In order to get married, last I checked it's more than just about the others sexual abilities and preferences...
In a relationship and sexually active
Not in a relationship and sexually active
Married
In a relationship, dying to get out, but still sexually active
I'm Yousef and don't have sex
Other: Please Explain.
In order to get married, last I checked it's more than just about the others sexual abilities and preferences...
Originally Posted by eViLMunkey
I don't think that's the point he's trying to make but compatability on different levels is needed to make a marriage work, one of them being sexual.
Issues rooted behind sex can play a part in ruining a marriage or any type of relationship for that matter.
As a side note. There is nothing wrong with waiting til marriage. I just think it's dumb to not experience something like sex when you're in your teen-early adult years.
DAMN, HOW DID HE WALK?
I wouldnt say its 'retarded' I would say its a technicality only thats methods dont really work in the long run for the most part.I believe in no sex before marriage. That's the long and short of it. Everyone is going to tell me how retarded they think that is and I'm not going to care simply because I believe what I believe in.
If youre into the Bible for example the principle is about COMMITMENT....not a piece of paper from a church or government that says you can have sex.
Before you marry you had better know FULLY the sexuality of your partner. Otherwise you will end up like tens of thousands of others....disapointed and/or not fulfilled. Of course, if sex is not important to you that may not be an issue. BUT if it ends up being important to your partner....it will be. You better make absolute certain of their interests!
i do agree, but being divorced and this was one of her issues, it can be a huge problem.....
on the flip side, for most married folks, sex was better, more often, and more fun when they were unmarried...get married and all of the sudden sex is like the 'gold star' in 1st grade for being a 'good boy today'....took out the trash, got a romp, bj's on the bday and xmas and so on and so forth. dont believe me, talk to some folks been married for more than 3 or 4 years...life just gets in the way
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I mean you never can tell! I might say I DO and still not have sex.:idb:
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I mean you never can tell! I might say I DO and still not have sex.
It's a catch 22 really. Think about it. Under the assumption you have never had sex with your soon to be husband, what if when you guys get married you come to the conclusion that the sex sucks or he comes to that conclusion with you?
It would be an issue and quite frankly, sex plays a bigger role in relationships than people are willing to admit.
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What If I say I DO and still don't have sexor what if i only have sex to procrate children.
hahahaha
I mean seriously. Sex is not high of my list of important things, obviously.
That's YOU but then are you saying that HIS needs or wants are of no concern to you? If that's the case, then you really shouldn't be worried about getting married. It's about both of you, not just you.
True on both accounts. What if he doesnt like it and come to find out, he's been a peter puffer all along. Or, what if she doesnt like it, refrains from it then he goes elsewhere to find it? Both very likely possibilities that have happened more than once.
Oh I failed to elaborate. I would never marry a male that was not a virgin himself.
ummm... that's gonna be difficult to find these days... other than we can always just say we are
ummm... that's gonna be difficult to find these days... other than we can always just say we are
QFT
not only girls can be dead lays. there is a difference between actually having great sex and a guy just putting tab B into slot A over and over again. you have to build up to it and try new things.
i tried to wait until marriage, it didn't work out for me. i'm not going to get into a long loving relationship unless i know we are sexually compatible. i don't care about size, he can work with that. i just rather know what he's into. like if he's into some weird sh!t, i really don't want to marry him.
there are many levels you look for someone. sexually is one of them. i'm in a relationship right now and am sexually active. if i had a feeling that all it was was sex, i would be gone. but we do have conversation and hang out without sex. if i say that i dont want to do it, he'll respect me, or he has so far.
sex is not a priority, but it is something most people want.
i respect it if someone wants to wait, but that's just not for me.
my thoughts exactly.
Fuck stance. Stance is for kids in skinny jeans with Justin Beiber haircuts. You don't need stance when you got swagger.
I respect your overall goal here BUT....I always inform who I am dating the minute I see I really like them, and am interested in dating them, and I allow them to decide IF I AM WORTH their time with my morals and personal beliefs.
As I see it the problem with your method is that you might be using the 'virgin test' or the 'willingness to wait' test and neither of those tests REALLY work. Just because someone is willing to wait or is a virgin doesnt mean they wont turn into a full out sexual freak once they get some OR decide they hate sex and dont want it at all...or anything in between.
Being a virgin proves only one thing....you havent had any sex and likely dont even know what you will or will not like or have the appetite for....even though you think you might.
