I cant say that i feel your pain in this. but i do understand what your going threw. my sister is going threw the same right now. except her ex did beat the crap out of her and is still stalking her even with the restraining order. The bad side is she managed some how to pull a restraining order out of her ass. but the good is if it isnt proven or you can prove that she is misstreating your daughter in anyway then shes pretty much screwed. not to mention if shes pulling in food stamps and miss useing govt funds in anyway then she can be in deep crap. I know it sounds shitty but proveing her an unfit mother is definit key in alot of this. You can choose to have defax come into the picture to make sure that she is being taken care of and yes the voice mail is admissable in court. he left it on your voice mail knowing he was being recorded. and that being said shes putting your daughter in an unsafe environment which goes in your favor. I would bring up some of the bad things that shes done (but only if she does the same) keep it a level playing field, Id ask for a continuence to try to get your shit together. Your going into this blind and you dont know what tricks shes has up her sleeve. I wish you the best of luck my friend. and I hope that things truly work out for you..