and cry and scream.. We couldn't even carry on a conversation because it was so loud we would've had to yell to hear each other.

Baby finally quit crying/screaming 10 mins later... I wanted to slap a bitch. That is not something I want to hear at a restaurant with a quiet atmosphere where plates are $20 and up..

If the baby isn't right next to me, as in across the room, then it doesn't bother me.

[RL...]

The only time it bothered me was when we were at a Hibachi restaurant where you have to sit at the table with 10 other people.. This kid started crying very loud and the bitch wouldn't take the kid out of the room to calm it down and just let it sit there and cry and scream.. We couldn't even carry on a conversation because it was so loud we would've had to yell to hear each other.

Baby finally quit crying/screaming 10 mins later... I wanted to slap a bitch. That is not something I want to hear at a restaurant with a quiet atmosphere where plates are $20 and up..

If the baby isn't right next to me, as in across the room, then it doesn't bother me.

it was prob QD

[LizBiz]

I can tolerate it at a restaurant, that's not a problem at all. But when it comes to movie theaters....that's a BIG no no. I don't know why people are bitching and moaning cuz ya'll asses did the same thing when ya'll were a kid lmao.

[amandDA]

an occasional wimper from a baby is normal but when they sit there and keep at it, it makes me think that the parents r irresponsible and need to control their kids.

[NAMNORI]

I've got a 20 month old and a 10 month old i know exactly how you feel (op) my wife and i have had to skip many dinner events and chances at hanging out with friends because our children were in bad moods. Yes even for me its annoying but maybe that's because i've got very little patience. I love kids but sometimes they can be too much. for those of you who can't take it at all, go fuck yourselves. Babies and toddlers crying are part of life get over it.


Just remember how you treat your kids because they are the ones that will chose your nursing home!!!

[quickdodge®]

Much like how my opinion is that of a single person without a child, yours is also biased because you do have children. I understand children are our future and they are important, most importantly to their parents, but they don't need to be interrupting everyones' conversations and making the atmosphere uncomfortable for everyone.

Here's the thing, stupid, and this will really set the bar for your level of stupidity pretty high, I used to be single with no children.


Wha-wha- WHAAAAT!!!!!

Call it one of nature's oddities, but it's true. Most people are indeed single and childless before they are married and having children. So, Einstein, I too know what it's like to be on the other side of that fence. Holy fuck you're an idiot.

Since you say that I'm just going to assume you think it's fine to bring your child to a restaurant, let him scream all he wants while disturbing everyone in the immediate area for the duration of the meal. That would be so inconsiderate to everyone around you it's not even funny. Perhaps you're the one who isn't suited for parenthood....

You really didn't read my initial post in here, did you? Did you just see that I posted and respond? You do know that makes you more the moron, yes? Parenthood? I hope you never enjoy those days. In fact, I wouldn't shed a tear to learn that you don't even get a chance to enjoy tomorrow.

but qd, if you think that doing what i said above is wrong and maybe you have even the slightest bit of consideration in you, then you're just an ass for playing devils advocate.

Careful, dude. Your stupidity is showing. Do you even understand what you quoted and responded to? Or is this another case of seeing a post with my name tagged on it and just rambling?

As for your other attempts, I find it humorous that you're trying to target me in your luster to gain fame from showing off how much higher your lower educational skills are than most everyone else on the board.

Later, QD.

[RL...]

QD, you're obviously better at me than e-thugging it out online. I'll give it to you, I bet you feel so badass! Congrats you're cool here on IA. props.



You take this internet forum stuff very seriously don't you...

tisk, tisk, tisk...

I'm still right, and you're wrong.

[SuperChicken]

Shit, at McDonalds, most of the adults behave FAR worse than most of the kids there!!! I was in a McD's last week, and there was one woman in there screaming into her cell phone in like, Nigerian, or something...made me jump several times! And there was another lady there, also on her damn phone, who just started cackling at the top of her fuckin' lungs...no regard for anyone else in the place.

These people suffer from a sense of entitlement that allows them to do whatever the fuck they want, and not give a shit about those around them! Those women were far worse than the kid that was crying that she wanted an ice cream...but her father ignoring her pretty much sucked too!f

Fuck, I hate people....

[_Christian_]

How much I'm willing to put up with really depends on how nice the restaurant is. If it's a $10 plate, Im going to put up with more than if it's a $50 plate.

at the request of the couple whom we were dining with.

The people you're dining with have no reason to be pissed, but the guy sitting next to you might want to stab you. He doesn't care WHY you decided to bring the child, just that you DID.

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

How do you guys feel about children crying in a family restaurant atmosphere?

Here's the story:

My husband and I have a 3 Month old little girl, who we took to dinner with us tonight at the request of the couple whom we were dining with. It was the first time they had the opportunity to meet her, and we were excited to do so.

We chose to eat at the local Mexican restaurant, which is a family oriented atmosphere that we dine at very frequently. Well, being that our daughter is only 3 months old, her temperament is pretty unpredictable, and she just happened to be fairly cranky this evening.The couple who we were with made several very rude comments to us about her interrupting and disturbing other people who were in the restaurant. It's not like she was screaming incessantly or even letting out loud shrills. To say the least, I spent a majority of the evening with my daughter in the car.

So... if you are dining in a family oriented restaurant, and a child cries occasionally during your meal, how does it make you feel?

It was totally intolerable for me before I had my son. Now, he's usually the one causing the disturbance. I hate it when it happens and I try to console him; however, sometimes it just doesn't work. I avoid restaurants with him as much as possible now.