No offense so I hope none is taken by what I'm about to say but you are IMO setting yourself up for failure already. I say this because you already come with a list of what you adamantly will and won't do and what I perceive as a "It's about me and if you don't like it, tough" kind of attitude. In the end there's more to it than just YOU .
slowster civy, for all you know when you have sex you are gonna like some weird freaky stuff and your new husband will be like wtf! you know? so i mean you got to have a conversation or something at least before marriage.
true. Thats why I dont understand why Arabs are so excited about getting 72 virgins....thats a lot of effing work and teaching damnit
couldnt have said it better myselfSex before marriage - Definitely, have to test drive to make sure it's exactly what you want.
Random Sex - Definitely, have to get in multiple test drives to make smart comparisons.
Sex while in before out - Yes, even unhappy people have needs.
My own guess is that it will be far less then that. lol....
No personal offense intended.
my guess is that someone will be hitting up Craigslist in the future...
A potential mate should take careful note of ALL these kind of things.No offense so I hope none is taken by what I'm about to say but you are IMO setting yourself up for failure already. I say this because you already come with a list of what you adamantly will and won't do and what I perceive as a "It's about me and if you don't like it, tough" kind of attitude. In the end there's more to it than just YOU .
Compatibility is everything.
How you act like you are now and how you act during sex are two seperate things. when i was a virgin, i was like sh!t, i'm only going to have intercourse in missionary with my husband. now that i'm older, i've tried new things and would never want to fall back on that.
twice a week? -have you thought about being a nun? you still have time. i mean when you are older i understand that. but newlyweds? you supposed to beat the breaks off.
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yeah, think about that... ...
i mean to know what you want sexually you have to do it yourself or have your partner figure it out. it's not just a "let's have sex" wam bam thank you ma'am. it takes time to figure out if that is what you like. i mean the first time you have sex is going to suck major ass, most likely. after the first few times, you get to be more in tuned with your partner. if you love each other, it brings the love to a whole new level.
dieselnuts, that's just the way i think
I thought so at your first post.
The catholic 'brainwashing' system places great emphasis upon NO SEX before marriage but when there finally is sex , dont protect yourself, have 19 children.
My apologies for seeming harsh. I hope your future partner is brainwashed the same way....because the bottom line here is, COMPATIBILITY.
I have catholic relatives and friends and I have seen this scenario play out in the long run. I know several catholic guys with wives that think that way...and theyre getting laid on the side.
Name: Austin "Danger" Powers
Sex: Yes Please
Rich...Bob...Stan...?????
I dunno about all that. I enjoy being on top and in control. All she has to do is squeeze and I'm good to go.
exactly. It takes time to figure out what you like and sometimes you have to try new things that you typically wouldnt do. I have done that myself and to my suprise, there are things that I and my GF like that we would have never known if we didnt try.yeah, think about that... ...
i mean to know what you want sexually you have to do it yourself or have your partner figure it out. it's not just a "let's have sex" wam bam thank you ma'am. it takes time to figure out if that is what you like. i mean the first time you have sex is going to suck major ass, most likely. after the first few times, you get to be more in tuned with your partner. if you love each other, it brings the love to a whole new level.
dieselnuts, that's just the way i think
IMO to each his own, if you wanna wait more power to you, but it's not a MUST for me. People are ultimately going to do what they want to do, and the way society is set up right now, sex is everywhere. I don't want to sit there and tell my child he/she has to wait, cuz what if he/she goes out and does it anyway. So my approach is to tell him/her how important it is to wear protection, or to protect herself with BCP. At the same time, I don't believe in having sex with someone your not in a relationship with whatsoever.
"You just handle the justice, and I'll handle the revenge myself."
Nice avatar!
He'll be ok!
He must be a passive/aggressive/pushover type of guy because it shows in what you're saying....I don't think you respect him all that much, to be honest but hey, I could be wrong...Hopefully, your outlook on the subject at hand will change because no matter how much a man loves you, he's not going to remain faithful in a sexless marriage.
I feel sorry for your kids.MY figure husband is Methodist. Our kids will be Methodist.
maybe she would like it too. she really just doesn't know. what if you try something new and go "oh wait why didn't i like that before?" over time, your preference in sexual activities change.
that is exactly what i'm trying to say. like one time i had an asthma attack during sex and thought that it was real good sex, my guy decided maybe i like to be choked while having sex. so next time, we are going to try it. i mean you have to try new things. break out of your shell basically and get your freak on. then you would enjoy it to the fullest extent.
BINGO!!
lol, thats actually one of the things I was thinking about when writing my post
I share a variety of religious beliefs, not one strict BS sect.Well my children will def know better to have sex under my roof, can you say the same?
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