Children Crying in Restaurants?

[IMPORTchic]

First off...there is a HUGE difference from a crying baby to a crying child IMO. Babies cry and there is not too much you can do sometimes to prevent it 100%. Usually though whatever the reason be that they are crying for, it is easy to fix unless, they are sick or it is nap/bed time in which they should be doing just that and not be out. I am nanny to 3 different infants for over a year now so I should know that much. As far as a 2, 3, 4+ year old.....I feel that they should not be allowed to cry in a public resturants/places. They should be taken out immediately and probably be disciplined b/c they are more than likely throwing a fit. What gets me though is not the crying baby or crying 3yr old b/c they are tired/having a bad day/whatever....its the screaming and shouting child with no manners that is crawling around everywhere and the parent is not getting onto them and enforcing it. I want to go jerk those kids up and whoop their ass myself and make them sit there properly like a child should. No child in my family has ever been allowed to act like such in public. We ALL knew better.

But to the OP....sounds like you done the right thing by taking the baby out. I know that probably sucked for you, but that is a good/respectful thing you done. It kind of bothers me to know that they other couple made such "rude" comments when the KNEW it was a baby and babies cry. Me personally.....if the baby was just kind of fussy and not screaming I would have just continued on with my dinner b/c every mexican place I have ate at is loud anyways...so what does it matter? lol Very good question and point.

Every child will have a bad day every once in a while, but that does not mean that they should be home bound until older. If that happens then it will be starting at square one when you do get them out. The oldest baby I keep is prime example. She is 13 months at the end of this month and she HATES people besides me and her mom/granny/dad. THat is b/c she was never socialized as a younger infant. So now...when they tried to take her out last week....she screamed the whole time from anxiety of being in new places with new people. Kids will learn. Even as infants. All of my lil cousins learned VERY young to even sit through church and be quiet but they were living terrors at home....so goes to prove.....decent behaving children in public CAN be had.

Sorry for the ranting..I am half asleep! lol

[redrumracer]

Man QD, didn't think you were that old, your a grandfather, late congrats I guess.

[GLulic]

Man QD, didn't think you were that old, your a grandfather, late congrats I guess.

lol how exactly old is he?

just askin'

[T34me]

why the fuck are parents bringing kids into movies that are rated R for a reason. When the first re-do of The Texas Chainsaw Massacre(sp) came out, there were couples with their infants/toddlers with them. ARE YOU FUCKING HIGH????? And bringing kids into restraunts....Im sure by now you know you know how your kid acts...is he quiet...or an obnoxious bitch....not rocket science. If he is option B, dont bring them the fuck out.

[FriskyWalrus]

why the fuck are parents bringing kids into movies that are rated R for a reason. When the first re-do of The Texas Chainsaw Massacre(sp) came out, there were couples with their infants/toddlers with them. ARE YOU FUCKING HIGH????? And bringing kids into restraunts....Im sure by now you know you know how your kid acts...is he quiet...or an obnoxious bitch....not rocket science. If he is option B, dont bring them the fuck out.

now i wouldnt exactly go that far. a parent can know how the child reacts at home but doesnt know how they will react at a restaurant. as well as they may have been taken to restaurants previous times and had no problem with the child but something at that point in time, may have caused the child to react and cry or get upset. now me personally, i can stand a child crying. i guess its just one of those things you get used to. when i was younger, it annoyed me but not that much. now, i just block it out

[vinayak]

Okay I have a 3 year old boy, he has never been real fussy. Even when he was cutting teeth he never really cried or acted like he was in discomfort. He has only puked 1 time in his hole life and only been sick a handful of times. Yes I am very lucky.

As far as the other couple that is pretty shitty of them to get upset when a 3 month old cries. They wanted you to bring your child. If i were your husband I would have told them not to have children after there comments. I would really look at that "friendship".

If a child is > 2 crying is expected and never wrong. Chances are a > 2 year old child does not have the verbal skill to tell the parent what the hell is wrong. Crying is the only way.

Now if the child is < 3 it has the verbal skills to tell what the fuck wrong with them. If a child over 3 is acting up it really not there fault either. This is what they have learned is acceptable from there parents. People are a direct extension of there parents. Parents do not do a good job raising there children it shows.

To the op you did the right thing. It sounds like a bad night out and the comments from your "friends" did not help. Do not let that discourage you in going out. Since I have had my son i have not gone to the movies in 3 years. I have trust issues when it comes to letting my child stay with people. I really do not want to be in the news if someone where to hurt him.