I actually had one lady that I didn't even know tell me that I needed to learn how to better discipline my child when in public... I told her that if she had a better way to do it, then she needed to show me - she shut up.

You should've told your friends to fuck off.

[Brian*]

I like kids but its only Tolerable to an extent for sure...

[AnthonyF]

lolol...this one time my family was out at a nice place, not super fancy but upcaleish. And this little kid was running around the place and the parents were doing a damn thing. And you could see other customers were upset. So as the kid came running by my dad's side of the table he got in his face and said:

"Sit down you little fucking brat!"

lolol he walked to his parents table and they didn't say a word! lots of people heard my dad too.

-Ant.

[AnthonyF]

But on topic, I HATE when a kid screams in the restaurant. NOW, if the kid is under, what...3? it is partially acceptable b/c it happens. Kids don't really know any better...BUT the parents better be trying their damndest to shut him/her up or take them out. If the kid knows when to be good and not act like a spoiled rotton child and still acts up, the parent(s) should take him/her outside or in the bathroom and tap that ass!

i'm tired of this new age bullshit where it is wrong to spank your child. Hitting your child, i dont agree with. Spanking? Very much so. My dad used to pull out a wood fork about 12" long...Forky was his name...he was a bastard. lol.

-Ant.

[Mike Lowrey]

Voted intolerable.

The OP was very nice and left the restaurant with her child. I believe more parents need to understand that they are not the only ones in a public place. They need to control their kids. Too many let their kids run all over the place causing problems, which makes me want to punch the parents and the kid.

Bottom line, control your kids in public = no issues.

[teh bri]

i CANNOT stand eating while a child is screaming it drives me nuts.

Mom used to flip when that happened.

They need to control their kids or not bring them out in public.

[Mike Lowrey]

I agree 100% about movies, but as far as restaurants, that's a different story. Now with any four of mine, when he/she started acting up and would not calm down after a minute or so, I or my wife would take the child somewhere to calm him/her down. I wouldn't and can't stand for a child to just be left to cry until he/she is done crying.

But there is no reason at all that parents with younger children can not go to a nice restaurant with their children.

Later, QD.

Exactly. Kids are going to act up, but it is what the parents do about it that makes the difference.

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

Oh, you better believe I beat the shit out of my child when he acts up in public or at home... (ok, maybe not the shit, but I do spank him)

These new laws or whatever about not spanking your kids is bullshit... My mom beat the hell out of me when I was a kid and I will do the same.. (Hopefully, Max will be a better kid than me, lol) The parents that choose not to spank their children are the parents that will have to deal with the shit their kids put them thru later.

[Mike Lowrey]

Oh, you better believe I beat the shit out of my child when he acts up in public or at home... (ok, maybe not the shit, but I do spank him)

These new laws or whatever about not spanking your kids is bullshit... My mom beat the hell out of me when I was a kid and I will do the same.. (Hopefully, Max will be a better kid than me, lol) The parents that choose not to spank their children are the parents that will have to deal with the shit their kids put them thru later.

Agreed x100.

I believe that this is the cause of alot of the kids problems later in life. If I did something wrong. My father beat the shit out of me. Guess what? I never fuckin' did it again. A child can surely understand cause and effect.

[NVEOUS]

^^X2 If i ever did anything wrong my dad beat the fuck out of me. He would grab me and i would run in circles. I think thats why kids act the way they do today.

[Princess12]

Oh believe me, as soon as she is old enough to understand the meaning of a spanking, then I will have absolutely no problem using it as an acceptable form of punishment in our household. My parents had no issues spanking me as a child, and it got the point across the first time.

I agree though. The children who are old enough and capable of associating a public outing with the proper behavior and mannerisms should not be allowed to act out without some sort of repercussion.

Perhaps I made a mistake by taking our daughter out that evening; however, she is usually very mild mannered, quiet, and an overall happy child. This particular outing just wasn't doing it for her. I think I handled it appropriately though.

[civic95]

makes me want to punch the baby

until you're able to control your child or the child is old enough to understand that they need to be quiet, then you need to leave the child with a sitter when you go out to eat, to the movies or any public gathering that loud children are not welcome

I feel the same way. I think parents of young babies become accustomed to the schrill of a baby crying. To the rest of us it is ear piercing, and very annoying. Get a baby sitter, and introduce your baby at either your house or the other persons. Don't bring it out in "quiet/ public settings" where other people are trying to relax.

[stillaneon]

I am about to have one. But I do get a little aggraveted with a kind that kicks the back of a booth, etc. Most of the time though I can deal with it, I just wish some parents would take the initiative to preoccupy their kids or not bring them out.

Princess, you did what i would consider admirable. I would have done the same.

[Paul]

more children need to be beat... i fucking can't stand this new school mentality "the naughty chair/corner" bullshit. my kids will get spanked, eat soap, and learn to respect their parents and other adults.

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

more children need to be beat... i fucking can't stand this new school mentality "the naughty chair/corner" bullshit. my kids will get spanked, eat soap, and learn to respect their parents and other adults.

I truly fear for your children... Although Maximus receives the same punishments as listed above.

[Paul]

I truly fear for your children... Although Maximus receives the same punishments as listed above.

children act out b/c they dont' have limits... my kids will know their limits. my mom was the type if we got out of line it didn't matter where we were grocery store, restaurant, car, etc you better fear that woman.

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

children act out b/c they dont' have limits... my kids will know their limits. my mom was the type if we got out of line it didn't matter where we were grocery store, restaurant, car, etc you better fear that woman.

No doubt... Mine too!