i am about to have a baby and i am 20 almost 21 and i am not getting married yet i have been with my man for 5 years he is 20. i want to get married sometime in the next couple of years and i hope things turn out good for us....but you are right the child is important his future etc making it work would be the best but if you are very unhappy it could also be a bad thing. think about seperating or talking to her i know it is hard but the child is the main concern which most parents know and would do anything for or just let things play out maybe they will get better but you are still young