Well my thought is how is the "ONE" gonna be the same place you are? ie:city, state, or country maybe that is why some people date online to extended there range to finding someone. I dont think its lame to date online cause your still getting a real life aspect even tho its threw a screen your still talking to a real person. But depending were the person is and the situation determins how the relationship will work out it will vary to person to person as for me I havent gone to those "paying" sites. I have used playstaion HOME and I didnt use it to pick up chicks only as a social thing till I talked to this one girl; everything is going great now we dont use the playstaion HOME to talk now we use the phone to text or call and everything is going great, and we have plan to meet each other in the near future. sorry if I didnt answer your question I do believe I went off to a different tangent than what is it suppose to be.