In a way it is; just not materialistically. I feel spoiled to have parents that have made me pay for mostly everything I have ever wanted, since my age was a single digit. Mainly because they didn't set me up for failure, they taught me
Teaching your child how to survive and function in the world is not spoiling them. It's ensuring they make it to be the best of their ability. It's what they do with your efforts that determines their place in life. Later, QD.