You can't rush the healing man, and coming to terms with grief is always a long process. I lost my dad five years ago, when I was in high school, and I literally just zoned out for about a year. I slept through all my classes, and started racing cars to get a rush, and to take my mind away from what was haunting me. But I learned quickly you can't run from it, and you can't hide from it.

No matter how terrible or uncomfortable it is, death is very much a part of life. In time the shock and sadness will lessen, and you'll be able to fondly remember the memory of the one you lose, and the joy you felt while they were a part of your life. Spend time in the company of the people who care about you, and just take it one day at a time.

I also did the therapy thing for about two years, although I had a pretty good time with it, and learned a lot from my doctor. I'm not going to knock shrinks, because some of them are very very good at what they do. I can give you a recommendation for a very good one if that's something you're interested in.