You stated "every girl"... "wants the "other man" to be close to their boyfriend/husband." There are a lot of females that "don't" cheat, and the females that "do" are just ignorant. That statement you made is "false". You can't sterotype "cheating women", or any women for that matter. I am sure "cheating women" all have their own ways of hiding things. I don't understand why you would feel the need to be with a married woman any way, but that's just my opinion. The situation is only going to destroy your friendship with the husband, the lives of the children, and break up her whole family. Why risk all that for a piece of ass? Just sit back and think logically...would you want to be in the Husband's position? I bet not...I think you need to do the right thing, and end all ties before you get yourself into something you can't get yourself out of. You would only be relieving yourself of un-necessary drama.