Children Crying in Restaurants?

[Princess12]

How do you guys feel about children crying in a family restaurant atmosphere?

Here's the story:

My husband and I have a 3 Month old little girl, who we took to dinner with us tonight at the request of the couple whom we were dining with. It was the first time they had the opportunity to meet her, and we were excited to do so.

We chose to eat at the local Mexican restaurant, which is a family oriented atmosphere that we dine at very frequently. Well, being that our daughter is only 3 months old, her temperament is pretty unpredictable, and she just happened to be fairly cranky this evening.The couple who we were with made several very rude comments to us about her interrupting and disturbing other people who were in the restaurant. It's not like she was screaming incessantly or even letting out loud shrills. To say the least, I spent a majority of the evening with my daughter in the car.

So... if you are dining in a family oriented restaurant, and a child cries occasionally during your meal, how does it make you feel?

[TIGERJC]

makes me want to punch the baby

until you're able to control your child or the child is old enough to understand that they need to be quiet, then you need to leave the child with a sitter when you go out to eat, to the movies or any public gathering that loud children are not welcome

["B"]

^ That is such bullshit.


She wasn't at the movies or anywhere that is isn't acceptable. She was a restaruant.

[TIGERJC]

^ That is such bullshit.


She wasn't at the movies or anywhere that is isn't acceptable. She was a restaruant.

Other families are trying to enjoy themselves and it is really hard if you can't hear the person next to you because of a crying baby. You want a kid friendly restaraunt, then go to chucky cheese.

[HyPer50]

^ That is such bullshit.


She wasn't at the movies or anywhere that is isn't acceptable. She was a restaruant.

Are you stupid? As I said in previous post, unless your at a fast food resteraunt or a KIDS resteraunt don't bring your screaming ass baby with you. I'm not paying more than $5 for a meal to have to sit and have a baby screaming beside me. Maybe the opinion changes when you become a parent, but when I become a parent I plan on having the COMMON SENSE and respect for people to not bring a child into a sit down resteraunt when they are still unable to behave.

Screaming at any resteraunt is "unacceptable" and if you think otherwise... refer to my first sentance.

["B"]

Are you stupid? As I said in previous post, unless your at a fast food resteraunt or a KIDS resteraunt don't bring your screaming ass baby with you. I'm not paying more than $5 for a meal to have to sit and have a baby screaming beside me. Maybe the opinion changes when you become a parent, but when I become a parent I plan on having the COMMON SENSE and respect for people to not bring a child into a sit down resteraunt when they are still unable to behave.

Screaming at any resteraunt is "unacceptable" and if you think otherwise... refer to my first sentance.

Are you stupid? Read her 1st post again:

It's not like she was screaming incessantly or even letting out loud shrills.

She didn't have a "screaming ass baby".

Dumb fuck.

[quickdodge®]

Dumb fuck.

Agreed. Later, QD.

[.::UNKNOWN::.]

makes me want to punch the baby

until you're able to control your child or the child is old enough to understand that they need to be quiet, then you need to leave the child with a sitter when you go out to eat, to the movies or any public gathering that loud children are not welcome

completly agreed just bc most people dont try and calm their children down they just hand them something to keep them occupied for a few seconds

[RL...]

makes me want to punch the baby

until you're able to control your child or the child is old enough to understand that they need to be quiet, then you need to leave the child with a sitter when you go out to eat, to the movies or any public gathering that loud children are not welcome

x2

[civic95]

makes me want to punch the baby

until you're able to control your child or the child is old enough to understand that they need to be quiet, then you need to leave the child with a sitter when you go out to eat, to the movies or any public gathering that loud children are not welcome

I feel the same way. I think parents of young babies become accustomed to the schrill of a baby crying. To the rest of us it is ear piercing, and very annoying. Get a baby sitter, and introduce your baby at either your house or the other persons. Don't bring it out in "quiet/ public settings" where other people are trying to relax.

