if your girl became jealous of you having female friends till the point where it started irritating the hell out of u??
*females can give some input on it too*
What would u do..
if your girl became jealous of you having female friends till the point where it started irritating the hell out of u??
*females can give some input on it too*
Originally Posted by Sinfix_15
Keep banging the "female friends"....
Here, hold my beer!
i was tempted til i realized the seriousness of the relationship
Listen to your girlfriend and try to talk it out to where you two can come to an agreement on the situation because if you don't you might as well kiss your relationship goodbye
THAT'S MY JAM!
You want honesty? Tell her to chill out or you are gonna cut it quits...
Look, my ex had a lot of female friends and I was so insecure about it. I would bug him all the time asking if he was cheating....Until guess what? He did. I am not saying that it is ok to cheat, I am jsut saying that honestly I really wish Ihadnt accused him of it so many times before...
Like I have stated in my blog...Jealousy is cute at first and in moderation....But when it starts to irritate...It is either time to let go or time to bring it up..
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I wouldn't say dump her. If you care about her and want you relationship to work then you will. People who quit are the ones who don't care. Take it from me. I have been there done that and we are still together
No I didnt say dump her...What I said is that it is gonna end up bad either way....Whether she dumps him or he dumps her...If jealousy persist those are the only two things that I see in the end...
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Sorry, forgot to respond to this part too...
I have had relationships where it was just time to "quit" but we still remain friends....Doesnt mean you dont care about them, just means that some need to grow more and being in the relationship stops the growing process for some...
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i agree with both especially the part written in BOLD. honesty and trust comes firts then everything should fall in place. if it the idea even comes up all you have to do is show the female or guy that it's ok (instead of telling) and then it shouldnt come up again.
true...shes tellin me at the moment she jus dnt wana kno bout them.
i did do sumthin stupid..*i guess* i was txtn one of them while i was on da phone w/ her and she ask me who i was txtn and i told her..
Ok...Now look...I am sorry, I was the jealous chick, but honestly I dont think I will go there again. U can text who ever you want whenever u want...You are dating...Not married.
Do u know how many people I turned my back on cuz my ex didnt want me talking to them?
And following that question do u know how many people I had when he left me? None.
Look if the girls are good friends, she needs to get the fuck over it...If they are girls that appear every once and a while...She needs to get the fuck over it...If it is a girl that you have been attracted to in the past....You need ur ass whooped
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being in this situation recently.. if your girl has concerns.. listen to her.. If your "friends" are that important to you.. you would have your girlfriend meet them.. she will be much more comfortable knowing the chicks rather then not.. and you also need to show your woman there is nothing to worry about.. There is this one girl I cant stand.. she blatently flirts with my boyfriend even when I am there.. but when its all said and done.. he comes home to me..
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*high five*
~booty bump~
The only thing that would matter to me is the bolded part...
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SHE FLIRTS WITH HIM?!!! Girl you are better than me. I would have def. said something to her. She is disrespecting you and you are letting her get away with it. You don't have to start drama just talk to her like a woman and let her know you see what she is doing and you don't appreciate it and she needs to stop now! If she doesn't then you take the matter into your own hands. About your boyfriend. If he knows that she is flirting with him he needs to get rid of her. It is wrong on his part to try to have a friend that doens't respect you guys relationship.
Honestly, I agree if u are the type of person that needs to say something, do it.
I am the kind that knows that my man isnt straying b/c if she flirts so openly with him now then it had to be worse before. That being said...There is a reason he chose YOU not her....
I would sit back chill and watch her flirt...Lol, in the end she lost.
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Different strokes for different folks. I just know I am not the type of female to let some other female disrespect me openly especially not when it comes to my man. You don't have to like me, but you must respect my relationship if you plan on chilling with my man. To me that is like being spit in the face and just walking away. I won't do itHonestly, I agree if u are the type of person that needs to say something, do it.
I am the kind that knows that my man isnt straying b/c if she flirts so openly with him now then it had to be worse before. That being said...There is a reason he chose YOU not her....
I would sit back chill and watch her flirt...Lol, in the end she lost.
how the hell do i do that..i tried..and it dnt seem to work
They are friends and I am not going to tell him who he can and cant be friends with.. dont get me wrong.. I get pissed as fuck.. specially when girls I DONT KNOW leave messsages on his myspace calling him puppy names and such.. but if he didnt wanna be with me.. he wouldnt.. if he wanted to be with someone else he would.. look people in general.. if they want to cheat.. they will.. they will find a way.. and its just a matter of time before it all blows up and the one who cheated will be the one who gets the short end of the stick in the end.. Jealousy has really put a strain on our relationship and I dont wanna be the one who fucks it up because I was that insecure with myself...
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To me that is not a jealousy issue. It would be a jealousy issue if you suspected something was going and it wasn't, but the fact that these girls are actually flirting with him whether you are around or not is just plain out disrespectful. Like I said different strokes for different folks.
