Quote Originally Posted by quickdodgeŽ
If you're married and you have two separate accounts, then you shouldn't be married. Having separate accounts for each person is a "trust" issue. And if you have issues in trust, then there's no reason to stay together. When you get married, all priorities change. At least in a normal relationship. You've got to put family first. Over ANYthing else. You've got food, electricity, water, house and other bills that you're now providing for at least two (if not more with children) people. All the "toys" and shiit goes to the back burner. It doesn't have to be put on hold (unless it isn't financially reasonable), but it needs to be placed behind everything else. If all is well, and you can afford it after everything is taken care of, then by all means, go for it on your hobby. But if you have to hide accounts and have separate accounts, then there going to be problems. I couldn't think of disrespecting my wife by making her have her own account. I've been married for 10 years to this one we've always had the same account and we have no problems. Later, QD.
I actually disagree with you slightly QD. My wife and I trust each other completely, but we have three accounts and it works out very well. We do it for logistical reasons more than anything else. She has an account, I have an account, and we have a third account. Now mind you, we both have access to all three accounts, but it easier to put all of the money in one account that pays for the bills and our "allowances" go into each of our accounts. This keeps us from spending money that was supposed to go somewhere else and makes sure we don't overdraft. Having seperate accounts also makes the budget easier to track and spending analyzed.

To the OP... Where QD is correct is that your priorities should have changed when you got married. There is now no such thing as her money and your money. It is all both of your money now. I make close to twice as much as my wife and she spends close to twice as much as me in non-budgeted spending a month. That doesn't bother me in the slightest because making her happy is always my highest priority. IMHO, all purchases over 20 bucks or so should always be discussed and planned between the two of you and it doesn't really matter who makes the money at all.