[BobbyFresco]

It's easy to pass judgement when you're not a parent. Life doesn't end just because you have children and I don't understand why some of you suggest that parents of young children should not be able to enjoy the same activities that the rest of society can partake in. However, there is a distinct difference between a three month old baby crying in comparison to a 5 year old child.

[Arm&hammer]

it would piss me off if the child was never calmed down.
but since she tried to make the child stop crying and she took care of it it wouldn't bother me.

[ironchef]

Can't stand it. Its almost as bad as a kid crying on airplane.

[Frög]

Can't stand it. Its almost as bad as a kid crying on airplane.

Yeah, almost..

I was about to say that.. lol

When I lived in Thailand, I would fly home to Paris twice a year.. Those are 12+ hour flights.. If you are sitting by a crying baby, you will, and I mean, YOU WILL want to drown that baby no matter how cute he/she is..

Insanity makes you do crazy things.. And sitting 12 hours by a crying baby stuck in a plane WILL make you go insane..

[Buttons]

I was at the court house the other day trying to get a title for my car. The lady in line had three kids, two able to walk and one who looked about a few months old. The baby was in the stroller, but it was crying at the top of its lungs. And the mom didn't even look at the baby. That bothers me. The mom could have at least tried to calm the baby down or something. My mom ended up going over there and rocking the baby til it hushed.

To an extent, it bothers me. I know kids will be like that. I took my niece out the other day. She's 10 months old. Sometimes she is the best baby in the world, but sometimes she's just really fussy. If she starts crying, I try to calm her down. If I can't calm her down, we just leave. I don't like bothering people.

So you did the right thing. You at least tried to make it stop. And when it didn't, you took your baby away.

[quickdodge®]

I was at the court house the other day trying to get a title for my car. The lady in line had three kids, two able to walk and one who looked about a few months old. The baby was in the stroller, but it was crying at the top of its lungs. And the mom didn't even look at the baby. That bothers me. The mom could have at least tried to calm the baby down or something. My mom ended up going over there and rocking the baby til it hushed.

To an extent, it bothers me. I know kids will be like that. I took my niece out the other day. She's 10 months old. Sometimes she is the best baby in the world, but sometimes she's just really fussy. If she starts crying, I try to calm her down. If I can't calm her down, we just leave. I don't like bothering people.

So you did the right thing. You at least tried to make it stop. And when it didn't, you took your baby away.

I will rue the day that God "blesses" you with a child. People like you should NEVER reproduce. Later, QD.

[Buttons]

I will rue the day that God "blesses" you with a child. People like you should NEVER reproduce. Later, QD.

At least I try to take care of the kids with me unlike other people.

[RL...]

I will rue the day that God "blesses" you with a child. People like you should NEVER reproduce. Later, QD.

Thank you.

Since you say that I'm just going to assume you think it's fine to bring your child to a restaurant, let him scream all he wants while disturbing everyone in the immediate area for the duration of the meal. That would be so inconsiderate to everyone around you it's not even funny. Perhaps you're the one who isn't suited for parenthood....

It's funny how you always make me the bad guy when my opinions/perspectives are pretty damn valid.

but qd, if you think that doing what i said above is wrong and maybe you have even the slightest bit of consideration in you, then you're just an ass for playing devils advocate.

[Total_Blender]

When I was little I went everywhere with my mom. The thing about infants is, like everybody said, you have to socialize them. Once they get used to crowds they are usually OK. You just have to anticipate what they want (which is usually just a diaper change, titties, or just attention). Basically the same things an 80 year old man wants .

When my sister and I were kids (3-7) knew if we showed our ass she would not hesitate to take us outside and spank us, she kept a hickory switch in the car. And we'd get another one when we got home.

[Kourt]

I don't mind if its a little baby (like yours) who you can't relate what they need to you and may just feel bad or tired. But when the kid is 2-6 years old and screaming/acting up it pisses me off because they are old enough to know better and old enough for the parent to do something with. So I can tolerate a baby, but not children who need discipline.

[Paul]

i only have respect for people who know how to control their children; when we have kids if they start crying and won't stop you excuse yourself and leave the table w/ child

[quickdodge®]

i only have respect for people who know how to control their children; when we have kids if they start crying and won't stop you excuse yourself and leave the table w/ child

So you're admitting to respecting me? AWESOME! Later, QD.

