Quote Originally Posted by BABY J View Post
^^ Real easy to say that. Have you looked at the data for kids that are never adopted? Shuffled from home to home and never having a real family? There is no room for "well tough shit - deal with it" AFTER the fact. Again, the kids are the real losers in situations where you say "oh well - deal with it". Ask those kids if they enjoy their life. It's people that say "well adopt" that have never considered adopting kids - they just run off and have their own kids. I'd bet that not a person in this thread (who can have kids outright on their own) who is yelling "adopt" has applied to adopted kids.
This is why I mention healthy newborns. There is a shortage of those. I believe the cutoff is at about age 2, then the numbers that you described compound dramatically at every age.

I have no personally tried to adopt, but my brother in laws ex-wife's parents have adopted 3 kids instead of having their own. It can be very expensive, and time consuming to do. IMO, if you arent willing to suffer the time and expense to adopt, you probably arent going to make a very good home to that adopted child.