Cost of a relationship..

[LizBiz]

I spent a lot in my previous relationship, when I'd go out and see something he'd like I'd get it for him. I like to try to keep it as mutual as possible, he shouldn't be the only one paying for dinner blah blah.

If we are in a relationship we shouldn't "look down on" (lack of a better word) paying for him, or splitting a bill. Some women think a man is SUPPOSE to do this and SUPPOSE to pay for that. In actuality a relationship is nothing but to INDIVIDUALS coming together. If I need help he'll help me, If he needs help I'll help him, and sometimes it's not the girl actually spending...its more so the offer that counts.

[X-Runner]

I spent a lot in my previous relationship, when I'd go out and see something he'd like I'd get it for him. I like to try to keep it as mutual as possible, he shouldn't be the only one paying for dinner blah blah.

If we are in a relationship we shouldn't "look down on" (lack of a better word) paying for him, or splitting a bill. Some women think a man is SUPPOSE to do this and SUPPOSE to pay for that. In actuality a relationship is nothing but to INDIVIDUALS coming together. If I need help he'll help me, If he needs help I'll help him, and sometimes it's not the girl actually spending...its more so the offer that counts.

I like your thinking here. I dated a girl last year (now one of my best friends) and I had just gotten laid off so I had no money really. She paid for everything if we went out, never bitched or made a big deal of it. Helped me out when she could etc. Now I have a great job and she got laid off, so I help her when I can.

Compare that to another girl I dated, still had no job and she seemed cool with it... until she had to start paying for stuff if she wanted to go out. She would hold it over my head and try to make me feel bad for not having the money to do/buy whatever. It was all I could do to pay my bills, much less anything else. I asked to borrow $20 while we were still dating so I could get to my new job and make some damn money and she flipped out on me, "I can't believe your asking me for money, your the guy, your don't ask a woman for money" etc. So I asked the first girl I was telling you about, she gave it to me and wouldn't let me pay her back. IDK just the difference in people I guess.