You know man - he has an advantage that we do not have - he has had time to make it right w/ every1 who he has came in contact with. He knew years ago that one day he'd be where he is. We are the ones who say "be right back" and are never heard from again b/c "we invincible and healthy" - nothing can go wrong... right? Wrong. He has had to treat people right the FIRST time around - b/c he knew that anyday coul dbe his day. Where we run around mis-treating each other b/c we think we got time to fix it later. There is an advantage to having a terminal illness -- unless you are cpabale of abtract thought, then you won't understand what I am saying and take it the wrong way. To me - this is a f*cked up world -- one that treats good people bad and bad people good for not apparent rhyme or reason. When my uncle passed... and I saw my family beg and plead w/ their God to not take him, I took a look at that and I see it as selfish as h*ll... if you are one that believes, then why stay here when heaven is so much better? I also do not go to funerals for reasons along the same line. My family was like "Baby J" he was your favorite and you didn't go... that's not kool. I said this to my family --> "I'm 28 and yet yall still do not underdstand me and who I am.... and I know that is probably my fault b/c I let no1 in. See ... yall went to the funeral... the last time you saw Uncle John Lee he was dead. Well guess what - I didn't go, and the last time I saw him he was smiling at me and laughin' and talking - to ME, he is still alive --> THAT is how I see him. I do not need to go to the funeral as respect to him - I respected him while he was alive -- and I never have to dream about or think about how he looked as a dead man - b/c I have never seen him that way." It's an abstract way of thought, but that's how I make death make sense to me. I will NEVER go to another funeral - ever.
I hope you take this time to ask him how he wants his day to go down, and spend some quality time and have some good conversation if he is up to it. Think about the good times --- and we (IA) are here for you man - real talk. We are a phone call, PM, or thread away.
J'son
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