[ksniperfox]

makes me want to punch the baby

until you're able to control your child or the child is old enough to understand that they need to be quiet, then you need to leave the child with a sitter when you go out to eat, to the movies or any public gathering that loud children are not welcome

x2. very true.



movies or a restaurant, it is very rude and unnerving while im trying to have a quiet dinner or a date. shit even when i am with friends it is annoying as all hail. either learn to control your child or simply leave them at home with a sitter if they are too young.

[redrumracer]

I voted absolutely intolerable. Basically I don't mind at first noise, but at the first noise I believe the parent should take them somewhere and calm them down. If that can't be done then what Tiger said.(minus the punching part.)

[Mr. Clean]

yeah it pisses me off pretty bad. if i have to listen to it more than a couple of times i want to to punch the parent in the face lol. as mean as it sounds, i agree with tiger... until the kid is old enough to know when to hush, don't take them out. sounds like your baby wasn't doing anything ridiculous like crying non-stop or screaming, but it still sucks when you have to listen to it. i don't have kids for a reason lol. i don't want to listen to what i have chosen not to get into yet.

[Princess12]

As I mentioned, I did get up and sit in the car with her so my husband could enjoy the rest of dinner with our friends when I was unable to completely console her.

I understand that there is a fine line between it being ok and unreasonable, hence my move to the car.

[TIGERJC]

As I mentioned, I did get up and sit in the car with her so my husband could enjoy the rest of dinner with our friends when I was unable to completely console her.

I understand that there is a fine line between it being ok and unreasonable, hence my move to the car.

That was nice of you and I am glad that you will be passing on your manners down to your child.

I hate it when parents don't think of others and will just allow their kid to keep crying like nothings wrong. I was at a funeral awhile ago, and while the eulogy was going on a baby was cutting up and just yelling for attention. Instead of thinking of others trying to hear the eulogy, the mother just let the kid keep crying. If I was a member of the family I would have asked the mother to take the child out of the church

[Princess12]

That was nice of you and I am glad that you will be passing on your manners down to your child.

I hate it when parents don't think of others and will just allow their kid to keep crying like nothings wrong. I was at a funeral awhile ago, and while the eulogy was going on a baby was cutting up and just yelling for attention. Instead of thinking of others trying to hear the eulogy, the mother just let the kid keep crying. If I was a member of the family I would have asked the mother to take the child out of the church

Thank you, and yes, I understand. I really just wanted other inputs. I'm a first time mom, and a crying child has never really bothered me even before I was pregnant. I did apologize to the couple sitting behind us as I walked out of the restaurant, and they said they understood and it was not a problem.

[hondachik]

I have a 3 yr old daughter and currently pregnant with my 2nd child. I don't too much take her out to public restaurants just because she's unpredictable, just like any human being. I don't have any problems with her because since an early age shes been familiar with an ass whooping.

But a 3 month old? C'mon. Instead of sitting in my car, I would have snapped on their ass and got my check and a to-go box and went home. U can't control what a newborn does. You shouldn't at all feel bad or embarassed. You were in a FAMILY ENVIROMENT. I'm sure there were kids there a whole lot louder than your baby, and other couples who've had kids tend to be a lot more tolerable to infants, and even tend to find it cute when they cry. Infants don't bother me as long as I see the parents trying to console them. Same with kids. But if the parents are just sitting there enjoying their meal...then I get pissed. I don't throw mean looks but I just hurry to leave....I hate being rude because I already have my daughter and about to pop another kid out....so I wouldn't want anyone mean to me. But srsly, I would have told that other couple to kiss my ass, fuck them other people meal. Hell your only priority is trying to calm your child & make her happy...Not caring if someone can't chew their fcking chalupa.

[Princess12]

But a 3 month old? C'mon. Instead of sitting in my car, I would have snapped on their ass and got my check and a to-go box and went home. U can't control what a newborn does. You shouldn't at all feel bad or embarassed. You were in a FAMILY ENVIROMENT. I'm sure there were kids there a whole lot louder than your baby, and other couples who've had kids tend to be a lot more tolerable to infants, and even tend to find it cute when they cry. Infants don't bother me as long as I see the parents trying to console them. Same with kids. But if the parents are just sitting there enjoying their meal...then I get pissed. I don't throw mean looks but I just hurry to leave....I hate being rude because I already have my daughter and about to pop another kid out....so I wouldn't want anyone mean to me. But srsly, I would have told that other couple to kiss my ass, fuck them other people meal. Hell your only priority is trying to calm your child & make her happy...Not caring if someone can't chew their fcking chalupa.

