Cost of a relationship..

[Halfwit]

ive had a few relationships end because of this subject. i make decent money, and im not shy about taking a girl out, but when after a few months they expect it, dont appreciate it, and even start asking for you to take them out, i jsut frown to myself.

story.

one girl, i really liked, we had been dating for few months, we would go out 2-3 times a week. i always paid. conversation..

-- is the girl

--lets go get some dinner
im not hungry, if you want to eat, ill go with you.
--im not going to eat alone..pleeeese
im not hungry.
--im hungry!
ok, ill have a few chips and get something to drink

we get there and she keeps pushing me to get something. so i order a taco. (mexican restaurant) well i pick at it, she eats her meal, and the check comes.

she makes no move and i ask her if she is going to pay for it. she looks at me like im the most worthless person in the world. she pays, i thank her....but shes bitchy and i end up leaving that night. that incident caused us to break up because i expressed my concern on her taking me for granted, ect.

anyway- lessons learned and now i jsut try to find a girl that is jsut as happy watching a movie at home, than eating out every night.

like lizbiz said, im not trying to make a girl pay, but it would be nice if the offer was thrown out there from time to time. i think as relationships get more serious, things should level out. its not jsut 1 person getting something out of the relationship (companionship,love,ect) so why should 1 person put in.

its also a maturity thing. at younger ages, girls arent looking for a guy that they see a future with. they are looking to have a good time. and whoever can provide that, is going to get the girl.

[Jecht]

ive had a few relationships end because of this subject. i make decent money, and im not shy about taking a girl out, but when after a few months they expect it, dont appreciate it, and even start asking for you to take them out, i jsut frown to myself.

story.

one girl, i really liked, we had been dating for few months, we would go out 2-3 times a week. i always paid. conversation..

-- is the girl

--lets go get some dinner
im not hungry, if you want to eat, ill go with you.
--im not going to eat alone..pleeeese
im not hungry.
--im hungry!
ok, ill have a few chips and get something to drink

we get there and she keeps pushing me to get something. so i order a taco. (mexican restaurant) well i pick at it, she eats her meal, and the check comes.

she makes no move and i ask her if she is going to pay for it. she looks at me like im the most worthless person in the world. she pays, i thank her....but shes bitchy and i end up leaving that night. that incident caused us to break up because i expressed my concern on her taking me for granted, ect.

anyway- lessons learned and now i jsut try to find a girl that is jsut as happy watching a movie at home, than eating out every night.

like lizbiz said, im not trying to make a girl pay, but it would be nice if the offer was thrown out there from time to time. i think as relationships get more serious, things should level out. its not jsut 1 person getting something out of the relationship (companionship,love,ect) so why should 1 person put in.

its also a maturity thing. at younger ages, girls arent looking for a guy that they see a future with. they are looking to have a good time. and whoever can provide that, is going to get the girl.

Putting our past stupid arguments aside, I completely agree with you. I put way too much money into my relationship of two years with my ex because I thought I saw a future. Playing true to what you have said, she was looking for a good time and ended up sleeping with a local party-goer. The dependable guy that doesn't fool around wasn't good enough.

Oh so much money I spent. I was a complete fool.