[mike's02ls1]

I have a 22 month old, and understand where you are coming from. It doesn't bother me to hear a baby crying, but the baby is screaming non stop then it would be the right thing to do, and step outside until the baby is calmed down.
The other folks have no idea what you are going thru, and won't until they have children...

[Kevykev]

It can be annoying at times but I try to be as understanding as possible. Sometime parents want to go out as a family so i clearly understand why they would bring they're small child into a public family environment.

if you're child gets to the point where they hinder the enjoyment of others,then it's your responsibility as a parent to take proper action.

People who say that parents shouldn't bring there kinds into a public family environment are ignorant a-holes, totally unrealistic.

I'm not even a parent but I try my best to be fair in understanding a situation like this.

[keva52]

i dont have kids of my own but since my sister is a full time nurse i look after her 2 y/o most of the time. if he acts up in a public place i wont hesitate to take him off and calm him down of slap him on the hand if he is just throwing a temper tantrum..

my mother and myself are the only two that can control him. when he goes back to my sisters on her days off he is a hellyn but when hes with me or my mother he's a perfect angel.

but you did the right thing by taking her to the car to calm her down, thats what i think any good parent would do.

[RL...]

i dont have kids of my own but since my sister is a full time nurse i look after her 2 y/o most of the time. if he acts up in a public place i wont hesitate to take him off and calm him down of slap him on the hand if he is just throwing a temper tantrum..

my mother and myself are the only two that can control him. when he goes back to my sisters on her days off he is a hellyn but when hes with me or my mother he's a perfect angel.

but you did the right thing by taking her to the car to calm her down, thats what i think any good parent would do.

Exactly, but apparently QD disagrees, and would leave his child to disturb everyone....

[RedEj8]

The only time it bothered me was when we were at a Hibachi restaurant where you have to sit at the table with 10 other people.. This kid started crying very loud and the bitch wouldn't take the kid out of the room to calm it down and just let it sit there and cry and scream.. We couldn't even carry on a conversation because it was so loud we would've had to yell to hear each other.

Baby finally quit crying/screaming 10 mins later... I wanted to slap a bitch. That is not something I want to hear at a restaurant with a quiet atmosphere where plates are $20 and up..

If the baby isn't right next to me, as in across the room, then it doesn't bother me.

[RL...]

The only time it bothered me was when we were at a Hibachi restaurant where you have to sit at the table with 10 other people.. This kid started crying very loud and the bitch wouldn't take the kid out of the room to calm it down and just let it sit there and cry and scream.. We couldn't even carry on a conversation because it was so loud we would've had to yell to hear each other.

Baby finally quit crying/screaming 10 mins later... I wanted to slap a bitch. That is not something I want to hear at a restaurant with a quiet atmosphere where plates are $20 and up..

If the baby isn't right next to me, as in across the room, then it doesn't bother me.

it was prob QD

[man]

why did your husband stay?

[Princess12]

why did your husband stay?

The waiter was dropping off his margarita at the table as I was getting up to go outside, and I told him to just sit down and enjoy it. He doesn't get to do that very often.

[LizBiz]

I can tolerate it at a restaurant, that's not a problem at all. But when it comes to movie theaters....that's a BIG no no. I don't know why people are bitching and moaning cuz ya'll asses did the same thing when ya'll were a kid lmao.

[amandDA]

an occasional wimper from a baby is normal but when they sit there and keep at it, it makes me think that the parents r irresponsible and need to control their kids.

[NAMNORI]

I've got a 20 month old and a 10 month old i know exactly how you feel (op) my wife and i have had to skip many dinner events and chances at hanging out with friends because our children were in bad moods. Yes even for me its annoying but maybe that's because i've got very little patience. I love kids but sometimes they can be too much. for those of you who can't take it at all, go fuck yourselves. Babies and toddlers crying are part of life get over it.


Just remember how you treat your kids because they are the ones that will chose your nursing home!!!

[SuperChicken]

Shit, at McDonalds, most of the adults behave FAR worse than most of the kids there!!! I was in a McD's last week, and there was one woman in there screaming into her cell phone in like, Nigerian, or something...made me jump several times! And there was another lady there, also on her damn phone, who just started cackling at the top of her fuckin' lungs...no regard for anyone else in the place.

These people suffer from a sense of entitlement that allows them to do whatever the fuck they want, and not give a shit about those around them! Those women were far worse than the kid that was crying that she wanted an ice cream...but her father ignoring her pretty much sucked too!f

Fuck, I hate people....