I completely understand! The restaurant was loud in general, and I was ready to just get my food to go. It was the first time she had ever acted that way in public. Generally, she is very mild mannered and quiet, so I was slightly panicked and doing everything I possibly could to console her. When all else failed, I went to the car. The waiter had just brought my husband's margarita to the table, and I really wanted to give him a chance to enjoy it. I sat in the car, fed her, rocked her to sleep, and watched a movie.

Congrats on the baby by the way!

[HyPer50]

If your at mcdonalds fine, but if your at an actual sit down resteraunt, you need to control your kids or not bring them.

[BluesClues]

I don't think a child crying is that big of a deal, but if they are screaming and kicking and just pretty much throwing a fit, then you and the child should leave until they are consoled (just what you did). Some people have to understand that children are people too. Just like the rest of us, they deserve to go out and eat. They shouldn't be excluded just because they are kids. Kids will be kids. Some are just not at the age of understanding of how to act when in public. Even some adults don't know how to act when in public. Some people just need a little more tolerance. I think until some people have kids, they will not understand. I don't have kids, but I know what it's like to be around children. I have more tolerance for their behavior.

[HyPer50]

I don't think a child crying is that big of a deal, but if they are screaming and kicking and just pretty much throwing a fit, then you and the child should leave until they are consoled (just what you did). Some people have to understand that children are people too. Just like the rest of us, they deserve to go out and eat. They shouldn't be excluded just because they are kids. Kids will be kids. Some are just not at the age of understanding of how to act when in public. Even some adults don't know how to act when in public. Some people just need a little more tolerance. I think until some people have kids, they will not understand. I don't have kids, but I know what it's like to be around children. I have more tolerance for their behavior.

I perfectly understand that once I have a kid, I won't be able to go to Mt. Fuji or some other decent sit down resteraunt without a baby sitter... Other people don't need more tolerance, parents just need more respect and need to consider things before they do them. Kids don't belong everywhere.

[BluesClues]

I perfectly understand that once I have a kid, I won't be able to go to Mt. Fuji or some other decent sit down resteraunt without a baby sitter... Other people don't need more tolerance, parents just need more respect and need to consider things before they do them. Kids don't belong everywhere.

If it's a family restaurant like Applebees or Red Lobster, then children should be allowed. If it's a more upscale restaurant, then I can understand. She was talking about a family place. Also, movie theaters are family places too. Do you all forget that there are kid movies? Are they not allowed to see those? lol

[redrumracer]

If it's a family restaurant like Applebees or Red Lobster, then children should be allowed. If it's a more upscale restaurant, then I can understand. She was talking about a family place. Also, movie theaters are family places too. Do you all forget that there are kid movies? Are they not allowed to see those? lol

If they wanna throw a fit in the movie theaters then they don't deserve the movie.

[HyPer50]

If it's a family restaurant like Applebees or Red Lobster, then children should be allowed. If it's a more upscale restaurant, then I can understand. She was talking about a family place. Also, movie theaters are family places too. Do you all forget that there are kid movies? Are they not allowed to see those? lol

Children are not the same thing as screaming kids. Screaming kids belong in no resteraunts other than fast food and chucky cheese.

[blaknoize]

doesnt bother me at all

[Atlblkz06]

Kids will be kids. If you think they're "absolutely intolerable" - you can go fuck yourself.

Parents are responsible for them to an extent - but its a very play-by-ear situation.
Wow so your little girl is 3 months old eh? The last time I saw one of your threads you were pregnant. Time FLIES!!

[Princess12]

Kids will be kids. If you think they're "absolutely intolerable" - you can go fuck yourself.

