im not going to read all of this but here is my ultimate opinion. both of there kids are of age so there is no issue on child support the only issue is how much she is entitled to and here it is. shes entitled to an alimony check every month but.....not to suppor the lifestyle she is accustomed to. nor is she entitled to the house or the clothes. if it was me id give her 5-9k a month and her clothes and any personal momentos or whatever little **** she wants. but the fact of the matter is the house and the cars were all bought with HIS money. So she would get somewhere between 60-110k/yr. TAX FREE plus all the clothes jewlery and personal belongings and thats it if it were me. Men who make a lot of money get taken for a lot in divorces and when there are kids involved half the time they get above and beyond that as well because if mom has custody that want to make sure that there kids get everything that they need. and really if you want to put blame on anyone you gotta put it on the lawyers. they are ****ing ruthless. i have seen first hand lawyers go and get above and beyond what the wife was asking on.

Ex. of Bad divorce

My parents got divorced 4 years ago. my mom's lawyer had my dad arrested on bogus charges then went up claiming that he had classified military documents saying that he was dishonarbly discharged from the military(which he was not nor did this guy have any such documents)then went on and skewed facts to make him look as bad as possible. in the end my mom got 5k a month, the house, the cars, us(then she kicked me out) and all of her medical expenses paid because she cant get health insurance because shes an epileptic. she gets paid on the first of every month and by the 6th shes broke. and on top of that she will go out and run up unnecessary medical bills. and because she ends up broke by the first week of the month my dad gives her more money to make sure that my brother and sister get what they need. all in all it ends up like this everymonth

1st of the month-5k deposited into her account
6th of the month-shes broke and needs 1k for whatever and throws 1-3k worth of medical bills on him
14th of the month-she asks for another 1k and more medical bills
21st of the month-more of the same
28th of the month-more of the same

So total it up thats almost 10k A MONTH PLUS MEDICAL. my dad right now is sitting on 7k worth of medical bills between her and my lil brother who constantly does stupid **** and ends up needing surgery.And I feel bad for him because he can't not say no because of the two little ones. and the only way to support them is to work the way he does(consultant for Homeland Security). My dad is probably the nicest person you will ever meet. he does what he can and then some all he asks for is a little kindness in return. He not only takes care of My mom and the two little ones and me but also his parents and his younger sister. and yet my mom treats him like absolute ****. no appreciation whatsoever. With everything he does for everyone I honestly feel bad when I ask him for money on the weekends. and i would gladly get a job but he wants me to focus on school(which i should be doing now with a test and a project tommorow). Don't get me wrong he makes plenty of money doing what he does but just to furnish the house hes going and getting and equity loan because my mom bleeds him dry.

Moral of the story is if i get married I'm getting a prenup and if we have kids no matter how much I hate her I will stay with her until the kid hits college just so that I don't wind up bankrupt.