[_Christian_]

How much I'm willing to put up with really depends on how nice the restaurant is. If it's a $10 plate, Im going to put up with more than if it's a $50 plate.

at the request of the couple whom we were dining with.

The people you're dining with have no reason to be pissed, but the guy sitting next to you might want to stab you. He doesn't care WHY you decided to bring the child, just that you DID.

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

How do you guys feel about children crying in a family restaurant atmosphere?

Here's the story:

My husband and I have a 3 Month old little girl, who we took to dinner with us tonight at the request of the couple whom we were dining with. It was the first time they had the opportunity to meet her, and we were excited to do so.

We chose to eat at the local Mexican restaurant, which is a family oriented atmosphere that we dine at very frequently. Well, being that our daughter is only 3 months old, her temperament is pretty unpredictable, and she just happened to be fairly cranky this evening.The couple who we were with made several very rude comments to us about her interrupting and disturbing other people who were in the restaurant. It's not like she was screaming incessantly or even letting out loud shrills. To say the least, I spent a majority of the evening with my daughter in the car.

So... if you are dining in a family oriented restaurant, and a child cries occasionally during your meal, how does it make you feel?

It was totally intolerable for me before I had my son. Now, he's usually the one causing the disturbance. I hate it when it happens and I try to console him; however, sometimes it just doesn't work. I avoid restaurants with him as much as possible now.

I actually had one lady that I didn't even know tell me that I needed to learn how to better discipline my child when in public... I told her that if she had a better way to do it, then she needed to show me - she shut up.

You should've told your friends to fuck off.

[Brian*]

I like kids but its only Tolerable to an extent for sure...

[AnthonyF]

lolol...this one time my family was out at a nice place, not super fancy but upcaleish. And this little kid was running around the place and the parents were doing a damn thing. And you could see other customers were upset. So as the kid came running by my dad's side of the table he got in his face and said:

"Sit down you little fucking brat!"

lolol he walked to his parents table and they didn't say a word! lots of people heard my dad too.

-Ant.

[AnthonyF]

But on topic, I HATE when a kid screams in the restaurant. NOW, if the kid is under, what...3? it is partially acceptable b/c it happens. Kids don't really know any better...BUT the parents better be trying their damndest to shut him/her up or take them out. If the kid knows when to be good and not act like a spoiled rotton child and still acts up, the parent(s) should take him/her outside or in the bathroom and tap that ass!

i'm tired of this new age bullshit where it is wrong to spank your child. Hitting your child, i dont agree with. Spanking? Very much so. My dad used to pull out a wood fork about 12" long...Forky was his name...he was a bastard. lol.

-Ant.

[Mike Lowrey]

Voted intolerable.

The OP was very nice and left the restaurant with her child. I believe more parents need to understand that they are not the only ones in a public place. They need to control their kids. Too many let their kids run all over the place causing problems, which makes me want to punch the parents and the kid.

Bottom line, control your kids in public = no issues.

[teh bri]

i CANNOT stand eating while a child is screaming it drives me nuts.

Mom used to flip when that happened.

They need to control their kids or not bring them out in public.

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

Oh, you better believe I beat the shit out of my child when he acts up in public or at home... (ok, maybe not the shit, but I do spank him)

These new laws or whatever about not spanking your kids is bullshit... My mom beat the hell out of me when I was a kid and I will do the same.. (Hopefully, Max will be a better kid than me, lol) The parents that choose not to spank their children are the parents that will have to deal with the shit their kids put them thru later.

[Mike Lowrey]

Oh, you better believe I beat the shit out of my child when he acts up in public or at home... (ok, maybe not the shit, but I do spank him)

These new laws or whatever about not spanking your kids is bullshit... My mom beat the hell out of me when I was a kid and I will do the same.. (Hopefully, Max will be a better kid than me, lol) The parents that choose not to spank their children are the parents that will have to deal with the shit their kids put them thru later.

Agreed x100.

I believe that this is the cause of alot of the kids problems later in life. If I did something wrong. My father beat the shit out of me. Guess what? I never fuckin' did it again. A child can surely understand cause and effect.

[Ran]

These new laws or whatever about not spanking your kids is bullshit... My mom beat the hell out of me when I was a kid and I will do the same.. (Hopefully, Max will be a better kid than me, lol) The parents that choose not to spank their children are the parents that will have to deal with the shit their kids put them thru later.

Behold the source of the problem.