Parents are responsible for them to an extent - but its a very play-by-ear situation.
Wow so your little girl is 3 months old eh? The last time I saw one of your threads you were pregnant. Time FLIES!!

Yeah I know! It seems like just yesterday! She will be 4 months old on 4/1. It's crazy how fast time goes by!

[twiztid cc]

Kids will be kids. If you think they're "absolutely intolerable" - you can go fuck yourself.

[green91]

I vote absolutely intolerable. In a sit-down restaurant, the entire purpose of going is to sit down and eat a meal.. its a convenience and a break away from home. If Im paying for a meal thats suppose to be convenient and relaxing and having service bring the food and refills to me.. i should absolutely be entitled to a relaxing atmosphere. Hearing a kid screaming incessantly is ruining the entire point of eating a meal away from home.

[Humphrizzle]

after a while, i'll leave if it is that much of a nuisance

[GLulic]

yea a 3 month old is understandable but if its like a 5 year old making too much noise then it would piss me off badly.
ages 13-18>4-13

just sayin'

[quickdodge®]

I can guarantee you that the each one of you who posted a negative attitude about NOT taking your child out to eat has NO children of their own.

When you have a child (if you do), I guarantee that you change your ways of thinking. Just because you have children does NOT mean you are automatically home bound until the child grows up. That's ludicrous thinking. I agree 100% about movies, but as far as restaurants, that's a different story. Now with any four of mine, when he/she started acting up and would not calm down after a minute or so, I or my wife would take the child somewhere to calm him/her down. I wouldn't and can't stand for a child to just be left to cry until he/she is done crying.

But there is no reason at all that parents with younger children can not go to a nice restaurant with their children. I understand you voicing your opinion about liking it or not, but you have no voice when it comes to what a parent should or should not do unless you've lived on the other side of the fence.

For the record, neither of my four were really that bad in our dining out experiences. Later, QD.

[redrumracer]

I can guarantee you that the each one of you who posted a negative attitude about NOT taking your child out to eat has NO children of their own.

When you have a child (if you do), I guarantee that you change your ways of thinking. Just because you have children does NOT mean you are automatically home bound until the child grows up. That's ludicrous thinking. I agree 100% about movies, but as far as restaurants, that's a different story. Now with any four of mine, when he/she started acting up and would not calm down after a minute or so, I or my wife would take the child somewhere to calm him/her down. I wouldn't and can't stand for a child to just be left to cry until he/she is done crying.

But there is no reason at all that parents with younger children can not go to a nice restaurant with their children. I understand you voicing your opinion about liking it or not, but you have no voice when it comes to what a parent should or should not do unless you've lived on the other side of the fence.

For the record, neither of my four were really that bad in our dining out experiences. Later, QD.

You remove your children until they calm down, and that's the main thing that upsets me is when they don't do that.

[quickdodge®]

You remove your children until they calm down, and that's the main thing that upsets me is when they don't do that.

Right. That's the part where I agree with the annoyance. But if a child cries out because he/she is hungry and it takes a second to fix the bottle or whatever is on that child's menu, then give it a second. If the crying is incessant, then the right to get upset is valid.

Another thing I might add. I was very aware of annoyances so I did not go to nice restaurants very often at all BECAUSE I knew that I might have a chance of ruining someone else dinner.

I have a good time now because my oldest daughter has a daughter of her own now (two months old) and watching her go through the motions is amusing, lolol. Haven't been out to dinner with her with the baby yet, though.

Later, QD.

[IMPORTchic]

I can guarantee you that the each one of you who posted a negative attitude about NOT taking your child out to eat has NO children of their own.

When you have a child (if you do), I guarantee that you change your ways of thinking. Just because you have children does NOT mean you are automatically home bound until the child grows up. That's ludicrous thinking. I agree 100% about movies, but as far as restaurants, that's a different story. Now with any four of mine, when he/she started acting up and would not calm down after a minute or so, I or my wife would take the child somewhere to calm him/her down. I wouldn't and can't stand for a child to just be left to cry until he/she is done crying.

But there is no reason at all that parents with younger children can not go to a nice restaurant with their children. I understand you voicing your opinion about liking it or not, but you have no voice when it comes to what a parent should or should not do unless you've lived on the other side of the fence.

