Im engaged, been engaged for eight months and the wedding date is set at Nov. 10. But the dilemna presents itself. I am IN love with my fiancee, and a month ago realized my feelins for my last ex (first love) didnt go away i just 'put them to the side' if you will. I figure being the man that i am, i'd tell my fiancee the truth so that i can keep the truth out there ya know..cuz this situation has been bothering me for a month now.

Well i tell her and at first i felt good about gettin it off my chest and letting her know, but now i have regrets about telling her. I feel that she really wants out of the relationship but is just too afraid to admit it. I told her that the money her and her family already spent, if she wanted to cancel the wedding i would payback to them. She's mad, and i feel not trusting me right now. i dont know what to do, should i continue to console her and tell her im sorry and hopefully as she says she wants to, 'just forget about it', or encourage her to leave? what do i do