+ reps for you, John, as well as everyone offering good advice/well wishes!

My parents were in the same situation, and got "lucky" when a coworker of my dad's mentioned that her sister (who was then in college) was pregnant unexpectedly... my parents set up a meeting with her and 9 months later I was born and adopted at birth. It's really great that you're looking for someone to help like that... saving two lives and getting a great gift in return. Props! I'll keep an ear out for someone to help you out!