Damn that sucks.... and ignore the flood of "God hates rice" type comments that I'm sure will be coming... you're ok, and that's a hell of a wreck to come away from. I'm surprised it flipped! That's insane. But good for you for having the clarity of mind to get it stopped, and I'm glad you came away from it with minimal injury.

PS... If you argue with her insurance company, you can usually get them to cover the mods as well since the car is totalled.. that way you don't have to deal with taking them off (the stuff that's still usable) and you don't have a complete loss for the stuff like that fender and cf hood that aren't still usable. I would file a claim for the price of the aftermarket stuff... she wrecked your car, she should pay for ALL of it... not just the price of a stock car.