+1
I think that if u are serious abotu making a relationship work, you have to get over a couple of things...Now getting over something doesnt mean compromising who u are, shit I am a crazy bitch if I think I ma being disrespected in any way....But the one thing in life that I have control over is myself and the way I react to things matters to others...So I figure that jealousy is just one of those things I rather do without...
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KICK HER IN THE THROAT !!!
BYAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA !!!
NY STAY HIGH !!!
come do it 4 me cuz im tempted to do it
What is she pissed about????come do it 4 me cuz im tempted to do it
I agree with Ran!!!!
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im pissed bout her retarded jealousy..shes 'pissed' cuz i talk/text themWhat is she pissed about????
I agree with Ran!!!!
Threesome. Then everybody is friends.
only if jose agreesThreesome. Then everybody is friends.
ill do it be like hey baby lets go to atlanta and then imma come running out of nowhere ..
* jump kick into pbs gf throat *
BYAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA AA !!!
NY STAY HIGH !!!
I have to give Jesse his props right about now. He has stayed with me through my jealous times and still loves me. I also like the fact that he would never hang out with a female if he knew that they liked him or even flirted with him while with me. He is a good man
I have and will always be in these situations. I am a big flirt plain and simple. I have crazy shorty's that are JUST friends. ALL I mean ALL of my GF has had a problem with me talking to girls. Me in general I just love women, period. My current GF and ex's knows that I am a flirt always has and will always be and it always their biggest problem with me.
All I have to say is if it is a shorty that you are really feeling, try and spend more time with her and show her that you are not hiding anything. Plus introduce her to some of you female friends. But that is might not be good enough for her though. Girls well some girls are just like that.
Does she have male friends?
GOOOOOOOO SOCA WARRIORS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
no...i guess even tho she tripping out today i should still go chill w/ her huh
thats the same thing i would do and its like she dnt recognize itI have to give Jesse his props right about now. He has stayed with me through my jealous times and still loves me. I also like the fact that he would never hang out with a female if he knew that they liked him or even flirted with him while with me. He is a good man
Well then that is on herthats the same thing i would do and its like she dnt recognize it
eeeks................this shiat brings back memories. I wasn't allowed to have female friends period once upon a time. but now I'm chlling in the friendzone like a thong in asscrack
As trini said.. you might be a flirt.. more than you realize.. but hang out with her a bit more.. get her flower.. take her to dinner.. make one night of the week a special night just for you two.. every week do something together.. it will help reassure her that you think she is special.. it will giver her something to look foward to when she knows it will be just you and her..
Val For President
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ASAP N.E. Chapter VP
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i use to be a big flirt but ive cut it out, just because. as far as us chillin, we usually do so bout 2-3 times a wk ya know, w/e's we'll go out and do something (bowling, skatin, movie, etc.) she doesnt like flowers though..all the things uve mentioned ive done..im super tempted to call it quits, cuz its like as soon as i let my guard down BAM she does this
something i don't understand is.....girls can be so unfair....lolz....they talk to other guys and the minute u say something...they think of u as being selfish....then next thing u know....u talk to another girl...they get piss....lolz
but this is my advice........carma is a bitch
this is my outlook on this issue.
a female having a male friend=ok. they are just friends.
a male having a female friend? = "why you gotta be talking to other women, am i not enough?" "are you fucking her" "you know she trying to get you"
rarely do ladies ok m/f friendshhips with their man and some woman.
though, i've always had female friends and kept it as just that, like TRINI, i'm a flirt, always have been, and i also like to keep a somewhat equal balance w/M vs. F friends. when i first met my woman, i told her from the gate that i like to keep a balance of both sexes. and with her, i expressed my allowance of the same. but with her eventually becoming so jealous of women around me, i eventually limited convo with the ones i knew, and played new ones to the left. NOT COOL....sacrificing you to make someone else happy sucks balls. but who hasnt done it? we all have in some way.
i understand compromise, i've made plenty. but no matter how much explaining that EVERYTHINGS COOL DAMMIT! she still tripped. even when i would introduce them, TRIPPERZZZZ!
but she's somewhat ok now. cause she's met all the females i know, just about. the ones she hasnt met, i never see. nor do i care to. i keep a tight circle. and BC, kendra, divina are the 3 that i'm most likely to see. and she's met them all. so it's GOOOOD!
i did that same exact thing..and i dnt get wth is going on, shits got me wildn out..ima give it anutha week and if she still actin all brand new and ish...thats a rap
weight it before you say it dawg....thats my advice....
sometimes i feel that certain women would be more than happy if you just forget TOTALLY about the rest of the world and focus COMPLETELY on them. i.e. lose old/new friends,family and just work and come home and cater to them. all the while, they can associate with whomever. you just sit your ass at home PBS!! your all hers!!!
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