For the record, neither of my four were really that bad in our dining out experiences. Later, QD.

You dear king of asses.....has said it pretty much perfectly!!! lol *runs*

Seriously though...hit it right on the head!

[Buttons]

You dear king of asses.....has said it pretty much perfectly!!! lol *runs*

Seriously though...hit it right on the head!

x2. But the OP has to consider her audience, most of these responders are immature guys.

[RL...]

I can guarantee you that the each one of you who posted a negative attitude about NOT taking your child out to eat has NO children of their own.

When you have a child (if you do), I guarantee that you change your ways of thinking. Just because you have children does NOT mean you are automatically home bound until the child grows up. That's ludicrous thinking. I agree 100% about movies, but as far as restaurants, that's a different story. Now with any four of mine, when he/she started acting up and would not calm down after a minute or so, I or my wife would take the child somewhere to calm him/her down. I wouldn't and can't stand for a child to just be left to cry until he/she is done crying.

But there is no reason at all that parents with younger children can not go to a nice restaurant with their children. I understand you voicing your opinion about liking it or not, but you have no voice when it comes to what a parent should or should not do unless you've lived on the other side of the fence.

For the record, neither of my four were really that bad in our dining out experiences. Later, QD.

Much like how my opinion is that of a single person without a child, yours is also biased because you do have children. I understand children are our future and they are important, most importantly to their parents, but they don't need to be interrupting everyones' conversations and making the atmosphere uncomfortable for everyone.

I'm not saying parents need to stay in with their children until the children mature, but if a child starts screaming and causing a ruckus in public then the parent should know/find a way to calm him/her down, and if he can't why should the child be everyone elses problem?

[quickdodge®]

Much like how my opinion is that of a single person without a child, yours is also biased because you do have children. I understand children are our future and they are important, most importantly to their parents, but they don't need to be interrupting everyones' conversations and making the atmosphere uncomfortable for everyone.

Here's the thing, stupid, and this will really set the bar for your level of stupidity pretty high, I used to be single with no children.


Wha-wha- WHAAAAT!!!!!

Call it one of nature's oddities, but it's true. Most people are indeed single and childless before they are married and having children. So, Einstein, I too know what it's like to be on the other side of that fence. Holy fuck you're an idiot.

Since you say that I'm just going to assume you think it's fine to bring your child to a restaurant, let him scream all he wants while disturbing everyone in the immediate area for the duration of the meal. That would be so inconsiderate to everyone around you it's not even funny. Perhaps you're the one who isn't suited for parenthood....

You really didn't read my initial post in here, did you? Did you just see that I posted and respond? You do know that makes you more the moron, yes? Parenthood? I hope you never enjoy those days. In fact, I wouldn't shed a tear to learn that you don't even get a chance to enjoy tomorrow.

but qd, if you think that doing what i said above is wrong and maybe you have even the slightest bit of consideration in you, then you're just an ass for playing devils advocate.

Careful, dude. Your stupidity is showing. Do you even understand what you quoted and responded to? Or is this another case of seeing a post with my name tagged on it and just rambling?

As for your other attempts, I find it humorous that you're trying to target me in your luster to gain fame from showing off how much higher your lower educational skills are than most everyone else on the board.

Later, QD.

[RL...]

QD, you're obviously better at me than e-thugging it out online. I'll give it to you, I bet you feel so badass! Congrats you're cool here on IA. props.



You take this internet forum stuff very seriously don't you...

tisk, tisk, tisk...

I'm still right, and you're wrong.

[Mike Lowrey]

I agree 100% about movies, but as far as restaurants, that's a different story. Now with any four of mine, when he/she started acting up and would not calm down after a minute or so, I or my wife would take the child somewhere to calm him/her down. I wouldn't and can't stand for a child to just be left to cry until he/she is done crying.

But there is no reason at all that parents with younger children can not go to a nice restaurant with their children.

Later, QD.

Exactly. Kids are going to act up, but it is what the parents do about it that makes the difference.